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Ugh Nervous.. vent

I know Im a post hog tonight but I just received some news and have to vent a little. First off a quick update ; my dad is doing alot better and is home! He has a fractured breast bone and is in a lot of pain but he is here with us and that is all that matters. Thank you to all who wished us well and prayed for us! Much appreciated!

Since my dad is still recovering he has asked DH to take over a job for him in Massachusetts ( we live in NY). Normally I'd be upset but ok with it but this is the first time he'll be away since we had the baby. I think it will be around 5-10 days. I know this is nothing compared to what some of you go through when your husband is deployed , you are all so strong!

I'm just nervous I guess. I'm a SAHM at the moment and when 4 o'clock rolls around I get a sense of relief knowing DH will be home soon to help out with the baby. She adores him and he can get her to sleep so quickly ( she's been refusing naps, so he makes weekends easy). I guess I'm scared i'm going to do something wrong, maybe?

He's also going to miss Halloween , which could be worse but still its her first Halloween, I was excited. Ugh.

How do those of you who are left alone for a while get through it without reaching your breaking point. I'm just scared I guess.




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    DH had to work out of state for 4 days when DS was 3 weeks old. I wanted to kill his boss (still do, like it will would a lifetime movie worthy story). You just get through it. It's really tough but you can handle it and will be so proud of yourself when you do. I read a post a few months back about a STM who was so happy to have her husband take their older child away for the weekend and "all she had to do" was take care of the new baby. Just always put things in perspective for me.
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    My DH had to go away for 2 weeks in August, and I dreaded it. It was actually MUCH easier than I expected, and went by surprisingly fast. 

    What helped make the time pass for me, was to make lots of plans and keep busy. I had play dates, invited girlfriends over to have supper with me, had my mom over to visit. I basically tried to give myself something to do and to look forward to each day, even if it was something small. 

    It only took LO a few minutes to warm up to him when he got home. 

    You can do it!!

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    Not sure if it would work but could you go with him?
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    My H is home for combined total of probably 3 moths a year. So maybe he'll be home for a week here or a couple days there... I'm not going to lie.. It's hard as shit to raise my girls without help. But it is , what it is.. Just know it's as hard for your H as it is for you. Him missing Halloween is hard but remember that she is so little she will not care:) its much more emotional for you. Just do the best you can woh what you have. That is what I tell myself when I am feeling down about my parenting. If I lose my temper too quick or am just so frustrated I go and sit my DDs in front of the TV for awhile. Some may look down on it, but I need to do what is best for me too and sometimes it's just 30 mins to myself. You can do it!! Good luck mama.
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    My husband was just gone for work this past week for a whole week and I work full time. I managed. It was rough in the mornings getting ready and out the door to daycare and then work but it wasnt so bad. You just have to let them cry and play by themselves for a bit that was the hardest part.  We survived! You can do it!!  It will go by faster than you think and then youll be so happy when your husband is home and make you thankful for not being a single parent!!!
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    My H is in and out for work a lot. It was the hardest thing I've ever done during the newborn phase, since I didn't have any family or friends in the area. Now, it's not bad at all, and sometimes it almost feels easier because the baby and I get our own rhythm going without his crazy schedule messing it up. It's hard to know you don't get that evening back up, but the time goes quickly if you stay busy. You can do it!
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    My husband is just about to leave for his first business trip since the baby was born.   I have the option of going with him...but the drives with LO are pretty soul crushing so I am going to go solo for a couple days with the exception of a few hours help with a mother's helper.

    I am not really sure what to expect but it is times like this that I do wish I lived closer to friends and family...we have just moved to a new place and I really don't know any one yet.

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    Good luck! I second what @kmcd23 said- sometimes it is easier when it's just you and your LO because it's all about you two and there is no one else there to accommodate (or judge you on lack of kitchen cleaning and whatnot). Just remember- all you have to do is exactly what you usually do! I have found that times like these help *me* reach "Mommy Milestones" out of necessity, like the "leaving the baby safely by herself to play for 15 minutes" milestone, or "of course I can get out and go to the grocery store with a baby" milestone, or "oh wow, she can go 4 hours in between some feedings these days after all" milestone.

    I tend to get stuck myself and sometimes Lexie has outgrown my preconceived notions of her capabilities and need a little change-up to help ME grow with her.
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    All of this exactly ^
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    H is a chef so he is never home. Like he goes into work for 9 and comes home at midnight. I get lonely and frustrated but I try to go out at least one a day to see other moms or friends just so it doesn't feel like it's just me and LO all day. Also I take everything in increments. Like the day is split up into nap to nap intervals, so I just have to get through te next two hours. GL you'll be awesome. You got this.
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    Thank you ladies for all your advice. Now I am looking forward to just mommy and Allie time. It's just that these past few weeks have been so hard with sleep regression it makes me want to cry thinking I have to go through it alone. However I am alone during the day and we make it through, whether there are 1 nap, 2 naps or no naps. 

    DH worked late the other night and A gave herself a massive oatmeal facial during dinner and I had to bathe her. I was nervous cause DH always does it with me but I did it all by myself and I felt so proud lol. 

    I guess I'll take it one day at a time and make lots of plans! If i have any melt downs I'm sure you'll hear about them! He leaves sunday night.. :(


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