Most challenging month.

GalLaura

Just curious to see what month has been the most challenging for everyone as mom's. Was it those first few weeks and first month, the 4 month with wakeful etc.

The 4 month has been the hardest for me with sleep deprivation and not being able to get my lo to bed, swaddle weaning , face scratching, etc. I've felt like a failure at times. However it's also been so rewarding seeing my little man grow and fit us to be so in tune with each other. Minus the sleep part. Lol. How about you?

KellenHi21

Had the baby blues for about 2 weeks when we got home from the hospital which made for a miserable time.

phishgirl29

1st. Csection recovery, feedings every 2 hours, first time breastfeeding cracked nipples. Oh, and the emergency surgery to remove the piece of placenta they left in me 20 days after he was born. No thank you.

ChristyD6

Month 2 , my MIL stayed with us the whole month.

Edit to clarify: it was hard because she stayed with us, she wasn't staying with us bc it was hard and we needed help

BC&LM

The first month and a lot of the second month, but I just voted first month because the lack of sleep and C section pain were brutal. Once we figured out a napping schedule that works for LO, things got MUCH easier! Now he has his occasional nap time meltdown but for the most part things are smooth sailing. I don't want to jinx myself, but he is five months and no sleep regression. (But he doesn't understand DST, of course, so he is now up an hour earlier on the weekends. I get up earlier than him during the week, so it doesn't matter then.)

RedCherry1109

1st month. Recovery from my C/S and taking care of 3 kids starting at week 2.

dmlk413

So far, the 2nd month was the worst. The 8 week wonder week was horrible and I thought I was going to lose my mind.

mrsmichigander

I voted first month, but the sleep regression is a VERY close second!

AlsGal01

The first month. We lived in a one bedroom in CA and my parents came to visit for 2 weeks and stayed with us. I felt confined to my bedroom 24/7 because of feedings. And of course the lack of sleep was horrible.

peachnectarine

First month definitely. Recovering was a nightmare, breastfeeding was super hard, LO waking up all the time, and I was a new mom so I didn't know what I was doing!

WasNotWas

4th month was the worst here...I could handle the first month, I was prepared. But this ish is on another level.

lioness13

The 3rd month. DD wasn't taking a bottle, was still waking up every 3 hours or less and I had to return to work. I was soooo tired. I also had to figure out pumping and was stressed about my milk supply. It was brutal. I cried almost every day.

HeartLikeMine3

4th month is hardest to me as well. The first month to me was easy, I mean he woke up a lot during the night but he went right back to sleep while nursing. He also slept the majority of the day so I had a lot of down time holding him or I could put him down and get stuff done. I don't think the sleep deprivation really hit me until like 6-8 weeks. Now he's very particular he only naps on me and I can't even nap next to him I have to hold him in the rocker. And at night he doesn't always nurse back to sleep. And always cries before falling asleep for naps even with me holding him.

numbersgirl08

1st month by FAR.  Recovery sucked.  Nursing constantly was draining.  Having to wake up every 2-3 hours for the first week to feed the baby sucked.  I was super emotional and hormonal.  And then at the very end of the month, my mom went into cardiac arrest when she was walking on a treadmill and her life was saved by some nurse technicians that happened to be working out right next to her and who immediately performed CPR.  That sucked majorly, but the amazing turnaround she had, and just all of the circumstances surrounding it knocked me out of the depression I was feeling and completely changed my attitude about everything - it was a real turning point for me.  There's nothing like crying over your baby not sleeping when you get a phone call from your dad saying that something really bad happened and it doesn't look like your mom is going to make it.  All of a sudden, all the little things and hard things about having a newborn disappeared and all I could think about was how lucky I was to have such a wonderful mom and I wanted to be a mom like that to my little girl.  God was watching out for our whole family that day.

numbersgirl08

@FoxiLoxi - I can't imagine having BOTH parents have situations like that.  But it definitely puts things in perspective, doesn't it?

GalLaura

@numbersgirl08 and @foxiloxi unbelievable. I'm so sorry you went through that. Thank god everyone was ok. As foxiloxi says it puts things in perspective for all of us.

flerlgirl

I would say the first month was the hardest for sure. 

JANCANDANCE

First month and it was my second go around. But it wasn't really hard. I was just exhausted and just fitting a new little person into the life we already had.

needanustart

First month, but only because it was so freaking hot out and I had a toddler to deal with while nursing all the time. Now Lo is a quicker eater so we can get out more and it's not so hot. I knew the transition to two was going to be hard but there is nothing you can do to actually prepare for it, so getting into our groove that first month was a big deal.

mamainVA2013

While each month has had their own challenges, I picked the first month. I had so much self-doubt, but wanted to appear that I had it all together and didn't turn to anyone for help. I was a complete wreck.

ASmallWonder

Third month for me because that's when I went back to work and had to deal with both kids alone most nights.

chelsmcl

Month 2 for sure. We finally accepted she had colic and I felt like somehow it was my fault and I was so emotionally exhausted from the nonstop crying.

Loriimagination

2nd for me. Colic hit at 4 weeks and lasted until about 9 weeks. It was the worst at 8 weeks and lots of tears were shed by LO and myself. It was so emotionally draining.

nikel13

I think that they are all difficult in their own ways. I thought we would be over difficult, but now it's something different since she is mobile. I'm constantly worried that we are heading to the ER because everything is a hazard.

Yakut

The first month for sure! I had no support other than DH, who was overwhelmed himself and not as supportive as he ought to have been, plus I was still believing the lactivism and trying to fight the impossible by transitioning from supplementing to EBF, which ultimately never happened.  And DH wanted to isolate the baby for the first 40 days according to his (and my, but I'm American) ancestors' tradition, and it SUUUUUUCKED. You're supposed to do it if you have help from mothers or MILs, which we didn't. Never again.