Stabby Saturday

JNerd

Noticed no one had started this yet and decided I couldn't hold it it.

I am Stabby that my son headbutts me when he is frustrated or doesn't want to do what I am asking him to do. Mostly this happens around bed time and naps. Most recently he gave me a fat lip while trying to get him down to sleep. I get so frustrated because I don't know how to handle him when he gets like that and he is very strong and hurts me.

I am also Stabby at myself because I feel like such a parental failure every night/nap time and I don't know how to make this better. I hate how much I hate naps and bedtime and I'm sure that is translating.

rerasmom10

My coworkers are making me stabby. They've been here 3 hours less than I have and are complaining about having to wait to eat lunch. I will be done in 10 minutes. You can wait!

liberty95

I woke up with a sore throat, so that is making me stabby today. I was so sick during first tri and it started this way. Trying to rest and head it off as much as I can.

tbmadeamistake

@jnerd, that's very similar to why I am stabby today. C is only really violent with me. She's 20 months and hits me, bites me occasionally, jumps on me, pulls my hair, and throws things at me. She doesn't even rough house like that with her dad and even he has commented on it. Its so hard and I don't know how to stop it. Its not all tired in her case. She laughs when I tell her she hurts me, she doesn't respond to time outs, and she doesn't even really react to a stern voice and some distance. I cried about it last night because I don't know what to do. I'm sorry you're also going through this. It sucks.

JNerd

Lilygrace48 said:

@jnerd, that's very similar to why I am stabby today. C is only really violent with me. She's 20 months and hits me, bites me occasionally, jumps on me, pulls my hair, and throws things at me. She doesn't even rough house like that with her dad and even he has commented on it. Its so hard and I don't know how to stop it. Its not all tired in her case. She laughs when I tell her she hurts me, she doesn't respond to time outs, and she doesn't even really react to a stern voice and some distance. I cried about it last night because I don't know what to do. I'm sorry you're also going through this. It sucks.

That sounds about right. We try all the time to tell him what good behaviour is and what bad behaviour is.
We try to give lots of cuddles and attention and time outs when he doesn't listen.
It's so hard and so frustrating and I feel so lost.

If you ever find anything that works let me know. I am at the point where I will try anything.

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chickpea912

My head just my head. Headache when I woke up an all day. DH went to a movie with a friend and I almost called him to come home. Just couldn't deal with my normally very well behaved three year old. But muscled through. Just want to be in my bed all day.

momof5sept18

JNerd said:

Noticed no one had started this yet and decided I couldn't hold it it.

I am Stabby that my son headbutts me when he is frustrated or doesn't want to do what I am asking him to do. Mostly this happens around bed time and naps. Most recently he gave me a fat lip while trying to get him down to sleep. I get so frustrated because I don't know how to handle him when he gets like that and he is very strong and hurts me.

I am also Stabby at myself because I feel like such a parental failure every night/nap time and I don't know how to make this better. I hate how much I hate naps and bedtime and I'm sure that is translating.

I feel your pain @JNerd my DS#1 used to do that when he was 1.5/2 I started blocking with my hand when I knew it was coming and he realized it hurt. Also, I would put him down where he would be completely safe from harm and stay in the room but not within his reach so he couldn't headbutt me or injure me. (He also went through a phase of punching me in the face that I didn't know how to handle besides time outs which didnt always work.) FX he grows out of that stage soon! I was so relieved when DS1 grew out of that.

On another note,
My stabby is my sinusitis is acting up and though I am congested its just nasal swelling so it sucks! Also, my throat was so sore all day until around 2:30 that I could barely whisper but seems to be better. Everytime I get sick its always worst in the morning and makes me super unproductive for the day. Also I've been nauseas all day and I'm not sure if its from m/s coming back or this horrid cold/ flare up. Stabby over.

katekat8721

MegK82 said:

kaceymarie said:

i want to breastfeed & i feel like my mil wanting to buy us a baby breeza formula pro is setting me up for failure & a waste of money.

I would tell her that you don't think you will need it because you plan on nursing and if she insists on buying it, you can always take it back and exchange it for something you actually need.

That's my vote too - just return it! At the least you'd get store credit for other stuff.

My mom's doing the same thing with buying us disposable diapers (we'd like to CD while at home). We'll probably use some and return some.

tbmadeamistake

@jnerd, I definitely will.  I'm wondering if part of it is a ploy for attention.  She'll be fine playing up until she realizes that she doesn't have my full attention, and then she'll flip.  She's not as good at daycare drop off as she once was, so I'm thinking there's some separation anxiety thrown in for fun.  Waiting for her to grow out of it and right now my game plan is to say that it hurts mommy, ow, and then remove myself from her reach.  She hates that.  Of course, sometimes that means she gets mad/frustrated and hits/kicks more...ah well!  Good luck to us both!

JNerd

Thanks @shiggybop and @mommy23munchkins. It's nice to know I'm not alone (and neither is @lilygrace48).
DS is 18months and we have him in a twin bed. He hated his crib and refused to sleep in it once he was 6mon.
We have his room gated and made as safe as possible.
I do try and block his assaults with my hands, but he is lightening fast and super strong so he bests me at time.

I know he lashes out 1) for attention and 2) when he's frustrated. If he is in a stage like that and we leave him in his room he will work himself up even more (he gains energy from crying instead of releasing it- which is why CIO never worked for him).
I'm praying this stage doesn't last too much longer because I don't know if I am strong enough to have this battle night after night, and at nap time on the weekends, let alone deal with this when new baby is here.

kks4471

I'm stabby at the weather.  It was -9* overnight, which froze our water pipes in the garage.  I knew that happened when I couldn't flush the toilet this morning.  We put two space heaters in the garage, and used my hairdryer on the main water pipe.  We do have water back in our faucets now, but I'm terrified that it will happen again tonight, or that a pipe will burst.  Some times I hate being a homeowner!

anordstrWed114947

I'm soo stabby today. Everything seems to be weighing me down today. I switched bank accounts everything has to be changed so I started over a month ago. Everything got screwed up hard core. Greater then life.

Budgeting everything for this year out and I have no idea where I'll get the money for baby insurance daycare and everything else. Bills alone kill me. Student loans eat up half my check. My boyfriend has 4 other kids half his income goes to. I'll get nothing if we stay together. That's a big win there. I need a bigger car as mine will work if its just me and boyfriend but his kids are here half the summer so I will be stuck at home with 5 kids and no way to transport anyone. Can't afford a new car. Mine gets paid off by time baby is here cant afford another car payment. He has a van but I worked hard to get my car. I went to college. Did the right things. I'm just so mad today at the world I think. Sorry if I upset anyone. I just need to scream cuz u can't cry anymore. My apartment never gets or stays clean. My mom is coming to help me. Sick of 4 ungrateful girls who still have Christmas gifts from last year they begged for untouched. I have to take care of them when he is working Saturdays instead of get my stuff done. Can't go out cuz it's -25 and I have to drag 4 kids with me.

Yes I know I did all this to myself but I was promised he would get a second job now I am looking for additional work... Not him.

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh.

Ok. Now I feel a bit better and am going to go angry clean.

Ashes92813

12 inches of snow makes me stabby. I slipped and fell on the packed down snow in my driveway. My hands and knees hurt. Doc said I would be okay which is good. Be careful to my other mamas affect by this a**hole storm named Hercules!

puttyeast

I'm stabby about the older woman that my fiance and I drive around for her errands. It is very sad that he dog passed away recently, but she says she does not want to clean up her house yet because it is like removing the dog. Her dog has been pooping on the carpet for about 6 months and she never cleaned it up. I stopped going in the house when this started but couldn't even be around her for awhile because she smelled so bad (and being in 1st trimester made it even worse for me). She talks about how she is so excited to hold the baby, but I've been holding off on telling her she will not be able to do that as long as the dog feces fumes are still present. Remove the dog shit....seriously.

elsa1688

My little sister makes me so stabby. Even 2 states away. Every time I talk to her I am so happy baby is a boy.

Eta missing words.

Lianneferrick

Feeling stabby towards my dog, DH and I just moved in to a new place in CT and I can totally understand it's going to take some time for her to adjust but it's been like two weeks now and she has never had to be kenneled since she was a puppy and she's 4 now. The first time we left the house she pooped and peed in the guest room so we figured it was a fluke thing since it's a new place well now she has done it a few times so DH went and got gates last night and gated her in the kitchen well she broke through the gate and then again peed and pooped in the room. She spends significant time out on her lead and DH walks her for an hour once a day. I hate to confine her to a kennel but it is seeming like it's the only option left

Runningmomfam

I am stabby about working on Monday. It's going to be so cold in mn. Schools are cancelled and people should just stay home from work too.

chloephoebecali

Dh has a man cold with the most annoying cough. Every time he coughs I am startled and the bed shakes. I feel bad (kinda) but he slept all day while I managed the kids and now he will stay up late to watch tv. Last night I finally had to sleep in ds's room (his big boy bed is set up next to his crib, but he still wants his crib). It was 2am and I barely slept and his bed is so hard and a twin. I have a feeling I'll end up there again tonight or head to DD's room and share her full, which is not much better. I wish Dh would sleep on the couch. I'm not feeling so hot myself.

puttyeast

Merie412 said:

puttyeast said:

I'm stabby about the older woman that my fiance and I drive around for her errands. It is very sad that he dog passed away recently, but she says she does not want to clean up her house yet because it is like removing the dog. Her dog has been pooping on the carpet for about 6 months and she never cleaned it up. I stopped going in the house when this started but couldn't even be around her for awhile because she smelled so bad (and being in 1st trimester made it even worse for me). She talks about how she is so excited to hold the baby, but I've been holding off on telling her she will not be able to do that as long as the dog feces fumes are still present. Remove the dog shit....seriously.

Um. Ew??

Thank you for summing up my feelings with Steve Urkel. But yeah, she's a hoarder and it's disgusting.

JulieSmiles

I'm stabby at DH (dickhead) today. We just had Christmas with his family. Right before we left, I put on a shirt that hugged my belly a little. I asked him if I looked fat. He made this horrible grimace, and then said, "it hugs a lot on your stomach." I know I'm a little emotional right now,but the nasty look made me feel like a cow. Then, he got mad at me for being upset. I'm also stabby at my crazy SIL. Her 4-year old is still in diapers and drinks milk from a bottle. He is 4. He threw a screaming fit for someone to get him a bottle. If he can throw a fit like that, he doesn't need the bottle.

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