Am I going to be the first to broach this TMI subject?

undercoverst

I'm really trying to love being pregnant but it's getting hard. The ONE thing I wanted to skip during pregnancy was hemorrhoids..... well guess my luck ran out. I am on the verge of tears all the time now. I was already having really bad RLP complete with stabbing vaginal pain. Now this. I feel like I should be incredibly embarrassed about this. Like I did something wrong to get them.

I'm not sure if there is a point to this post except maybe to let someone else out there know there not alone? bleh.

I don't feel like I can really tell many people about my struggles with this pregnancy since everyone considers it a miracle pregnancy (kinda is) and because of that I feel like I don't have the right to share my struggles with anyone but my husband. We had just gotten on the waiting list for domestic infant adoption when we found out I was pregnant. We had already planned on resuming our adoption once this one is a year old but now I know for sure that I want the rest of my children to come to our home through adoption.

Wow, this is long and rambley! In summery hemorrhoids suck!!!!

Miles2Go

Hemi Power!

Nothing is tmi here. And I doubt very many of us will get away without one in the end.

Solidarity, sister. Ya ya.

ykristos

Ugh, I'm sorry you're dealing with those. I don't have any experience, BUT I wanted to tell you that you're certainly not alone. My SIL had been trying to conceive for a year, and was just starting to see a fertility specialist. She wound up in the emergency room because she had been constipated for days and was bleeding and that's how she found out she was pregnant-- she's still dealing with hemorrhoids. Anyway, you certainly haven't done anything wrong -- we are all get different "symptoms" in varying degrees-- unfortunately, this is one of yours Communicate with your doc about it if you haven't already, and good luck! 

peachysweet4

I will join you in the hemi corner *hangs head in shame* tucks help for sure. 

deanna1313

They really do suck! I had a really big problem with them a few years before getting pregnant. I haven't had them while pregnant so I can't really give you any advice. What helped me a lot was fiber supplements, but I don't know if you can take them while pregnant. Changing diet and adding more high fiber foods help, but it's easier said than done while pregnant.

I get what you are saying about complaining. I don't blame you for wanting to complain about things, though. Just because you need to vent doesn't mean you aren't more than thankful for your miracle baby:)

Esbi25

Oh my gosh, yes. I has a week or two there when I was backed up like crazy (think it was from using zofran) and my lord!! They were completely out of control, I'll spare you the graphic details of my 30 min bathroom trips... Anyway, mine never really went away totally from DS1, but you really won't notice them after birth except during rare bathroom visits when you're particularly backed up or the opposite :-/

Hooper88

I'm with you there tucks pads are a life saver. I haven't even told my DH about them....it totally grosses me out and they are so annoying!!

KBowen715

Consult your doc- they can remove them in house. They are a real bear.

dogsombrero

I got them at 15 weeks hooray. You are not alone and it felt for a while like I was pooping glass and it did involve crying. Mine are internal andfinger probe by the Dr. to confirm, I'm soo sexy. I will say the Preparation H suppositories I got made sitting easier and I no longer bled whilst pooing. I still get pretty stopped up and use a combo of colace, miralax and fleet glycerin suppositories as needed.

Bootsie327

Unfortunately, I'm no stranger to the 'roids. I like the preparation H wipes (less messy), and also I just up the prune juice when I'm having a flare up, so that it doesn't hurt so much to go. Hang in there...it'll get better!

MissLadyTay

I don't care how miraculous a pregnancy is, I think a pregnant woman is allowed to vent when she needs to! So go ahead. I got a small hemi in first tri when I was really constipated from Zofran. It was horrible. I didn't shit for a week at a time and when I did it was bloody and horribly painful and awful. We really can't win. Fiber helped me and it eventually went away on its own. Fingers crossed yours gets better!

eemiers

I have them! I started drinking green smoothies for breakfast bc I've not been eating well. Huge difference in comfort and inflammation. Plus, if you don't alter your diet or treat them you can get a clot. Clots do not go away on there own and are incredibly painful! Also, if you are like me, stop eating spicy

ns1

Ooh, so sorry you're dealing with this.  Do TMI's exist anymore at this point?  After I had DD this was probably the worse part for me, so of course now they are revisiting me.  I have vowed to try Earth Mama Angel Baby Mama Bottom Balm after this baby, but I think I might have to try it before.  It's for just this issue, but I haven't tried it yet so can't really say if it helps.  I'll let you know if I do cave in.

Lovenyc

Mine were getting really bad..intense itchiness more than burning. My dr prescribed me a life saving cream. There are a few different kinds with hydrocortisone and other ointments. It has helped SOOOOO much. Ask your doctor for RX

runningyogimama

I never had one until giving birth to DD...and then the entire first tri this time! It sucks!

undercoverst

eemiers said:

I have them! I started drinking green smoothies for breakfast bc I've not been eating well. Huge difference in comfort and inflammation. Plus, if you don't alter your diet or treat them you can get a clot. Clots do not go away on there own and are incredibly painful! Also, if you are like me, stop eating spicy

What is your green smoothie recipe?

undercoverst

You guys are awesome! I'm seriously in tears and this time cause I really needed some sappy love and knowledge that I'm not the only one. Thank you! For real.

kalette

I had them with DD. Get yourself some preparation H, its safe and basically a miracle cure. Loved that stuff. I haven't needed it yet this time but I won't hesitate if I do!

MunchkinMoon

Miles2Go said:

Hemi Power!

Nothing is tmi here. And I doubt very many of us will get away without one in the end.

Solidarity, sister. Ya ya.

Haha not sure if it was intended, but that was a great pun!

And yup! I've had Hemies for about a month now. :-/ So I feel you!

Ersulli

So I haven't had them yet while pregnant but I've had them super bad in the past. I use pure witch's hazel... It's the main ingredient in those wipes and way cheaper to buy. At times when mine were really really bad I would put ice on them to numb them and(talk about tmi... My poor husband...)i used to try to "push them in" when in the shower. They heal when they are inside. Sick nasty. I hope you feel better soon!!!

mirdamae03

Oh the beauties of pregnancy. Got my first H while pushing that cute kid you see in my siggy out. That B hung around for quite some time...

honey740

None last time or this time so far, knock on wood. But, I have plenty of other undesirable pregnancy "gifts". One of them being my crazy stretch marks, I guess at least hemmies go away?

ABColeslaw

Dude I still have one from when I had Asher....that might be a problem. 

RedInLove

I have been fortunate so far to not have one, but trust me that if I do, this is the place I will be coming to complain and ask for help!! You are in good, safe company here.

ns1

ABColeslaw said:

Dude I still have one from when I had Asher....that might be a problem. 

Same here from DD. My PP nurse told me hers from her son (then a teenager) still acted up sometimes. The joys!

Dplusbsquared

I had them just prior to getting pregnant this time. The ONLY thing that saved me was making my own Tucks pads. I got a sealable container, added a stack of those cosmetic cotton pads and covered them with witch hazel. They hold more witch hazel than the Tucks pads and are so much cheaper. I'd leave it for an hour or so... however long I could stand having something there... I think I got the idea from Pinterest if you need a "recipe".

DaisyTortilla

I got one after DD was born! It hurt so bad! I would dread going to the bathroom! I am hoping some of these suggestions help!

Courtneyhunter

You are not alone!! There are times when I lay in bed wide awake and miserable. A warm shower always always helps and tucks.

I knew 'roids often come after delivery but I had no idea I'd be dealing with them before!

Stay strong! Lots of water and fiber!

jenb_99

I've never had them, but I have major itching when I'm pregnant, and I get so irritated I bleed. It sucks. I can't imagine actual hemorrhoids, though. You girls are tough!

I also would like to advise you never, EVER to Google hemorrhoids and then flip over to the image side.

deanna1313

I think those tucks pads or the homemade ones only work for external hemorrhoids. I had the internal ones and people always recommended them to me. Wish I could have used them. I guess you have to figure out which you have before deciding on a treatment.

undercoverst

jenb_99 said:

I've never had them, but I have major itching when I'm pregnant, and I get so irritated I bleed. It sucks. I can't imagine actual hemorrhoids, though. You girls are tough!

I also would like to advise you never, EVER to Google hemorrhoids and then flip over to the image side.

yeah I decided to not google them only remedies. lol

RenonUthZhakrin

Also don't feel guilty about being all sunshine and rainbows about being pregnant. I think far too often women are concerned that it will be assumed that if they are not happy with pregnancy/pregnancy symptoms that they are not loving mothers. 

 To hell with that! I love my little one with all my heart already but deeply and sincerely loathe dealing with pregnancy itself. It's normal finding sickness/soreness/physical complications to be unpleasant, you would have to be insane not to @-@; 

flawedpottery

I wish pregnancy was a totally wonderful experience. I will say the Tucks pads and the Preparation H are a great help for me. I agree there's not really anything like TMI on a pregnancy board. 

lauralou3x3

I've had them for many years. They are nothing to be embarrassed about, thy are just veins. Mine don't bother me anymore, even pregnant. Guess I'm used to them. Hang tight, it'll get better!

ho11yday

Didn't get one during my first pregnancy until after delivery. Sucks. Supposedly it should reduce and disappear if I don't exacerbate it. Yeah. Right.

I knew a woman I worked with who had surgery to remover her hemorrhoids. Don't know how much of it is covered by insurance or the recovery time (I just don't remember since it has been so long ago), but I'd definitely consider it later down the line. (I just put it on my plastic surgery wish list: varicose veins, breast reduction and lift, and hemorrhoid removal.)

ns1

Question for those who make their own tucks with witch hazel...what witch hazel do you use.  I can only find things like Dickinson's, which looks like it's not just straight up witch hazel?  Is there somewhere you can find just witch hazel, or can you use something like this?  

giggler25

Sorry to hear this!!!  I think I might be joining the Hemis club.    This is a REALLY stupid question, but how do you know for sure if you have them?  I mean, I think I do, due to bleeding during BMs but it's not like I can see there and I'm certainly not asking DH to look!!  The bleeding just scared the BEJESUS out of me.  Do I ask my OB about this?  Would the OB be the one to look and "diagnose" it for sure?  (I have my 20 week check-up this Friday.)

Baileypearl

I had them with baby #1 and tucks cream, colace and metimucil daily got rid of them!