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pregnant after 18 week loss

Megncowan2Megncowan2 member
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I just found out I am around 4/5 weeks pregnant. We lost our baby July 26th at 18 weeks and had to have an induced miscarriage in the hospital. Our baby was diagnosed with UPD4 a rare chromosomal disorder that is a 1 in a million and even more odd was the fact I didn't naturally misscarry in early pregnancy because of the chromosomes not lining up correctly when that is what most of my research has indicated babies miscarrying from.

Every doctor we spoke with said it is rare that this would reoccure and was nothing we caused or could have prevented. It was considered a fluke and nothing passed to our baby from either of us. Even with this news we are still nervous. I feel much more at peach with this pregnancy than I did in the beginning with the last. I never felt at peace last time and new the whole time something was going to be wrong.

Any encouragement/advice would be appreciated as we start this journey again.

Married my best friend 03/21/09, TTC since December 2012
BFP#1 04/04/13,  EDD 12/16/13
Lost our little boy on 07/26/13 at 18 weeks to UPD4 
BFP#2 11/18/13, EDD 07/26/14 (One year to the date of the loss of our baby!). Grow, baby, grow!
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  • ksulliksulli member
    Congrats! I'm so sorry for your loss, but knowing it's so unlikely to occur again is good. Embrace the peaceful feeling you have and know you did nothing wrong last time, so there's nothing you need to do 'better' this time.
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  • jhs121jhs121 member
    I'm sorry for your loss.  Congratulations and welcome!

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  • NataliasMOM0214NataliasMOM0214 member
    congratulations on your BFP!  I'm almost in the very same boat as you.  I had a D&E when I was 21 weeks PG in August, and I was told almost the same thing as you...it was a fluke, and it shouldn't hinder us from having a healthy pregnancy/baby down the road.  But I can't help to feel extremely concerned and worried...it's so frightening.  Just try to stay optimistic... I wish you all the best!  (((HUGS)))
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  • delatldelatl member
    I'm sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board and congratulations on your BFP!
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  • tbiscuit18tbiscuit18 member
    I am so sorry for your loss. But congrats on your BFP and welcome!!
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  • Megncowan2Megncowan2 member
    Thank you gusy for the encouragement and positive words. It means a lot!
    Married my best friend 03/21/09, TTC since December 2012
    BFP#1 04/04/13,  EDD 12/16/13
    Lost our little boy on 07/26/13 at 18 weeks to UPD4 
    BFP#2 11/18/13, EDD 07/26/14 (One year to the date of the loss of our baby!). Grow, baby, grow!
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  • Mom2anAngel2Mom2anAngel2 member
    Congrats and welcome! We lost our son at 19 weeks (but never found out the cause). Even when they say it is a fluke it is hard not to worry about it happening again. I hope you have a happy, healthy and uneventful 9 months.

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    BFP #1: 8/4/11; DS1 born sleeping on 11/16/11 at 19w1d

    BFP # 2: 5/7/12, EDD 1/10/13, DS2 born 1/4/13

    BFP # 3: 11/8/13, EDD 7/17/14, mmc 10wks

    BFP # 4: 5/16/14, EDD 1/15/15, praying for our 2nd rainbow baby 

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  • mdarmetkomdarmetko member
    sorry for your loss. it's very frustrating when there aren't any real answers.  i wish you an uneventful pregnancy this time :) hope it goes smoothly.
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    BFP 8/12/13 -- EDD 4/20/14 -- no fetal pole @7wksnatural m/c 9/16/13, cytotec 10/17 & 10/22
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  • slensicslensic member
    I am so sorry for you loss. Congrats and welcome!

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  • MrsWallickMrsWallick member
    Congrats and welcome!!

    BFP #1: 3/23/13, EDD: 11/22/13, MC: 4/2/13
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  • MommaAshley12MommaAshley12 member
    So sorry for your loss. Congrats on your pregnancy. I hope it is happy and healthy and that you are snuggling your rainbow baby soon!
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  • km_mdkm_md member
    I'm so sorry for your loss ((Hugs)) Welcome to the board. Even with those odds, it is still really hard to relax and enjoy your pregnancy. I try to just take it one day at a time. 


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  • SerenlaSerenla member
    I am sorry for your loss ((hugs)).
     Congrats and welcome!



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    BFP #2 7/17/13, EDD 3/29/14 ended in a CP on 7/22/13.
    BFP#3 8/19/13 EDD 5/3/14 Nerdling was born 4/29/14, welcome little one!
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  • Megncowan2Megncowan2 member
    Up date: I am now around 7 weeks pregnant and seeing our Midwife this week for a consultation appointment. Please keep me in your prayers as we are continuing to pray for a healthy, developing baby!!!
    Married my best friend 03/21/09, TTC since December 2012
    BFP#1 04/04/13,  EDD 12/16/13
    Lost our little boy on 07/26/13 at 18 weeks to UPD4 
    BFP#2 11/18/13, EDD 07/26/14 (One year to the date of the loss of our baby!). Grow, baby, grow!
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  • 2redtulips2redtulips member
    I am so sorry for your loss. 

    Congrats on your bfp! 

    It's hard not to worry. I am a little more than 5 weeks along, and the nervousness is definitely there. Someone else gave the advice to take it one day, one test and one milestone at a time - and I like that a lot. For me, my second beta test had doubled, and I take comfort in that. 

    That sense of peace you said you have is a good sign, too. Enjoy that feeling, and take it one moment at a time. 

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  • SkeemerSkeemer member

    I'm so sorry for your previous loss. We lost our LO at 19 weeks & had the same induced labor. My heart goes out to you.

    It's wonderful that you are pregnant again! Congrats. You'll find lots of support & love here. It's a great group of folks. Welcome. :)


        




     

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  • Megncowan2Megncowan2 member

    Thanks guys. Of course the internet is the worse thing to sit on when you have fears or worries. Usually googling something for peace of mind ends up working against you. You all have been great though!

    Married my best friend 03/21/09, TTC since December 2012
    BFP#1 04/04/13,  EDD 12/16/13
    Lost our little boy on 07/26/13 at 18 weeks to UPD4 
    BFP#2 11/18/13, EDD 07/26/14 (One year to the date of the loss of our baby!). Grow, baby, grow!
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