XP: need help with jealousy issue

Sketchipyro

DD is 18 months old, DS is 3 weeks old. So far DD only acts jealous when it's time to nurse DS. She has started climbing onto my lap, clinging to me and starts crying with a trembling lip. Her little face looks like I have betrayed her or I don't love her anymore. It was so sad that it made me cry tonight. What can I do to help her adjust?

bnikiz

I have no advice i just want to say im so sorry youre going thru this. I can only imagine how heart breaking it is

JenMatt2010

Could you get her a baby doll and bottle so she can be mommy's helper and feed her baby when you feed DS? So sorry, that's so tough

shelliescove3

What your going through I am sure I am about to endure... I have no advice based on experience all I can say is maybe try giving her lots of hugs before and after nursing and telling her she is such a big girl now and how much you love her/ she is such a good helper/ big sister etc. and I so hope things get better for you.

Alexandrap

I was told by my sons ped to always set aside at least 10 mins of alone time with each parent everyday. Not including bed time. Do some sort of activity where the new LO is either napping or whatever as he is not around to interrupt it. Eventually she will understand that this is HER special time with mommy/daddy and that she will get it everyday. Good luck and I hope you have lots of patience.

AshlynBlake

My DD was 2 when I had DS and we took her to pick out her own baby doll/accessories at the toy store, we REALLY made a huge fuss over it.

Then when it was time for mommy to feed the baby, she could go get her baby and feed it to.

She loved playing mommy, and she could sit next to me nicely and she felt so proud and just mimicked whatever I was doing "burping/cuddling/etc"

This helped a lot with the feedings.

Now the whole adjusting to 2 and her not acting out from the sibling took about 2 months before I felt like it was okay.