1st Trimester

When did you tell people?

I'm only 6 weeks along and we were hoping to keep it under wraps for a least a few more weeks. That said, we have a bunch of social obligations the next few weeks and while I'm not a big drinker I'm not sure I can get away with being the DD for every event we having coming up w/o some suspicion. Just curious when you started telling people. 

Re: When did you tell people?

  • My husband was so excited he wanted to tell our family right away so at like 6 weeks...so these last couple weeks it has come out and most people know:)  He owns a restaurant/bar so most of the regulars have caught on since i haven't had a drink in my hand in over a month.  Not that i was a big drinker before but i would have one or two.  I haven't made it Facebook official and not sure when/if i will.  Congratulations and in the end do what you feel is right for you!!!

  • told parents after the 7wk scan and told everyone else after the 12wk scan. we're PgAL, so we wanted to keep it quiet until we were out of the "danger zone". out and proud now though! just do what feels right for you. 

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  • DS was a surprise and DH and I weren't married yet, so I was super shaken up and told my fam immediately, then put it on Facebook at like 17 weeks.

    I'm currently 5 weeks with this LO and we're so excited! We are waiting till the night of November 10 (right after DS' s 2nd bday party) to make the big announcement. We didn't wanna do it before, this way his party is just about him. We were thinking of waiting till thanksgiving but that's not gonna happen!
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  • I started telling people about 9 weeks. I am about 11 weeks now and have finally came out to my co-workers and boss. SO's parents were the first people we told. I have yet to tell my parents though. Waiting to tell them after my first appointment.

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  • Our immediate family and my boss knew right after beta #2 since they knew about our IVF and were eagerly awaiting the results. Semi-extended family and family friends knew within a couple weeks after that. Extended family, friends and coworkers will all know after first tri when we sent out our Christmas cards with the news :)

  • I am 6 weeks 2 days. We are not telling anyone til around Christmas time I think. We are pregnant after a loss at 11 weeks 4 days so I am waiting til after 2 nd trimester to tell most everyone.
    My mom step dad and a close friend and the teacher I work with know but that is it.
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  • Most likely I will tell my parents after the 6w2d ultrasound. Everyone else that I am close to at 12 weeks after the NT scan.
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  • My rule is that it's okay to tell people that you would want to know if the worst were to happen. I have many close friends I would tell in the event of a miscarriage so I wouldn't mind telling them early. That being said, there are a lot of tricks to get around social engagements. You can hold a glass of whatever and let DH drink is surreptitiously. You can order club soda/seltzer and put some juice or just lemon to mimic a hard drink. I'm sure some other ladies would have ideas too.

      
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  • 12 weeks.. Miscarriage is a lower percent after that.. So they say
  • We told two people so far, and we're at 5 weeks. We'll tell parents after our 8w appointment, and we'll wait until around Christmas to do the big FB announcement.

    Yesterday I had a work social to go to, and I usually drink at them so they'd catch on really quick if I didn't. I "went to the bathroom" and told the waitress that when I ordered a margarita to please make sure it's virgin. No sweat!
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    • Told two couples of very close friends as soon as we found out ~4 weeks. Needed someone to celebrate/share with. 
    • Told parents and brother-in-law at six weeks. 
    • Had US and saw heartbeat and good measurements at 7 weeks. Told my grandmothers then. 
    • Rest of friends & family: 12 weeks.
    • Boss & coworkers: uggggh, who knows. 16 weeks? 

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  • I told my family as soon as I got my BFP as well as my best friend. I'll tell everyone else around 12/13 weeks :) I wanted my family to know incase something happens bc id want their support .
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  • We told our family two days after we found out :) this is our first baby on the way and we are over the moon about expecting!! I know that it's safer to tell after the first trimester but seeing as we completely fell in love with our Baby the moment the test was positive we decided that (heaven forbid) the worst was to happen we would want as much support as possible <3 we had a dating scan at 7 weeks and I'm now 9 weeks 1 day...this is just so wonderful!!
  • I have two close friends who live in town who know (I needed SOMEONE to talk to about it other than DH) but we haven't told anyone else--not even our parents.  They won't know till after the NT scan (13 weeks).  Once they know we'll spread the word to friends.  Not planning a Facebook announcement but that might change.  I did a purge of  Facebook "friends" recently since I don't want people I barely know all up in my family business.
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  • My immediate family knows because they knew about our IVF. Other than that, I have told a couple of very close friends that also knew about the IVF, but no one else. I don't plan on telling until I am at least 12 weeks if I can help it. :)

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  • We'll do the same for this pregnancy as we did for the last.

    Told immediate family and 2 very close friends right away (5 weeks) - they are the same people who supported us with our loss, so we don't see a reason to keep it from them as we would tell them again should we (heaven forbid) suffer another loss.

    Other close family/friends after we saw/see a heartbeat at our 8 week ultrasound.

    Everyone else whenever.  Never made a facebook announcement.  People found out if we saw them.

    Last time I told work around 9 weeks.  I'm pretty nervous to tell them this time as I've just returned to work, so I may hold out for longer.
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  • We told our parents and close friends when I found out (4 weeks). We told everyone else after our 12 week appointment. I'm superstitious and think it is bad luck to announce before 12 weeks but that is just my opinion. I've known girls that announced at 4 weeks and I've known girls that waited until they found out the gender at 18 weeks. It's just a personal preference I think.
  • At 4weeks we told our parents and siblings. At 6 weeks I told grandparents and aunts/uncles. Announcing on FB and to the rest of our friends on Halloween when I'll be 10 weeks 3 days.
  • I'm a lousy liar, and an open book. We told everyone as soon as we had a BFP with both pregnancies.
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  • We went public a few weeks after we heard the heartbeat, around 8 weeks. I feel the risk drops pretty low at that point. 
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  • I told my mom and a close friend and the teacher I work with all day at 4 weeks.
    Will not tell anyone else til Christmas it will be over 14 weeks then.
    I told everyone at 9 weeks back in February and MC at 11 1/2 weeks after seeing the heartbeat twice!!!

    Everyone was super supportive but we just want to wait til after first tri to announce this time.
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    Spotting,clot 2/15/13 all ok......2/21/13 no heartbeat 11 w 4 d missed miscarriage........2/22/13 DnC :(
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  • I can't keep my mouth shut - I let it slip by week 8.
  • It is a totally personal decision. We told our parents at 6 weeks with DD and the world at 12 weeks. We are waiting until Thanksgiving this time to tell our parents.
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  • I told my sisters and BFF right away, I was barely 5 weeks. I told all the grandparents and immediate family when I was 10 weeks. We are not otherwise public.




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  • Im 6 weeks and have told pretty much all family. makes me worried in case something happens but we will see
  • My 4 yr old just helped us along by telling her speech teacher and the aid in her preschool class (the elementary school has a pre-school) on friday :-/ They've since been sworn to secrecy. 

    I can't remember when we told with the others, I know I was at least 12 weeks along with my oldest but we had a miscarriage a few months before we got pregnant with him. 
  • We will be telling my mom next week after my 1st appointment, assuming all goes well. I will be 6w2d. We're waiting until Thanksgiving to tell the rest of the family, but may share with our closest friends before then. Like others have said, we are comfortable telling the ones we'd lean on for support in the case of a MC.

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  • I wanted to wait until 12 weeks but it is getting hard to keep my mouth shut. 

    I'm thinking we'll spill the beans this weekend?  I don't know!

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  • I told one friend and my bosses/coworkers (there are only 4 of us here at the office) - we are very short staffed here so I thought I should let them know so they take it easy on me - as much as possible anyway!

    We really want to tell family, but we told our parents after our first u/s with our first pregnancy, which didn't make it that far.  We're worried of course and want to make it out of the first trimester before letting them know about this one.  I'll be just over 13 weeks on Thanksgiving so we're planning on telling them then :)
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  • My immediate family knows as well as close friends.  We are PgAL (several) and I wanted those close to me to know so they could be praying for a good sticky baby.  Plus it would be nice to have their support if, god forbid, something happened again.

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  • With both our first and second, we told family at about 6 weeks, and friends coworkers around 12/13 weeks.

    With this one, I'm really hoping to not tell until closer to the anatamy scan at 20 weeks.  I'll just push it out as far as I can. :)
  • I was going to wait until 13 weeks but I couldn't wait any longer! We announced yesterday after my first doctors appt. I will be 11 weeks tomorrow. My doctor thinks it's safe to announce. It was so nice to tell the world!
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