Naming multiples before they're born

zazu13

DH are 95% on the two names that we have picked for the girls. My question is how do you decide which is which? Did / Will you decide before they're born that Baby A is this name and Baby B is that name? Or wait to see them first? Even though we have agreed on names we still just refer to them as the babies or the girls and baby A and B when talking about a specific one. This question probably mainly applies to G/G or B/B twins.

I'm also curious if you typically say their names in the same order (like when introducing them or talking about them in the 3rd person.)? Is it always Jill and Jack, for example? Or are you equally likely to say Jack and Jill?

Paradisemoon

We decided to give our girls their names. DH chose one name and I chose the other. If problems came up later on and one baby died I didn't want to feel like we gave the living girl the name we liked most.  Does that make sense?

carrotcake06

We didn't pre-determine their names ahead of time. When I went into labor, we were only definite on one name.

I had an emergency c/s under general anesthesia and H missed their birth entirely sitting in traffic, so when I woke up in recovery and was all hopped up on morphine, we settled on the second name and I told H to go down to the NICU and decide who was who. He definitely chose correctly. Their names fit them well.

I always refer to them in birth order.

TheDairyQueenx3

I'm my mind I just knew which name belonged to which baby from the moment we picked names. It's funny because their names def match who they are lol! Even though they basically look the same the personality fits the names .... Does that make sense I'm half wake nursing them

raraavis28

We decided their names several months before they were born; I named Noah and DH named Luke. I had always wanted a Noah and for some reason I just imagined Baby B as Noah (even before we found out he was a boy!) At first we couldn't seem to agree on a name for Baby A but then one day out of the blue DH texted me saying "I like Luke for a name!" and I thought "why didn't I think of that?" We kept their names a secret until they were born, though, and I do always refer to them in age order.....even though they were born in the same minute. :-P

marcobonny

We actually already had a girl name picked out before we even knew it was twins. So once we found out I just decided that Baby A would be the first name we'd picked out and we eventually thought of a second name and named Baby B. Now I know which is which and I do call them by name even though they're still in my belly.

BabyCarryingVessel

I named a girl and he named a girl. We waited until after they were born to give them their names. He gave baby b her name because he could feel her kick from the outside.

Rynleigh

We went ahead and named 'em before they popped out. Ours were di/di and in very distinctly different positions, couldn't confuse which one might be which. Simon was my baby A - most active during the pregnancy, easier to feel. James was baby B, up top and constantly getting hiccups. The names felt exactly right for each one and I can't imagine swapping them. I hadn't thought about the order we say them in, but in casual conversation I'll usually default to "Simon and James" - but if I'm talking about them while they're right there, I say the name of whomever is sitting closer to me first. 

24karat

We somewhat decided before they were born (positioning) but kind of second guessed ourselves once we found out I would have a c/s because we had picked names that we wanted in a specific order. Our Baby A ended up coming out first anyway so it didn't end up mattering. Before they were born we just referred to them as Alpha and Bravo.

jennifire7

We found out relatively early that we were expected twins. My husband and I picked a girl name and a boy name and waited until our NT scan results confirmed that we were having two boys. We kept the boy name and chose that name for baby B and came up with a name for baby A a few days later. I found it more personable to have names for them instead of this one and that one. I do switch the way I call them sometimes and don't always do it chronologically.

PurpleIris30

We were team green so didn't know we were having girls until they were born. We also hadn't finalized names since they were born unexpectedly early. However, when we did name them, we decided which name went with which baby based on their personalities in utero. One name seemed a little more spunky and seemed to fit better for the baby that never stopped moving.

jennybean80

We're team green, but have names pick out no matter the spread (boys, girls, both). We'll wait to see what they are before picking - so although we have two girls names, we don't know which would be for A or B until we see both of them (same for boys or one of each)!

JodiAriel

We chose our names and assigned them to A and B.  Then at my 35 week ultrasound we determined that they may have switched position, I had a major panic attack over who was who then.  We decided whoever was delivered first was Emerson Lily and second was Ellis Willow.  It worked out perfect.  Ellis was named for DHs favorite DJ and it turns out Ellis is his clone and Emerson is mine.

chickaboo1974

I always knew the first son would have to be John- that is DH's name, is father's, his grandfather's etc- like 10 generations.  So there is no guarantee that baby A will be the first born- so while on the operation table I told the Dr and nurses the first baby out was John the second was Nicholas.  Which is funny since John looks like my family and Nicholas looks like my DH's family.

And yes when referring to both of them I typically always say "John and Nicholas"

jezebel57

we did it alphabetically lol.  Baby A got the name that starts with "c" and Baby B got the name that starts with "M".  Plus we came up with the "c" name first so Baby A got that automatically.  

LucyRicardo3

We picked out names as soon as we found out it was G/G.. 
One of them is named after my SIL, which is a name passed down through the family
and the other's first is named sort of after one of my BFFs and her middle is another BFF that introduced DH and I.
The first name we picked out went with A and the second name was a little more work to pick out, and that was B's..  I did kind of second guess that but I wanted to be able to bond with them more before they were born.
It's amazing that their names really do match their personalities. A has a LOT of my SIL's personality and B is very spunky and a comedianne, like both of her namesakes.

TobieRose

We gave one name to A (Dominic) and one to B (Gregory). I had a sense/feeling about which one was which based on what I guessed of their personalities. Dominic was named first and also born first, so we tend to say his name first; we kept the names secret until they were born so it wasn't an issue when I was pregnant. 

Kissimi21

We named our in advance.  We picked out their names first, then after a while I chose which baby got which name.  Baby A was named Benjamin (strangely he was on the right and Benjamin means "Son on the right"), and B was named Samuel, which suits him perfectly.

katiebenes

we knew a was Caleb and B was John. 

Caleb had his Dads personality in reaction to the ultrasounds. he always hide. so he got his daddy's middle name. John is named after my Grandpa, so of course the little bouncy chunker got the name from my side of the family. I always knew them apart on the u/s 

When I type their names I usually put Caleb and John because I always do stuff birth order. when introducing them to people: whoever I'm holding gets introduced first. 

kgs0505

We assigned them names before they were born.  We had names mostly picked out before they were conceived (we always had two boy and two girl names picked out from way early on).  But when we were diagnosed with TTTS I felt the pressure to get their names assigned and nailed down before the surgery.  I wanted them to have their own identiies if something were to happen.  I had to pick out a new name for twin A because I didn't like the previous name we had picked for some reason (hormones? popularity?).  As for who got who, it was just what felt right, and because they kept switching A and B, it became right and left twin.  I made sure the doctor knew who was who before delivery so that if B ended up being A, they would have the correct name.

AmandaFaith

We're having B/G fraternal twins so naming is not really an issue, but I find myself always telling people our baby girl's name first. We're naming them Cali & Camden.

daisy19782011

mellissalynay90 said:

I'm my mind I just knew which name belonged to which baby from the moment we picked names. It's funny because their names def match who they are lol! Even though they basically look the same the personality fits the names .... Does that make sense I'm half wake nursing them

This totally! We had them named from the beginning, and they completely fit their names.