So much of the general pregnancy loss discussion is always focused on the woman that physically dealt with the loss, but I think it's important to look at our SO's and bring them in to the conversation as well.
So how is your SO doing? Have you guys talked about it much, or does it just go unspoken? How are they coping?
My SO is handling the most recent loss a lot better than I expected. After the last one, he was done. We had been talking about it for a long time and it was finally just too much for him and we had given up on TTC. So when I got pregnant again this last time I was terrified how he would handle yet another loss, but I don't give him enough credit. He's been really great. I know he's still hurting, but he's outwardly he seems to be handling it in a much more healthy way. He's been helping me and been more affectionate than usual, which helps. His new found optimism is definitely making a difference in how we're both coping with the loss. We don't really talk about it much, more medically what needs to be done and what the next steps are, but we both prefer it that way. We talk about how we're both coping and what the other can do to make things easier and even that is starting to taper off. He's eating a ton of chocolate, though. ha. But seriously, I got him one of those huge Hershey's bars and he hate half of it as soon as he found it and the other half for breakfast the next morning. He doesn't usually eat that much chocolate. One of those bars usually lasts him a month or so (assuming I'm stealing bits and pieces throughout).