And this is why I can't stand my SIL.

erind228

I am going to apologize in advance.  This post is going to be a rant, but I can't really talk to my husband because he will just give the timeless excuse: "Oh, that's just N for you." So yesterday, I had my 11 week appointment, and decided that if all went well, and we heard a strong heartbeat I was going to announce my pregnancy to friends and extended family on Facebook.  Our immediate families knew about a week after we found out that I was pregnant because I just can't keep a secret for the life of me.  I got the usual congratulations from everyone but my husbands sister.  I wasn't expecting much, just a text saying "Congrats", or "Excited for you." would have been sufficient.  Anyway, nothing.  I have seen his sister multiple times in person since we told them in September that I was pregnant, and she hasn't mentioned it at all. So that was kind of annoying and rude, but I just chalked it up to the fact that she has zero manners and moved on with my life.  So fast forward to yesterday.  My appointment went really well, and I heard a nice heartbeat in the 170's.  I was excited to announce.  My husband and I took a picture of all of our shoes lined up with a pair of baby booties at the end, and put "Coming June 2014" on the picture.  So we post the picture.  This morning I get up and check Facebook and his sister has reposted the picture on her page and says something like:  "I'm going to be an aunt again."  This really ticks me off.  She doesn't have the common decency to say congratulations to us, but feels like she can post the picture on her page and steal our thunder?  WTF!  This is why I can't stand her.  If this was the first time that she did something like this I maybe could have forgiven her, but honestly, she does this all the time.  She always has to make everything about herself and it is so freaking annoying.  Anyway, I just had to get it off my chest.  I know some of you will probably think I am being overly dramatic, but like I said before, she does this shit constantly, and I am just over it.  Plus she is just stupid in general and gets on my nerves.  She would get on most of your nerves too because her grammar and punctuation sucks.  Ha!

ruby3583

I'm sorry to hear this.  My SIL isn't a picnic in the park either.  She knew that DH and I had been trying for a while to get pregnant.  She tried for ONE month after hearing about us and got pregnant right away with her second.  Instead of telling us in a settle way since they now knew of our situation, they had put a "I'm a big sister" shirt on their daughter and let her walk around our house until we read it.  We were devastated.  I'm not saying that they can't have their happiness because they absolutely deserve that.  It would have been nice if they took our feelings into consideration when announcing their pregnancy since they knew we were having problems.  We would have appreciated a talk during coffee or something and she then can show off her shirt in front of other friends and family after giving us a heads up.  But, some people, like our SILs, just have a hard time thinking of others instead of just themselves.  I'm sorry that this has made you so upset.  I want to say, "don't waste your energy on her", and you really shouldn't, but I know that its easier said then done.  If you ever need to vent about your crazy SIL, I'm here to listen!!  Good luck and try to keep your stress down for your little "Peanut"!  Its not worth it!

babygabe614

Ugh, that would bug me too. Sorry she is being so inconsiderate. Maybe she doesn't even see how rude that is, but if it were me I would probably send her a FB message and just say something like, "Thanks for sharing our exciting news. I hope we can celebrate in person sometime soon." I think that kind of subtly says "We know you know - so give us a proper congratulations, beeyotch!" ;-) GL!

mrsgyaray

What a B! She should've congratulated you the first time and is obviously in need of attention. I think it's a sister bio or in law thing Period.

LilyGracesMommy

You too?? My future SIL not only neglected to congratulate us but did so on my birthday ( which is why she was there) and basically did not say happy birthday or congrats and dominated everyone with talks of her wedding.

Like I'm not asking for a standing ovation or anything, but acknowledgement would have been nice

Mztwilson

Reading this post makes me thankful for the relationship between me and my SIL. When I told her I was pregnant she was so excited saying she had been waiting 2 years for this ( our youngest turned 2 in aug) she even helped me with putting together an announcement for my MIL. I'm sorry to hear your SIL is less then supportive I wish I had some good advice but I don't. Just remember you have a lot of love and support even if it's not from her. Good luck ladies. If it makes you feel better I'm super excited for you ladies

Yasm33na

This is why I'm so happy DH is an only child!! Sorry you have to go through that with your SIL... It really is inconsiderate. I've had to go through this sort of thing with my dad's sisters... So I just gave up on Facebook to avoid the unnecessary stress.

Congrats on hearing the HB anyway!

Jay21010

My SIL is the same exact way. She has a child of her own and I personally think as a parent she sucks!! Like come on no parent should have to be told to give their child medicine. My nephew is 2 years old and he's picking up a cough and has had a runny nose for 2 weeks. So I had to ask her to buy him medicine to prevent him from getting even more sick. Did she care? Nope! She waited 2 days until she actually bought it. I was so annoyed because flu season is here and us pregnant women have to take every precaution to avoid getting sick and I just feel like she's so insensitive and could care less about my pregnancy. Not to mention this is our second try for a child I had a miscarriage back in March. So you'd think she'd be just a little considerate of things. Some SIL's are just so annoying.

erind228

Thanks for the kind words and support.  I know I shouldn't let her lack of common decency bother me, but it does.  This is the same person who is 35 years old, refuses to get her license and has her parents drive her to work.  I mean, really?

erind228

@mullenem, she has never congratulated or said anything in regards to our pregnancy, and has known since September.  I guess I got annoyed because she never congratulated us, but posted our picture on her Facebook wall, and said: " I am going to be an aunt again!"  To me, it seemed like she was trying to make it all about herself. 

kgrana

My sister in law is a pain in my ass too. I was actually surprised that she even congratulated me/us. What did kind of throw me off was how many of my friends reacted with an "oh my god," or something else kind of negative. One of my girlfriends simply said "oh, f*ck."
Who does that?!
Like... If you can't bring yourself to congratulate us, then keep whatever else you're thinking to yourself.

erind228

And I don't want her to be excited every time she sees me. I just thought an initial congratulations was kind of a nice thing to say being that she is my SIL. If this was just some random ass person, I couldn't care less. I knew a lot of people would think I was being whiny because it's hard to share all the background info with you. I wasn't trying to sound like a brat. Just had to vent is all.