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It's official. BFP :) no signs of PG either. Question: when do you tell?

I broke down and peedOAS on Wed night because I was really nervous. I have absolutely no pregnancy symptoms. Im not tired, my boobs are the same size, I'm actually full of energy. Last time I had a ton of signs. Well, it was a bright pink line 7dp5dt and Fri. was my beta to confirm. My level was 396. 100x higher than my last bfp which was a 30. 2nd beta is tomorrow. Hopefully we'll get great news for my husband's birthday. Still being cautiously optimistic because last time was a huge disappointment. If the news is good tmrw I'd really love to share the good news with my immediate family on Christmas. I figure they'll get it when I'm not drinking wine anyway. We made the mistake of sharing too early last time but we were really naive. Now that we've got a more realistic idea of things, I feel like I should tell them so they can be cautiously optimistic with us. Thoughts?
me: 30 DH: 33 Married since 7-20-2012
IUI w Clomid fail 9/13
started first IVF cycle Menopur and Follistim 10/13
ER 11/4/13
13 E 8 fertilized 
5dt 1 blast 5 frozen 11/9/13. 9 day wait w progesterone (Crinone gel) 11/18 BFP! 30 11/20 down to 10 11/22 MC confirmed. 12/11-FET # 1: 2 5 day blasts 12/20: BFP! Beta 1: 396 12/23: Beta 2:1666 12/30: first u/s: twins! 1/7: baby a heartbeat: 117bpm baby b: slower development, heart's beating but too small to hear it.
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Re: It's official. BFP :) no signs of PG either. Question: when do you tell?

  • Congratulations!

    I would tell my immediate family about a BFP right away, because I would want their support if it didn't result in a take home baby. And I would definitely share it at Christmas regardless of timing.
    Pregnancy Ticker

    TTC #1 since June 2012
    Me (28) - DOR (AFC <10, undetectable AMH, >10 FSH), homozygous E429A MTHFR
    DH (29) - MFI low count and morphology

    September 2013 IUI#1 - Clomid + Trigger + IUI = BFN
    October 2013 IUI#2 - Letrozole + Menopur + Trigger + IUI = BFN

    Nov 2013 IVF/ICSI #1 - Protocol: BCP prep, high doses Menopur and Bravelle (12 days), ganirelex
    Results: 5 retrieved / mature, 4 fertilized, 1 arrested and 3 complex abnormal after day 3 PGS = Cancelled after ER
    Jan/Feb 2014 IVF/ICSI #2 - Protocol: Estrogen priming, high doses Menopur and Bravelle (11 days), microdose lupron
    Results: Cancelled after 11 days of stims due to low response and E2 levels
    Feb 2014 IVF/ICSI #3 - Protocol: No prep, low dose Menopur (6 days), ganirelex, Bravelle booster with trigger
    Results: 1 retrieved / 0 mature = Cancelled after ER

    Officially moving on to embryo adoption! We used and love Embryo Adoption Services of Cedar Park
    October 2014 FET #1 - BCP/Lupron/Estrace/Prometrium, transferred 2 of 4 from match #1, BFN
    December 2014 FET #2 - BCP/Lupron/Estrace/Prometrium, transferred 2 of 4 from match #1, BFN
    March 2015 FET #3 - BCP/Lupron/Estrace/Prometrium, transferred 2 of 6 from match #2, BFN
    May 2015 FET #4 - BCP/Lupron/Estrace/Prometrium, lost 2 to thaw, transferred 2 of 6 from match #2, BFN
    October 2015 FET #5 - Natural cycle, lost 1 from match #3 and 1 from clinic backup to thaw, transferred 1 backup, BFN
    February 2016 FET #6 - Natural cycle, transferred 1 from match #4, B FREAKING P!
    Beta 1 = 162, Beta 2 = 316, doubling just over 48 hours


  • Yay congrats!! That is a really strong Beta! My last cycle did not end ideally last time either, and I did not share early, but I did share after I lost him. I felt like I took away a little of the joy by not sharing earlier. This time I will tell them but for them to be cautiously optimistic. I say share the wonderful news and let them support you and be happy and excited with you. Congrats! Merry Christmas to you!!! :)
    ******************** BFP Warning *******************
    I'm 29 and DH is 32 we have a MFI (low count) 
    IVF #1 starting in August. ER 9/5/13 23 eggs we are fertilizing 15. 9 frozen
    ET 9/10 - transferred 1 perfect 5AA blast
    7dp5dt BFP ~~ Beta on 9/19 - 77.4 Beta #2 on 9/21 - 357
    Low heartbeat on 10/7 86, lower heartbeat on 10/11 76, no heartbeat 10/14/13. D&C 10/15/13
    Tests revealed MTHFR c677t mutation, put on Folgard.
    FET #1 1/6/14 - 4BB blast - BFN
    FET #2 - 3/3/14 - 5AB Blast -- Beta #1 3/12 - 152 -- Beta #2 3/14 - 358
    FET #3 06/09/16 - 5AB Blast - Beta #1 6/18- 245 -- Beta #2 06/20 - 600
     PAIF/SAIF/PAL/SAL welcome!

  • Congrats!!!


     All Welcome :)


    ***Losses mentioned***

    ***TTC since June 2011
    ***DH to see urologist Feb. 2013
    ***BFP #1: Feb. 2nd, 2013; M/C #1: Feb. 12th, 2013 @ 5w3d :'(
    ***1st RE appt. April 10th, 2013
    ***IUIs #1-4 all failed
    ***IVF Consult October 7th, 2013
    ***IVF #1- January 2014: ER 1/20, ET of 2 embryos 1/23, Beta 2/5 *none to freeze*

    ***Feb 14th, 2014- M/C #2 @ 5w5d :'(

    ***RPL Bloodwork---- diagnosed with Factor V Leiden and MTHFR

    ***appt. w/ Genetic Counselor- April 18th

    ***hysteroscopy/laparoscopy scheduled for May 22nd- looks good

    ***IVF #2- July 2014

    ***7/26 Retrieval- 3 eggs :( , 2 fertilized :), none to freeze

    ***7/28 ET- 2dt of 2 embryos, stick little embies!!!

    ***8/11 beta- BFN :(

    ***WTF- DE IVF best option now

    ***DE IVF- January 2015




    imageMissing my 5 angels

  • Congratulations!  I am currently 6 weeks and we have told my mom and dhs mom but that's it and we are waiting to tell the rest of the family closer to 10 weeks.  I would LOVE to tell family for Christmas but I'm just way too nervous and want to wait until after we hear the heartbeat.  You definitely need to do what's best for you though...everyone is different.

    Me 28 DH 30

    After 4+ years TTC

    FET #2 = DS Madden Jeffery <3 July 29, 2014 <3
  • Congrats and I wish your DH a Happy Birthday!  I personally would share with my immediate family on Christmas

    (sorry, siggy doesn't update no matter how many times I hit save)
    Me: 32, DH: 34.
    Trying since Jan 2011. Unexplained IF.
    2 IUIs = BFN.
    1 IVF (Dec 2013) = BFN.
    FET, 2 frosties (June 13, 2014)

    14dp5dt-June 27 -BFP, beta 2061. 2nd beta >5000, 3rd beta >5000, 2 sacs 06/30.
    Twin Girls - 02/11/15 - at 37 weeks (no NICU, home with me at 3 days).
  • Congrats! Thats a strong BETA. Me personally I would not share on xmas.  I wouldn't feel comfortable sharing with anyone until I heard the heartbeat.  I won't be drinking on xmas either bc I'm in the 2ww so my family can think whatever they want.

    Best of luck on your second beta!

    DX: Unexplained
    6 Failed IUIs (Clomid and Gonal F).  
    IVF #1 began August 2013- BC, 4 days of Estrace, stimmed with Gonal F and Menopur, Ganirelix, 9R 5M 5F, Medrol and Doxycycline, 5 day transfer of 2 early blastocysts- good quality, Progesterone, Estrace, and baby aspirin, BETA on 9/20 BFN,   IVF #2 began September 2013, stimming with Gonal F (higher dose) and Menopur, Ganirelix, 18R 14M 9F with ICSI, 5 day transfer of 2 BBs one was starting to hatch, 2 frosties: 1  BB and 1 AC, BETA on 10/21, BFN BETA was a 5- chemical 
    Getting some more testing and trying to figure out what the issue is before FET in December, started acupuncture on 11/10, RLP and some other BW nothing major to report except slightly high Prolactin. Prolactin was slightly high when I started with my RE and I already had an MRI which was Neg.  Endo biopsy=negative.  WTF is wrong with us???
    12/18/13 FET of 1 BB and 1 AC.  Hoping for a miracle.  Beta 12/26 Low BETA-8 2nd BETA 5- chemical
    After 3 failed transfers IDK where to go from here.  Still no real answers as to why this isn't working.  Getting a second opinion in February and looking into immune testing.  
    2/14- NEW RE- Immune testing showed a partial dq alpha match with DH- On prednisone and did intralipids prior to transfer.  3/14 Lupron, gonal f, menopur, HGH.  ER 15 mature all 15 fertilized!  5dt of an early blast grade 1 and an expanded blast grade 2.  BETA on 4/21.  1 grade 2 embryo frozen
    BETA #1 59 BETA #2 148 BETA #3 283 BETA #4 2,783! US at 6w2d shows 1 bean measuring right on track! HR 121.  US at 8w3d measuring on track HR 177. Released form my RE.  EDD 12/28

    All Welcome
  • Congrats!!!
    Me: 36, unexplained 
    Him: 36, slightly low count 
    TTC since May 2011 
    IUI #1 w/Clomid - 10/2012 BFN 
    Break for cysts 
    IUI #2 w/Clomid - 12/2012 BFN 
    Break for cysts 
    IUI #3 w/Clomid - 2/2013 BFN 
    Break for sanity and to work on health with diet, exercise, and acupuncture 
    IVF/ICSI #1 - BCP, 150 Follistim, 150 Menopur, and Ganirelix
    Retrieval 9/11/2013 - 31 eggs, 17 fertilized, 3 blasts frozen 
    Transfer cancelled - Moderate OHSS 
    FET #1 - 10/22/2013 Transferred 2 (1 did not survive thaw) BFP resulted in CP 
    IVF/ICSI #2 - EPP - Starting stims 1/5/2014 (100 Follistim, 150 Menopur)
    All welcome!

  • Congratulations!! I would tell my mom and my sister right away.. The rest of my close family after a strong heartbeat.
  • Congrats! I am planning to share earlier this time around. We only told really close friends and my sisters initially. We were planning to tell my parents after 10 weeks and then I had a miscarriage just before the 10 week mark. It was really rough having to call my parents and tell them that I had been pregnant but wasn't anymore.

    TTC#1 since 5/2011
    DX: Hypothyroidism, PCOS, Myasthenia Gravis, Aplastic Anemia, one copy MTHFR DH SA: count 52% motility (slow progressive), 0% normal morph
    June-July 2012: Clomid cycles=BFNs
    August 2012: New RE, started Metformin, Letrozole 7.5mg+TI=BFN Sept. 2012: IUI#1: Letrozole 7.5mg=BFN
    Oct. 2012: IUI#2 Letrozole 7.5mg+Dexamethasone=BFN
    Nov '12-March '13 on a break
    April 2013: IUI#3 Letrozole 7.5mg+Dexamethasone=BFN
    June 2013: IVF#1  Follistim/Menopur/Ganirelix =BFN, 3 Frosties
    August 2013: FET#1=BFP 8/20/13,  EDD 4/30/13, MMC 10/1/13
    December 2013: IVF#2 Follistim/Menopur/Ganirelix=?
     ~PAIF/SAIF Welcome~


  • Congrats!

    ************** Siggy Warning************

    Married August 2012 -- Me (40 yrs old) My husband (45 yrs. old) 

    RE referral from ObGYN in late Jan. 2013 -- Testing Confirms Unexplained IF 

    IUI #"s1 - 3 (Femara + IUI) April - June 2013 - all BFN

      Decided to do IVF... Began stimming on September 10th!  Egg Retrieval 9/20/13.  19 eggs: 6 to mature to freeze after 6 fertilized with ICSI

     3 morula stage embryos transferred on 9/25/13.....Beta #1 on 10/4/13/ = 7.5  Beta #2 on 10/6/13 =  negative

      IVF#2 - Lupron plan  (set to begin on 10/28/13)  (Planning on thawing and fertilizing our 6 eggs with ICSI as well as all of the mature eggs they retrieve with this fresh cycle.)

     Late October 2013 - ectopic pregnancy - methotrexate injection....benched 3 months

    CD1 - 12/5/13...Lupron set to start on 12/26/13; CD1 - 1/2/14....Baseline 1/3/14....begin follistim tonight and continue with lupron.  (Got my calendar today!  IVF#2 is a go!)

    ER = 1/14/14  (11 eggs....9 were mature. 9 fertilized.  Of the 6 mature eggs we thawed, only 4 fertilized.  At this time, we have 13 eggs fertilized and growing.  Waiting for news about a 3-day or 5-day transfer.)

    ET = 1/19/14  (5dt).....3 blastocysts transferred!   (All nine embryos didn't make it to freeze.  =(  )

    Beta #1 = 1/28/14   (2 weeks after ER)  BFP! 209 (9dp5dt)   EDD 10/7/14

    Beta #2 - 1/30/14  (11 dp5dt) 302

    Beta #3 - 2/3/14  (15 dp5dt)  1222 

    Ultrasound set for 2/17/14......TWINS!        Twin A - HR 124 bpm; Twin B - HR 126 bpm

    Final Ultrasound with RE 3/10/14 - Twin A - HR 176 bpm; Twin B - HR 177 bpm.

     PAIF/SAIF Welcome! 






  • Congratulations, lady! Great beta! FX that this is your sticky baby. 

    Me: 28, DH: 35
    DX: Severe MFI, AZFc Microdeletion
    TTC since August 2011
    IVF w/ ICSI 1: Dec. 2013 - BFN
    FET 1.2: Mar. 2014 - BFN
    FET 1.3: May 2014 - BFN
    FET 1.4: June 2014 - BFP
    Two little buns in the oven. 
    Bake until March 2015, little ones. 

    "Life will be clearer around me.
     Life will be more burdensome for me. 
    Life will be richer for me." 
    -Rudolf Steiner
  • Congrats!!!!
    Me: 30 DH: 30 ~ TTC #1 Since August 2011 
    BFP #1 2/28/13, Ectopic, Tubal surgery 3/25 
    Began RE testing 8/8, Dx Unexplained, 
    IUI #1 11/1=BFN Moving on to IVF 
    IVF #1 12/2 ER 8R 7M 4 fertilized
    12/7 Transferred 2 "perfect" little blasts 12/17 BFN
    New DX= DOR, I fu*kng hate IF
    1/14 Hysteroscopy, new clean uterus!
    IVF #2: bcp, Lupron, follistim 300, menopur 225. 2/21 8R 4M 3F. 3dt of 2 perfect embryos. 1 little penguin 
     3/10 BFFN
    Regrouping. Seeing reproductive immunologist Dr. Kwak Kim 6/10 
    Kwak Kim protocol: Metformin 1000mg, vitamin D 4000iu, vitamin E 400iu, baby aspirin, Metanx, levothyroxine 75mcgs 
     Surprise BFP 9/21!!! Beta #1 247, Beta #2 630. Miscarried 10/13

  • Congratulations!  And I wouldn't worry about not having any PG symptoms, most everything I've read says most women don't start feeling any symptoms until 6 weeks.  As for telling, it's up to you--if you would want to share any bad news with them, then no harm in telling them the positive news now.  We are personally waiting to tell everyone, just don't want to be too open until everything is more set in motion. 
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  • Congrats!  I personally would wait a bit more since I had a previous loss.... atleast until I saw a heartbeat but if it is the only time in the next month or so that your whole family is together It would be so conflicting!   Good luck on whatever you decide!
    ***siggy/ticker warning***

    Me:36 DH:38 TTC#1 since 4/2012
    Me DX: Hashimotos,Hypothyroid, DOR, MTHFR,  DH: normal

     IUI #1-#4 BFNs and a few cancelled cycles in the mix.
    - poor responder
    ***Suprise BFP on 6/13/13. Natural MC @6wks 3days
    IVF#1 and 2- Cancelled due to no response on max stimms
    FET 5/20- BFP
    1st Beta- 641
    2nd beta- 2166
    Sono- TWINS!!!!
    Two Boys! Born January 2015 @36 weeks.  Healthy and no NICU!  So blessed!


  • Congrats!!
    Me: 35  low AMH, normal FSH
    DH: 31 Fair DNA fragmentation test :( Normal SA
    TTC: since March 2012

    09-21-13 start IVF #1
    10-04-13 ER 6 eggs, 6 mature, all 6 fertilized. 3 frozen
    10-08-13 fresh transfer canceled due to high progesterone
    waiting for FET
    10-18 started BCP
    10-29 baseline appt scheduled
    11-20 scheduled date of FET #1
    12-2 BFN :(

    3-1-14 moving on to the next step. Switched RE. going to plan 3 IUI cycles while saving for IVF#2

    April 2014- IUI#1  BFN
    May 2014- IUI#2 BFN
    June 2014 IUI#3 BFN

    Taking a break for a while, focusing on our wedding.

    Sept 24th missed period! Surprise natural BFP
    10-15-14 first ultrasound
    06-05-15 EDD


  • First of all congrats!!! Thats an awesome first beta! I agree with sk8terwoman, if worst case scenario you had to tell them bad news and were ok with them knowing then go ahead and share the good news now. For me, I don't want to say a Peep until I'm 12 weeks, mainly because I've never had an actual pregnancy, other than 2 cp's and those betas were rly low so I never got to get excited anyway. Its easier for me to deal with bad news with just my DH. Im tired of giving ppl the excuse of saying "they mean well" I would rather avoid any situation of them (esp the inlaws) saying something insensitive and hurtful when im trying to cope with whats going on.
    Me: 27 High FSH (POF?) DH: 33 Slightly Low Morphology / Married Aug '08 TTC since 7/2009
    6 rounds of clomid = no luck
    IVF w/ ICSI & AZH #1 - Jan/2011 = ET cancelled OHSS
    FET #1 & #2 - March/2011 & June/2011 = Chemical Preg.
    IVF w/ Half ICSI #2 New RE - May/2012 = BFN!
    May '12 - Sep '13 - Took A Break
    Dec '13 IVF w/ Half ICSI #3!!!!! Switched RE
    Protocol - Lupron trigger/Follistim/Ganirelix/Estrace/Vivelle/Crinone
    12/27 - BFP! TWINS! EDD 9/3/14 ...Team PURPLE!
    - Emergency C/S @ 30w2d - Baby A 2lb 14oz, Baby B 2lb 11 oz
  • We got our first BFP this past weekend and we told our families right away.  They know everything we are going through and have been so supportive and they had been waiting with bated breath to hear any news.  My Aunt and Uncle actually payed for our IVF so I was definitely going to tell them.  I figure if my pregnancy ends in a C/P or miscarriage I would want their support anyways so I wasn't afraid to tell family.  
    ****************SIGGY WARNING*****************

    TTC Since 3/12
    Me (27): Blocked right tube
    DH (29): Low motility and morphology & slightly Low T
    50 mg Clomid=BFN
    5/13: 50 mg Clomid=BFN
    6/13: 50 mg Clomid=BFN
    7/13: 100mg Clomid=BFN
    12/13: IVF w/ ICSI (BCP, Lupron, Gonal-F, Low-dose HCG, Pregnyl)
    ER 12/10/13 19R, 6M, 4F (all 4 made it to day 5)
    Lining at 13mm
    ET 12/15/13 5dt of 2 Perfect Embryos
    2 Frosties
    First Ever BFP on 12/21 at 6dp5dt
    Beta #1: 12/23 8dp5dt- 170
    Beta #2: 12/26 11dp5dt- 461
    Beta #3: 1/2 18dp5dt- 6,840
    1st u/s on 1/13 showed TWINS!
    EDD 9/2/14
    U/S on 3/21 revealed TWIN BOYS!

  • Congrats!!!

    For me, I would tell my mom and H's mom right away, and possibly my 3 best friends, since they would know when we were cycling. I can't imagine not having the support if things didn't turn out well.
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    TTC #2 since 8/2012
    Me:28 H:34
    Me: all tests normal!
    H:  Azoospermia (Sperm count zero).
    MFI Urologist all test normal.
    Biopsy Feb. 14

  • Congratulations!!!
    TTC since May 2012
    Me: 32 H: 31
    DX: MFI-Very Low Count, I have Hashimotos.
    IVF prep September 2013 cancelled due to Ovarian Cyst
    IVF #1 October 2013 Antagonistic Protocol with ICSI  ER 10/31/13 (18R 16M 11F- 6 blasts to freeze)
    ET delayed due to OHSS 
    FET scheduled for July 8. Delayed due to a crazy high TSH (it had been under control for YEARS!)
    FET #1 8/5/14 sET BFN 

    All welcome!
  • Thanks for the advice ladies! 2nd beta was 1666! I actually made a dumb mistake today. I printed pics of my positive pregnancy test to give to our moms, and left them at my mom's accidentally so she and my sis found them. So much for a secret or a surprise!
    me: 30 DH: 33 Married since 7-20-2012
    IUI w Clomid fail 9/13
    started first IVF cycle Menopur and Follistim 10/13
    ER 11/4/13
    13 E 8 fertilized 
    5dt 1 blast 5 frozen 11/9/13. 9 day wait w progesterone (Crinone gel) 11/18 BFP! 30 11/20 down to 10 11/22 MC confirmed. 12/11-FET # 1: 2 5 day blasts 12/20: BFP! Beta 1: 396 12/23: Beta 2:1666 12/30: first u/s: twins! 1/7: baby a heartbeat: 117bpm baby b: slower development, heart's beating but too small to hear it.
    BabyFruit Ticker

  • Great second beta. Congrats!

    DH 38- Low Everything
    Me 33- AMH .9
    Married 11 years
    2002-current IUIs, meds, natural = All BFN

    Aug. '13  Attempt at IVF #1 with Lurpon Flare- Canceled due to ovulation through Lupron.
    Sept. '13 - We will try again with EPP.

    October '13 Started BCP for December IVF. Long Lupron protocol. Canceled due to ovulation through Lupron.

    April '14 Planning IVF attempt #3. Adding Cetrotide. Doc consult at the end of this month. 


  • Congrats!
    TTC Since 2012
    Me: Endo Stage IV (20+yrs) (who knew? Not me)
    MyLove: Pretty Ok. Low #s (i think) 
    IVF#1: No Eggs to Retrieve
    Taking time to ourselves
     Poor Responder will add COQ10 & DHEA next cycle
    **All Welcome**


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