I'm a SAHM to a 3yo and I'm due with #2 in May. My husband works as a heating /air-con (HVAC) tech. We live in Vancouver BC ( the most expensive city to live in) and thought the only way to really get ahead would be for him to work in middle of nowhere northern Alberta. A rotational shift. He'd work 10 days then be home for 10 days ( it would be like mini vacations every 10 days). His pay would double, great benefits and even flights to and from are included. It sounds good & promising but I'd basically be a single mom for 10 days straight. And what's it going to be like with baby#2? I'm lucky that I have family less then 5 min away and have lots of friends around. So I'd have the help. Esp when baby 2 comes along. I'm actually more concerned about how my son will react.
I'm wondering if anyone's husbands work away and how you deal with it. And esp how your children are dealing with it. My son idolizes DH. He does work a lot during the week so DS only sees him about an hour or 2 each day during the week. This way he would have nothing to do during the 10 days he's home. What are your pros and cons?
Re: Does anyone's DH work away from home?
And of course, just as important is how you and your husband feel. Do you think your marriage can comfortably adjust to this new way of life? Do you think you would feel stressed out & resentful of the new demands placed upon you? Would the extra money afford you any extra opportunities at home (a hobby you've been wanting to take up, classes for fun or a degree?) For me, benefits like that would go a long way.
I couldn't do that move. I had a hard time moving from richmond to whiterock. Lol. My family is 5 min away. That makes it easier
Moving to where the job is would never happen. Incredibly remote and cold. It's quite common for tradesman to work in the next Provence duing rotations. The usual time away for most trades are 14-21 days/ 7 off. So the 10/10 is actually pretty good. And he'd have more time off with us in a month then he does now. And the money!! I think that's really the seller.
Good luck! I wish you the best!
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I couldn't do that move. I had a hard time moving from richmond to whiterock. Lol. My family is 5 min away. That makes it easier
Fair enough I get it! It sucks up here haha it's super cold.., I came from Kelowna so I know how you feel
BUT... We do well because of it. With Skype and email we can be in touch. Tons of people in the world work night shifts and miss ever dinner with their family
What is the contract like? If it isn't working for your family after 3 months could he get his old job back?
BFP #1 March 24, 2010; missed m/c May 26, 2010 @ 12w 4d; D&E May 28, 2010
BFP #2 Oct 20, 2010; My little boy was born on July 5, 2011
BFP #3 April 30, 2013; Chemical Pg May 5, 2013
BFP #4 Aug 22, 2013; It's a boy. Loss discovered at 24 weeks on Jan 15, 2014 (cause CMV virus)
BFP #5 April 6, 2014; missed m/c May 15, 2014 @ 9 weeks; Misoprostol May 15, 2014; D&C May June 3, 2014