Hate being touched... And feeling guilty about it.

Elena7725

I love my husband more than life itself. I should start by saying that. I'm noticing during my pregnancy that I've had an increase in sensitivity to being touched, feeling his facial hair when he hugs me, just an overall "ahhh get off me" kind of feeling! How terrible is that? I feel guilty about it but don't yet know what to attribute it to...hormones maybe?

I haven't been "moody", over emotional, nothing. Very happy, well-adjusted, great marriage, loving life, etc. Just don't want to be touched!

Shell+Bell

Oh I hear ya. I can't stand my hubby's facial hair on my shoulder or head (he's much taller). It's prickly and annoying. I've been after him for years to shave, but he refuses and I've been uber itchy this pregnancy so anytime he touches my back he HAS to scratch, or if he brushes my arm/leg he gets a seat because now I have to scratch.

The whiskers on me has always been an issue, so I can't blame that on hormones. But I'm not typically itchy, so the swatting is new, and probably from some sort of hormone thing.

kristine526

When I get pricked by DH's facial hair, I want to punch him. I just can't deal with it. I understand though. I use to be a very touchy person, and while during the day, I usually am, at night, if he wants to snuggle, he's going to have to do it with the dog. I toss and turn so much and him with his arm draped over me, or his legs all up in mine makes me lose my mind.

RedInLove

I'm not usually a super touchy-feely-gaga type. Sometimes I get annoyed when DH wants to cop a feel when walking by, because he's often interrupting me doing something. But, he has started to touch my belly, and for him to show excitement about my belly growing, it makes me happy. He's very supportive, he's all in with the baby, etc. We're just in general not the outwardly emotional type (no crying at movies, for example) and DH is very much a realistic thinker so he tends to outwardly focus on logistics, finances, my well being, taking care of business, etc. So for his playful grabbing to sometimes involve my growing belly and not my butt or boobs, I'm more OK with it now. Strange, I know!

sthomas1222

DH hasn't gotten any since we got pregnant... Poor man. Maybe if I stop feeling like I've been kicked repeatedly in the crotch... I just don't want my personal space invaded much at all right now either. Maybe it's the holidays making me crabby like usual or amplified by the hormones. Thankfully he's understanding.

Allibob

Ugh, this is me. I feel really bad for MH, because he's been getting very self conscious/I don't love him from it (despite my verbal reassurance). I try to compromise here & there, but I really want no touching ever. I was so horny last pregnancy, I don't know what the deal is!

ABColeslaw

I don't do the pregnancy affection thing.  My H also gets zero sex and very little cuddle time.  Dude I just don't want it. 

SNOakes

I feel the same way, and feel awful about it. I don't want to be touched, kissed, or even hugged. I wasn't like this before I got pregnant. It's like my skin is crawling every time he even tries to hug me. I don't have advice, as I am obviously in the same predicament, but just wanted to say that you aren't alone, and this too shall pass.

MrsT2008

I am there with you, 100%.  Both last pregnancy and this one.  It's like I'm hypersensitive to touch, so I just prefer not to be touched at all.  I feel bad for MH because he'll just try to rub my leg or something and I'm telling him not to touch me.

EricaKlag

You are not alone.

Mimaloo

Ugh - facial hair is the worst even when I'm not pregnant.  

Christinaruth74

ya, i was struggling with this last night when DH wanted a makeout sesh before the deed.

i kept pulling away and he was all, "what? do i smell?" poor guy.  i just wasn't feeling 'the heat of the moment' i guess.

but it comes and goes....but mostly it's just gone.
hoping things turn around soon!  we're still newlyweds!

hatrats

I have been extra snuggly lately, but when it is time to go to sleep, I am like, OK, get off me and get the f over there on that side of the bed.

pandadair

Christinaruth74 said:

ya, i was struggling with this last night when DH wanted a makeout sesh before the deed.

i kept pulling away and he was all, "what? do i smell?" poor guy.  i just wasn't feeling 'the heat of the moment' i guess.

but it comes and goes....but mostly it's just gone.
hoping things turn around soon!  we're still newlyweds!

I do this all the time! For some reason I just have nooooo interest in kissing. I feel like my face is getting smothered. Like, can't we just bang it out and go to bed? Not that we used to have sex all the time, but I'm definitely feeling it much less than I was before.