Baby #2 soon?

kmornelas29

I am currently a SAHM and had my first DD March 28th. She is my one and only LO.

Lately, hubby n I are contemplating having number 2 sooner than we thought!

I graduated with my teaching credential and masters June of 2012, which means I have 5 years from that date to do BTSA, and clear my credential. BTSA on average takes 2 years to complete and must be done the first two years of teaching. If it's not done in 5 years you can sometimes apply for a year extension, but after that your credential basically "expires" as if you never did it.

My choices are have another baby soon, like TTC in May of 2014, and go back to teaching and clear my credential and continue working once my youngest is at least one year old.

OR

Go back to work September 2014, work two years just to clear my credential, then quite, and be a SAHM again, and have more kids.

We want 2 to 3 kids, and I feeling torn! I want that one on one with my daughter for as long as possible, but I also want to get the "baby" stage done all at once, so I'm not getting a job n quitting 2 years after getting it!

BTW we just built a custom home with a master bedroom and room for DD, so where would we put baby #2 if we decided to TTC sooner!?

WWYD!? Anyone else thinking of TTC soon?

SidraJedi

Option#2
I'd wait. In fact, I am waiting.
Personally I enjoy the one on one as well and my parents had the 3 of us too close together IMO (3 under 3 for the first three months of the life of the youngest; August '82, March '84 and May '85). I was kind of a miserable toddler and we all fought like a pack of cats for a few years biting and clawing and screaming. I'm giving DD the attention I always wanted and couldn't receive.
Andplusalso DH and I have a lot going on as far as figuring out the script of our lives/future (sounds like you might too) and need to get used to being parents before we have a second.
We are both excited about getting to a space where we can have #2+ though
Good luck in whatever you decide!

jafiorino

We want ours to be about 2 years apart. Me and my brother are two years apart and are best friends, loved having him throughout school, etc. I have a younger sister who is 9 and 7 yrs apart from us and the gap stinks. Only now that she is older we are getting close, and she kind of grew up as an only child because for the bulk of the years she remembers we were in high school and college so we weren't around--- so she still gets jealous of me and my brother sometimes whenever my parents give us attention. Also stinks that she's still in HS so likely won't have a baby soon, so my DD won't have cousins for a long time! 

Blondie1212

I'm not saying this in a rude way- but you built a custom home with just two bedrooms knowing that you wanted 2-3 kids? You'll have to see where you stand fiancially. If teaching is your ultimate dream then I think you need to figure out which plan is the best for you. If you want the baby stage over all at once it sounds like you already decided to ttc now.

ashleyfrylund

My sister and I shared a room our whole lives and we are super close!

runningyogimama

This is something you and DH need to sit down and decide, not any of us.

kmornelas29

Blondie1212 said:

I'm not saying this in a rude way- but you built a custom home with just two bedrooms knowing that you wanted 2-3 kids? You'll have to see where you stand fiancially. If teaching is your ultimate dream then I think you need to figure out which plan is the best for you. If you want the baby stage over all at once it sounds like you already decided to ttc now.

Blondie1212 said:

I'm not saying this in a rude way- but you built a custom home with just two bedrooms knowing that you wanted 2-3 kids? You'll have to see where you stand fiancially. If teaching is your ultimate dream then I think you need to figure out which plan is the best for you. If you want the baby stage over all at once it sounds like you already decided to ttc now.

We started building prior to DD1 even being born, we planned to move and live there only two years. Then resale. We didn't think we would have kids do close at that time.

DanandVan

Not having enough bedrooms would not be an issue for me. Just have them share. We had our 1st two 18 mo apart , and kept them in the same room for years even though they are boy/ girl. They loved sharing a room.
I would also factor in your age and fertility, remembering that its not
always easy to conceive every time. We struggled with infertility for 2+ years with baby #3 even though we had no trouble with the first 2.
Just some more things to factor into your decision. Good luck!

smfdjo

Depends on your age and finance.  You know that best.  I will be trying soon but not quite yet.  The  lack of bedrooms isn't a big deal they can share or the new baby can be in your room for the first 6 month.   Now for resale purposes with only two bedrooms you may have an issue but that wasn't your question.  lol.  What is your main reason with having them so close.

kmornelas29

smfdjo said:

Depends on your age and finance.  You know that best.  I will be trying soon but not quite yet.  The  lack of bedrooms isn't a big deal they can share or the new baby can be in your room for the first 6 month.   Now for resale purposes with only two bedrooms you may have an issue but that wasn't your question.  lol.  What is your main reason with having them so close.

Strictly for the reason that I am guaranteed to be able to stay home and raise both until the youngest is at least 1 years old. I like being the one to raise my kids and do the "mommy caregiver" things with them at least until a year.

With room sharing it concerns me that the baby would wake up my DD if it woke in the middle of the night for a night feeding and such.

ARZamora1111

Planning to come off birth control in December for #2. We want em close and I want to get the pregnancy years done and over with. Plus, I'm keeping in mind that it could happen right away or take a little while.

kmornelas29

Runner1981 said:

kmornelas29 said:

smfdjo said:

Depends on your age and finance.  You know that best.  I will be trying soon but not quite yet.  The  lack of bedrooms isn't a big deal they can share or the new baby can be in your room for the first 6 month.   Now for resale purposes with only two bedrooms you may have an issue but that wasn't your question.  lol.  What is your main reason with having them so close.

Strictly for the reason that I am guaranteed to be able to stay home and raise both until the youngest is at least 1 years old. I like being the one to raise my kids and do the "mommy caregiver" things with them at least until a year.

With room sharing it concerns me that the baby would wake up my DD if it woke in the middle of the night for a night feeding and such.

Ok, I am going to say it. You say you "like being the one to raise my kids." I am a working mom and my son goes to daycare. I am still raising my child. It's just plain hurtful to see other moms insinuate that because some parents pay a professional to care for their children while they work (because we need a dual income), that somehow I'm not the one raising my baby.

No one here can tell you when you should have a second baby.

That's not what I meant. I can see how it was taken though. I just meant that I like to be there all day making the decisions for my child and teaching them.

I don't want someone else dictating a schedule, teaching them, etc.

I plan to work when they are older as well, but while they are babies I want to dictate all of that for them.

My mom worked and she completely raised me, but she was also the owner, so she could be home when she wanted. I see both sides, and both are great and doable.

For me, and my family, I just want to be the main caregiver, and be with them the majority of the day. Luckily, I have the option to do this.

kmornelas29

ARZamora1111 said:

Planning to come off birth control in December for #2. We want em close and I want to get the pregnancy years done and over with. Plus, I'm keeping in mind that it could happen right away or take a little while.

Same here!

ARZamora1111

Kinda sped things up...came off birth control after last period. Fingers crossed if we get pregnant this month the due date would be July 22 (Prince George's birthday) - yeah, I'm mildly obsessed