I just really need honest (maybe hard to hear) advice.
The backstory: After reading the box of my meds from my failed IVF cycle which said May of 2014, I knew DH and I wouldn't be ready to cycle by then. I had a 900 Follistim pen and an ovridrel trigger shot. So, I offered to donate them to a friend who is at the very start of her iui journey. She is still doing Femara for goodness sakes. But, the kindness bug bit me and I wanted to help her in case she needed the meds. Nice, right?
Well, DH and I were opening them and getting them all packed and in the cooler so we could send them in the morning and happened to look at the expiration date on the actual meds themselves...September of 2015. Crap. HUGE CRAP! We would definitely use these by then and we're talking over $1000 in meds. DH is totally against sending them and I really think he'd be really ticked if we did donate them since we could still use them. But I feel HORRIBLE since I have been setting up this donation to her for a few weeks.
So, I guess my question is, what would you do? Deep down, I want to keep them, but I will feel absolutely horrible telling her. She was so freaking excited to get them. DH has the philosophy that we had to buy them ourselves and she can, too. He's a little more heartless than I am!
Let it fly. I know the right thing to do, but I'm hoping someone out there can make me feel better and tell me to do what I really want to do, which is keep them for our next cycle. I mean, that was the original plan for them anyway. Had I noticed the actual exp date and not the random date on the box, this would never have been an issue in the first place. I feel like such a flipping idiot. What the heck do I say to her??? I'm leaning toward honesty being the best policy on this one.
ttc #2 since 2004 Me (35): Stage 3 Endo, DH (34): High DNA Frag
IVF/ICSI #2: April 2014: BFP!!!!!!
ET of 2 great quality embryos. + BFP on 9dp5dt. Beta #1 (10dp5dt): 257, Beta #2 (14dp5dt): 1561,
Beta #3 (21dp5d5): 8,172. Wow. It seems this is actually working. Shocked beyond belief.
1st u/s @6w5d: Baby A hb 124, Baby B hb 127 (Both measuring perfectly!)
Lost baby A. Praying that baby B stays healthy. Baby B hb 175 at 11 weeks
It's a GIRL!!!