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quick question - what do you think?

coffeeandbookscoffeeandbooks member
in May 2013 Moms
so I have a baby sitter who watches LO while I work from home.

He naps a lot during the day, and one day she asked me if there was anything else she could do for us while he naps.   She said to me, I feel like I am not doing anything.  So, I just said you could help load and unload the dishwasher.

My husband thinks I was out of line and that it is a degrading request and that she is not our maid.

What do you think?

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    AllieAGameAllieAGame member
    I think that's totally fine. What did your husband prefer you to say?
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    FmrAFBratFmrAFBrat member
    I think it's fine. Some daycares even wash bottles & blankets. Your paying her to work.
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    bumpuser8130818bumpuser8130818 member
    I think it's fine, too. I was a nanny for several summers and when the kids napped I always looked for things to do to help around the house. They were paying me to be there, so I always felt like I should be doing something.
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    drhibbarddrhibbard member
    She asked, you answered.  I bet she anticipated a list longer than that!
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    pnutgpnutg member
    I was a nanny for years and I loaded and unloaded the dishwasher constantly. Kids go through a lot of dishes, plus I ate there too. That was definitely not out of line
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    coffeeandbookscoffeeandbooks member
    Thanks guys, DH was like "she isn't our Alice from the Brady bunch, we can't have her clean," but like you all said, she asked.
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    LaxMOM44LaxMOM44 member
    I think that was fine but I don't have much tact so not sure if I'm the best opinion.

    If you(your husband) are still uncomfortable asking her to do that perhaps a tidy up after the kids request will leave her the flexibility to do dishes, put away toys, put their clothes in the laundry etc.

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    raw1299raw1299 member
    She asked. I think it's OK. 
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    tee18tee18 member
    Totally ok, especially since she asked. I was a nanny too and always wanted to feel useful. I did things related to the baby - dishes, sweeping, baby's laundry.
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