My mom plans on throwing me my shower and I'm fine with that. However my mom wants to have a Wishing Well...she's old school. But after reading about books, and diapers blah blah blah I'm afraid to enclose that on an invite. Thoughts!
Honestly, I've never had a problem with the idea of a wishing well. I like the idea of letting people (if they so choose) bring a small item that MTB might forget to get or that they themselves found helpful. Every single baby and bridal shower I've ever been to has had one. People can participate or not - no one will know because it's not labeled, wrapped, or in conjunction with a raffle.
And yes, I'm one of the biggest "diaper raffles/books as cards" haters out there.
I've never seen or heard of a wishing well, but people often give small items that MTB didn't ask for or think of. Generally people will include these smaller items with their gift if they want to anyway - they've never seemed to need a specific directive to do so.
Can you ask her to change it up? Instead of having people put gifts in the wishing well, put some index cards or stationary next to whatever she was going to use for gifts and ask people to write advice, words of encouragement, funny stories, etc? That way its not asking for gifts but your mom gets to have a cute activity to fit her tradition.
I had a wishing well at my wedding for people to put cards with money in them. It wasn't an expectation and I didn't tell people beforehand. It was just a place for them to put them so that the cards didn't get lost. It's very easy for cards to get lost amongst the gifts or fall under a table.
Re: Wishing Well
I've never seen or heard of a wishing well, but people often give small items that MTB didn't ask for or think of. Generally people will include these smaller items with their gift if they want to anyway - they've never seemed to need a specific directive to do so.
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