MIL Vent .... wwyd?

MiaVonT

**I posted this on First Tri too .... need all the help/advice I can get from those in similar situations**

 

 

SO long story short (or at least I'll try my best) .......

 

a month or so ago word got back to us that MIL likes to talk crap and discuss our finances and that we're "poor" (not by any means biotch!) and the typical bs that they say. I sent her an email and she responded saying things must have been taken out of term ..... not likely.

 

But anywho .... this past weekend same bs has been stirred up by her. Same crap (even though she said sorry it wont happen again) ... NOW shes sayin the past email i sent is going to jepordize her job cuz of a bunch of swear words and her boss will see it. 

 

I said ONE word  ... shiit. OMG hand her a pink slip!  The last email contained the same amount and context!

 

Now this is my conclusion ...... SHE KNOWS SHE GOT BUSTED yet again ... and is trying to put the focus off of her and now on me like I'm the bad guy and she wants and apology.

 

I do believe she is coming over tonight so hmmmmm it should be interesting! 

 

I'm seriously thinking I don't want my kids around a nut job like her! 

Hell .... she has even threatened to take 'em away from me years before they were conceived.

 

 

 

any advice on what I should do withthis crazy biotch?

 

I was tempted to tell her (if she brought up losin her job) that her bs and stress will make me lose somehting more important and to STFU or die!

 

the hearsay part: is from a reliable source .... and she has stated the same things to my own mother. Multiple people have said the same story. PLUS I hear what she says about everyone else. So I do believe it to be true.

 

the email: I was very polite and used nice big 5 dollar words and the word was used as """ ....... please so the shit talking stops....." that's pretty much it. She has sent "inapropriate" jokes from that same email addy.

 

taking my kids away: she told us years ago that if I didn't treat my kids well she would take them from me and there's not a damn thing I could do cuz of the "grandparents rights law"

 

I'm telling you ladies, this woman is so miserable in life that gossip and story telling must get her off.

 

Sorry it's so long .... the stress is giving me cramps!

sweater

Um...well...

I don't think you should be handling things thru email, or even yourself. This is your MIL, so your husband should be speaking to her. This is his place to take control of the situation, so things don't get out of hand, and ultimately ruin your relationship with MIL. But it sounds a little late...

Email is not the place for arguments unless it's business and your documenting conversations..this is family. You need to have your husband sit her down. Sometimes you can't change people like MIL's, so you need to distance yourself a bit, then she won't have any "dirt" to share with others.

Jessarella

I agree with sweater. Not your place to have to talk to her, that's DH's job. I also wouldn't send emails, they can be taken out of context and passed along for others to read.

MiaVonT

so very true!

 

but DH "says" he'll talk to her and never does .... he has even said if I have a problem then talk to her. talking to her face to face isn't always an option as she blows up and never lets anyone get a word in otherwise.

 

I was just at my wits end and felt the need to let her know I'm onto her BS and won't take it sitting down with a smile

 

I have yelled at DH to gorw a pair or take 'em outta my purse!

 

maybe it's just my hormones ....