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Just need to vent....

It's been almost a month past my d&c, and life overall has gone back to normal.  I definitely have some ups and downs, but they are further apart and less extreme than a month ago.  My parents check in with me, as does MH and sisters to see how I'm feeling. If I feel like crap, I tell them.  If I'm feeling ok, I tell them too.  However, aside from the first few days of my miscarriage, my in-laws have NOT asked how I am at all.  My MIL & FIL were at my house Wednesday afternoon through Friday morning, and no one asked how I was doing, or what the dr has said.  I don't want ppl to be fawning all over me, and I get that it's hard to talk about, but ASK!!!!! It is just so frustrating.  I feel like they are acting like our miscarriage never happened.  To make it worse, they were talking about my SIL and her pregnancy with no problem! 

I am really not looking forward to spending 4 days with them before Christmas. I am already dreading seeing my SIL at 8 months pregnant.  I wanted nothing more than to be pregnant this Christmas.  I was excited because everyone would know, and I could dream with close family and friends about having a LO for next Christmas. 

I am trying not to dwell too much on any of this, but it still sucks.  Sorry for the vent, but I had to do it! 

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BFP#1 9/14/2013  ||  EDD 5/25/2014  ||  mmc discovered on 11/1/2013  ||  d&c on 11/6/2013
BFP#2 12/8/2014  ||  EDD 8/19/2015 || please be our RAINBOW
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Re: Just need to vent....

  • I am so sorry you have to go through this and I just got done spending Thanksgiving with my very pregnant sister in law and it was difficult--she kept guiding my hand to her belly to feel the baby kick and I was screaming inside. I think your feelings are normal and I am suffering with the loss right now and it has been a month. The healing process sucks. Thinking of you and your family over the holidays!! Hope it gets easier....
  • Family and holiday stress on top of a loss is just awful. Sorry to hear you're going through this.
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    Me (35) + DH (37) - Married Sept. 2007
    BFP #1 - DS born 7/11/11
    BFP#2 11/13/13 - EDD 7/29/14 - M/C at 5w3d
    BFP #3 12/28/13 - EDD 9/7/14 - M/C at 4w6d
    BFP#4 3/27/14 -  EDD 12/5/14 - Girl lost to 45X at 8w6d - D&C 
    BFP#5 10/15/14 - EDD 6/30/15 - M/C at 7w2d
    BFP #6 1/5/15 - EDD 9.16.14 [CLICKY for progress]
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  • i wish familywould ask me how I'm doing too. talking about everything -even though i get teary every time -really helps. being on here helps but i would like to talk out loud too

    Missed M/C natural cycle 10/2013

    DX PCOS 3/2014

    2 cycles Clomid 50 mg + Ovidrel + TI

    1 cycle Clomid 50 mg + TI - no response stair-stepped to Clomid 75 mg + Ovidrel + TI

    1 cycle Clomid 50 mg + Ovidrel + IUI

    1 cycle Letrozole 7.5 mg + 150 mg Follistim + Ovidrel + TI

    1 cycle Letrozole 7.5 mg + 150 mg Folistim + Ovidrel + IUI

    1 cycle Letrozole 7.5 mg + 150 mg Follistim  - no response, repeated Letrozole 7.5 mg + 150 mg Follistim + Ovidrel + IUI = success! 12/2014

    Beta 1 - 15 dpiui, 324, Beta 2 - 17 dpiui 750. Twins!!

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