@lest12

MrsCase1

So...is Christmas still cancelled?

lest12

Ha. No, Christmas is on, but my sister and her fiance have declined to come to our house on Christmas Eve like we had planned.

I called and apologized for telling her I didn't want to be in her wedding, but let her know I was still hurt. She wouldn't answer the phone so I left her a voicemail. Then she told my mother she didn't want to come to my house.

At this point, I don't even care. I still think they are jerks for not including my husband. He's upset and I'm left to do the damage control. I get that it is their wedding, but when you make decisions that you know hurt the people you love, then you have to deal with those repercussions. She doesn't want to deal with it, I can't do anything about it. I'm sure she'll get over it eventually.

Sorry for going on a rant again!

MrsCase1

Somehow I missed the part about you telling her you no longer wanted to be in her wedding.

If you guys are that close, I think it is is kinda crappy she won't even take your phone call but then runs to your mom to deliver the news that she doesn't want to come to your house!! Maybe she will grow a little during this process. Wah! Lol!

lest12

Yea, I did say that. I was angry. Her fiance hasn't always been the best boyfriend to her and everytime he was an ass, guess who she came to? Me and my DH. So to hear her say too bad for us, it's his decision, just pissed me off. Whatever.

I extended another olive branch last night and texted her about my mom's Christmas gift but got no response, so whatever.

Yea, she'll have to grow up. I think she'll snap out of it and come Christmas Eve. Wah! is right, lol.

MrsCase1

At least you were woman enough to apologize. I 100% agree that people need to accept the consequences of their actions. I hope you still have a nice Christmas. I think it is silly for her to bite off her nose to spite her face. Now she won't be spending the holidays with her people.

lest12

I know but I'm hoping she comes around. She's stubborn!

Thank you I hope you have a good holiday, too!

lest12

No, @cdk211 - you are hitting the nail on the head.

I have no idea what goes on behind closed doors with the two of them (she stopped talking to us about their relationship after he was continuously an ass to her and we would just tell her, leave)... but something isn't right.

She is a totally different person when she's around him - not herself, really quiet, really caters to him. I don't like it but that's just my opinion. She's always walking on eggshells with him, too, like she is afraid to say anything to bother him or start a fight and will do anything to make him happy.

As far as Christmas Eve, I am actually not surprised, we had this whole night planned (first night I'll host our immediate family) and the other day she called to say she didn't know if shed be in time for dinner because she had to go to fiance's uncle's or something. Now she's not coming at all. DH thinks this is all a ploy so that they don't have to ahow up at all - which is very 'not' my sister.

Sorry to go on... it is hard to wrap my head around sometimes. She's a grown-up who needs to make her own decisions, but she's becoming less and less like the sister I've been best friends with forever.

MrsCase1

I actually was thinking the exact same thing as @CDK211!!! Great minds think alike? I hope I am wrong and it is not an issue of him being a controlling or abusive dude. I'm have, like, zero patience for insecure men.