Baby shower question

Bmlopez3054

Is it common nowadays for guys to go? Who was invited to yours?

ErikaLynn75

I think co-ed showers are more common than in the past, but IMO men would be bored at a traditional shower. If you do co-ed, it should be much different from a traditional baby shower. 

Ziegeficker

Ours was co-ed. With booze!

whimsy515

Mine will have guys, but they're gay. My husband said he and his friends would be bored even though it won't be your typical shower. So I don't know.

MamaLlama14

ErikaLynn75 said:

I think co-ed showers are more common than in the past, but IMO men would be bored at a traditional shower. If you do co-ed, it should be much different from a traditional baby shower. 

This.  I've been to several co-ed showers.  The ones that were more casual, BBQ-like and catered to the male guests more were a better party.  the ones that were planned as traditional showers- with games, gift opening and all- were uncomfortable for the men and awkward for the women.  At one, the men circled around a flat screen and played XBox (loudly) while getting drunk as the older women tried to play a round of baby shower bingo.

jschwind22

My husband is going to come to part of the shower.  He is going to come for the gift opening and to greet/thank everyone.

ajsweeton

My husband wants to be there, but he's really a minority about these things. Poor man has had to go to a lot of showers for his sisters too so he figured if he was at theirs he's going to be at ours too! Plus I need him to carry everything and maybe help open things if we get big gifts. As big as I am right now I'm sure that in 6 weeks I'll be as big as a house.

Luckyu317

Not having one this around since I'm a STM. For my shower with DS, it was all women until the end. My husband and a few other guys came towards the very end to eat, help clean up and load gifts into the car.

Tkhixen

Apparently I am having 3 showers.  I guess it's a Southern thing to have a few?  Not sure, but I know that my grade level team is throwing one for me at school.  It will be right after school in the media center and just teachers.  DH won't come, but my mom may.  Then, my aunt (mom's sister) and my mom are hosting the traditional type of girl shower where you play games and eat finger foods.  That one will hopefully be small as well. Then, my DH's friends are hosting a baby PARTY.  That will be the co-ed one.  It will be a BBQ, with games though...drinking games! They have been talking about this for a few weeks now.  My DH is the first of all his friends to have a child, so they are really excited.  Plus, it's really just an excuse for a party.  We are very fortunate to have so many people that are willing to do showers for us.   

LeeLee86

I'm having 2. AW I know.. One is for work, some friends clients and co-workers. It's also a kind of going away party since I'm leaving the job. That's the traditional one.
The 2nd is the family one it will be a huge party, co-ed, booze, dancing and only easy fun games the "only if you want to play" kind.
I didn't get a bridal shower so I'm using that as my excuse....

candrew05

jschwind22 said:

My husband is going to come to part of the shower.  He is going to come for the gift opening and to greet/thank everyone.

MH made an appearance at my bridal shower to say hello and thank you to all the guests. I didnt know he was planning on doing that but I can say in confidence all the woman loved it and appreciated his appearance.

I agree with most pp saying if its the traditional style baby shower most guys would be bored. But done more as a gathering/bbq party then why not?!
My shower will be after baby's arrival and it'll be more of a "meet the baby" get together done with mostly family including guys. No games or tiny finger sandwhich food lol.

Turn4Cindy

It is much more common for men to join these days, but I gotta tell you the ones I've been to that include boys, they are still bored. There was one with drinking out of a bottle, with the ladies holding the baby bottles while the men chugged... But that took less than 5 min and the men were back to being bored. My husband hates going to baby showers. I'm gonna get his guy friends together so they can have a BBQ and drink to celebrate. He's happy with that. He will also show up at the end of mine for gifts, say thanks and greet.

ThereBeDragons

I don't have any particulars set p for mine yet (we'll probably wait until 24 weeks to start planning) but I've been to a few baby showers. Most seem to be ladies-only. But recently DH got invited along to my BFFs baby shower- which was perfectly reasonable given that DH and I were both her friends before we started dating/got married- we even gave his present/my present/our present. Along with a few other guy friends of the mom to be and her dad.

Were they bored? Probably. But baby showers aren't exactly highly stimulating events for anyone. It was nice to have my DH there (especially since I was still pretty emotionally damaged from my late loss- I'd have been due within a month of BFF and getting through all the baby run up for her was really hard). And it limited the number of stupid games and boring family/baby-centric gossip in favor of current event/good book gossip which was really refreshing.

Don't get me wrong, I love babies- but for those of us without babies and the husbands- it was so nice to have the option to not be lost in a sea of labor and poop stories.

I'd like to go co-ed with my shower... but I think it'll really depend on who decides to host. Or if I wind up with two showers. DH has a really huge close-knit family so doing co-ed would make it really hard to fit so many people with my family and friends included. So maybe girls-only and do one huge shower- or two smaller showers with some portion co-ed. '

I'm not planning though... so while I get some input- it's not really up to me to dictate that it's a giant co-ed shower that we have to host at a public park for... or ladies only that fits comfortably in someone's house. Whatever my hosts prefer is good for me.

Miles2Go

My husband came to mine. He wanted to eat the party food and felt that the gifts weren't JUST for me, so he wanted to be there to share in the gift opening. His dad came, too, because he had actually paid for most of the venue cost. It wasn't strange for them, or the guests.