Frequent board lurker who appreciates your honesty. My older sister and I are planning bridal showers for our younger sister and soon to be SIL. They are getting married a month apart. The invite lists are almost exactly the same, the only exception would be SILs mom and two sisters. Otherwise we are inviting only family on our side of the family. Should we have a joint shower or two seperate ones?
I'm in the seperate camp. Largely due to what somerandom said - for one, those few "exceptions" will feel they need to bring a gift for the other bride, even if they don't really know her/will be invited to her wedding. And if a guest wants to splurge on a gift for one bride but not the other - it may make them feel weird.
However, I WILL say on that note- I doubt most guests are going to be paying that kind of attention to who gave what to which bride. Even the brides probably won't be opening the same person's gift at the same tiem.
BUT - the guest themselves may feel odd/ feel they have to be "fair".
Plus- I also agree that they should each both get their own shower.
"Beer is living proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy." ~Benjamin Franklin
I wonder if people will be less generous if asked to buy two gifts in one day? I just think it could generally decrease the specialness for each bride to be.
I would say separate. Unless the brides come to the hostesses to specifically request a joint shower.
Reasons:
--each deserves her own day
--even if the guest list is 80% the same, the remaining 20% will seem awkward
--the gift opening will be CRAZY long if two brides have to open all their gifts
--the potential for drama is too high at a shared shower
ETA -- even with their request, I would be very cautious about a joint shower. What if you do one Saturday and one Sunday of the same weekend, to make it easier for oot guests?
Re: NBSR: double/joint bridal shower
I'm in the seperate camp. Largely due to what somerandom said - for one, those few "exceptions" will feel they need to bring a gift for the other bride, even if they don't really know her/will be invited to her wedding. And if a guest wants to splurge on a gift for one bride but not the other - it may make them feel weird.
However, I WILL say on that note- I doubt most guests are going to be paying that kind of attention to who gave what to which bride. Even the brides probably won't be opening the same person's gift at the same tiem.
BUT - the guest themselves may feel odd/ feel they have to be "fair".
Plus- I also agree that they should each both get their own shower.
~Benjamin Franklin
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