I can stop worrying, right?

FeliciaTwo

I really want to believe that everything is going great and will be just fine, but it's hard for me to not worry.  My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage (Oct 2013) and I had a hell of a time getting pregnant again.  Everything seems to be fine so far, great betas, great heartbeat at 7 weeks, NT scan at 13 weeks looked great with extremely low probabilities for Down's and Trisomy 18.

But I can't help thinking, "what if something went wrong between the last scan and now?"  I can stop worrying now, right?

ncbelle

At some point you kinda have to force yourself to at least back burner the worry.  I mean there's always the chance something could go wrong - even once baby is here.  But I find it best to focus on the fact that right now everything is good and that I'm doing what I can to keep it that way.  The rest, is out of my control and therefore I can't worry about it.

I'm very type A so this is the only way I've survived parenthood

MrsRage

I'm in the same boat right now.. had a great NT scan 2 weeks ago, last week heard the heartbeat.. this week I'm worried again. I'm trying very, very hard to just let go and tell myself everything is fine.

It's much easier said than done.

chaysefaith

The worry never stops, they just become new worries!

But it sounds like you've had some really great positives! Relax and let your hair down a bit. All you can do is be happy that you're still pregnant today, and every day that you're still pregnant is a great day.

I know, it's not easy, but at some point you really do need to relax. The stress isn't good for you or baby

HeyAmberNicole

I try to not worry, as much as educate myself and get familiar with signs that things aren't right.

I'm in my second tri and it was a huge sigh of relief. But now there's new worries. I'm also trying to not worry about the things I can't control. 

Part of being  a mama is worry, you just have to figure out how to cope with it and not let it consume your life

Raquel6714

I know exactly what you're feeling- I lost my first baby due t

MrsRage

KrystaJ said:

Agreed. I'm a huge worrier, but worrying will just make me feel crappy all the time and isn't going to do anything to protect the baby. 

I hit 12 weeks (and had our NT scan) and I told myself I can't worry 24/7 anymore. It's sorta working.

I almost bought a Doppler today but stopped myself. I don't want to be a crazy lady!

Raquel6714

To miscarriage in March. Currently I am 15 weeks, had the NT scan, and am waiting on the final results.
It's also unsettling being in the 2nd trimester and losing a lot of pregnancy symptoms. I keep checking for blood every time I go to the bathroom thinking that I'm having another miscarriage bc of the lack of preg signs.
I've been trying to be optimistic, but at the same time it's difficult when appts are 4 weeks apart!

MrsRage

I don't think there are many symptoms in the second tri..

MollySm

Lucia is 22 months and I still worry every day.  It changes, but doesn't really ever go away.  You just work on managing it and living with it!

lest12

I feel the same way, OP - I've had two mc's and it took a while to get pregnant this time - after every milestone I feel relief for maybe about 2 weeks, then I start thinking about my new appointment and have a new thing to worry about.

I think the PP's have a great point, though.  There will always be something to worry about when you're talking about having a child!  I've been trying to just let go and enjoy. 

FeliciaTwo

lest12 said:

I feel the same way, OP - I've had two mc's and it took a while to get pregnant this time - after every milestone I feel relief for maybe about 2 weeks, then I start thinking about my new appointment and have a new thing to worry about.

I think the PP's have a great point, though.  There will always be something to worry about when you're talking about having a child!  I've been trying to just let go and enjoy. 

Yes!  I have this cycle of feeling great after an ultrasound, then getting more worried, but then noticing more positive symptoms and more optimistic before the next ultrasound.  My last ultrasound was about 2 weeks ago, and the next is in a little over a week, so I'm hoping to start getting optimistic again soon.  :P

You're absolutely right though; the worry never ends, it just changes. . . . I do wish there was an "off" button sometimes though! 

kjohnson1002

I have been a mess the pass two days with worry. Like all of a sudden I feel like things are not good. I have an appt tomorrow which makes me feel better but I have this constant worry like you. I'm not sure how you subside it but I want to be positive. I want to send good vibes to the baby. Not worry vibes. It's so incredibly hard. When you suffer a loss (or 2) it's always in the back of your head. We can do this!

SchoolPsychSteph

I used to worry and still do, but not so much now since I have my doppler. I am that crazy lady that checks every day or every other day. I agree, it never really goes away,just changes.

MrsRahl

SchoolPsychSteph said:

I used to worry and still do, but not so much now since I have my doppler. I am that crazy lady that checks every day or every other day. I agree, it never really goes away,just changes.

Totally this. I used to be sick with worry. Once I got my doppler it was like all worry melted away for me. I use it every night for about 2 minutes. Just enough to get the heart beat and I make sure to turn it off while I found the heart beat for some positive closure. Some people say they obsess and I was worried about that, but it's brought me such an awesome peace during my "no symptoms" weeks

katekat8721

I second the Doppler, best $50 I have spent. Love hearing their heartbeats!

There's always going to be something to worry about mama. Try not to let the fear overtake the happiness.

skyview222

This is my first pregnancy, but I have the same worries especially the days leading up to the next doc appointment.  I have the NT scan tomorrow and I think the universe gave me terrible nausea today to reassure myself that there is most definitely a baby growing.

b48kate

I'm "letting myself" relax after my NT on the 26th...I just can't imagine living at this level of anxiety for six more months.

sjn00

MrsRahl said:

SchoolPsychSteph said:

I used to worry and still do, but not so much now since I have my doppler. I am that crazy lady that checks every day or every other day. I agree, it never really goes away,just changes.

Totally this. I used to be sick with worry. Once I got my doppler it was like all worry melted away for me. I use it every night for about 2 minutes. Just enough to get the heart beat and I make sure to turn it off while I found the heart beat for some positive closure. Some people say they obsess and I was worried about that, but it's brought me such an awesome peace during my "no symptoms" weeks

This exactly!! I have been so less stressed since I have had my doppler at 9 weeks. Any time I am ever unsure I just pull it out and feel 100000% better after hearing that little beat. If I didn't have it, I would have been freaked out so much more. I used it at least once a week, sometimes more if I wake up symptom free, or like over Thanksgiving I was gone for a few days and really pushed myself physically, it was nice to have reassurance when i got home that everything was still okay. I also like to use it the night before a doctors appointment so there are no devistating surprises.