This is my first child. I found out that I have pregnancy induced high blood pressure and will deliver at 34 weeks more than likely (Jan 31 or first week of February). A friend offered to do a sip and see after the baby comes. Because he will be a preemie and at risk for lung issues (RSV etc), I'm not thinking a sip and see is a good idea.
It was gracious of her to offer, but am I being rude if I politely decline the sip and see? Or am I just being overly/unreasonably cautious?
I agree- not rude. You need to consider your baby's health first and foremost. Just be sure to acknowkedge how sweet she was to offer, but that you decline due to health concerns for your baby. If she's really your friend, she'll understand.
She'd have to offer, but there's no reason that you couldn't do a shower after your LO arrives. You wouldn't have to bring him/her and you may welcome the chance to get out with some adults for an hour or two.
Why can't you hold it later when he's older and you would feel comfortable bringing him? Or have one soon after the birth and leave him home (bring lots of pictures / video instead)? Either way good luck with your delivery and your little guy
I'm sure your friend will understand if you explain it to her. Tell her you'd prefer to wait until the baby is X weeks old until having the event. Then be gracious and let her know that if she thinks that's too late to hold it, it's okay with you.
It's nice that they want to do something for you even under the circumstances, but you're not required to accept.
Re: Ok to decline?
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