I am 31, TTC post blighted ovum on 8/15

MrsWallick

Poppy715 said:

Pink Camino said:

ktlovess said:

pregke said:

ktlovess said:

what does tl;dr mean, @pregke??

I am confused................


too long; didn't read. internet thingie.

Oh... well... let's see how will this post goes over  :-S

hunh...

so you come here wanting support and you can't take a minute to read our blog because it's "too long and an internet thingie"

well aren't you a special snowflake. 

good luck on your journey, maybe TTCAL isn't the best place for you. Places like babygaga might be more your speed. 

She was saying tl;dr was an internet thingy. Not that the blog is an internet thingy. She was meaning the acronym was an internet thingy. It's still rude because the blog is the bread and butter of the board. OP, if you know about message boards at all you know lurking and following board etiquette are important. 

Are you trying to ruffle feathers on purpose? I mean look at your "intro" for crying out loud. This whole thread is very bizarre. 

Bizarre.... That's a good word for this Poppy!

luciddreamer106

pregke said:

Ya know, I came here to be excited and revved up to get the baby dancing on, hence the "let's do this".  I had an honest mistake while trying to fix my avatar and signature.  You women attacked me.

I am going to go forward in my life and not look back on the past.  My miscarriage sucked, as yours probably did too.

Despite this, I wish you all the best.  I hope you can get pregnant and have happy, healthy children in the future.

Don't get your panties in a bunch. No one attacked you, PP were just letting you know about our board etiquette.

lindsebert

lindsayhilleary said:

pregke said:

Ya know, I came here to be excited and revved up to get the baby dancing on, hence the "let's do this".  I had an honest mistake while trying to fix my avatar and signature.  You women attacked me.

I am going to go forward in my life and not look back on the past.  My miscarriage sucked, as yours probably did too.

Despite this, I wish you all the best.  I hope you can get pregnant and have happy, healthy children in the future.

Nobody attacked you. Unbunch your panties, honey.

Also, if the blog is "too long" so you "didn't read" it, I'd suggest you just move along now. We don't need unsupportive women here.

luciddreamer106

lindsayhilleary said:

pregke said:

Ya know, I came here to be excited and revved up to get the baby dancing on, hence the "let's do this".  I had an honest mistake while trying to fix my avatar and signature.  You women attacked me.

I am going to go forward in my life and not look back on the past.  My miscarriage sucked, as yours probably did too.

Despite this, I wish you all the best.  I hope you can get pregnant and have happy, healthy children in the future.

Nobody attacked you. Unbunch your panties, honey.

Also, if the blog is "too long" so you "didn't read" it, I'd suggest you just move along now. We don't need unsupportive women here.

Jinx

uneek1323

Everyone needs to take one of these.

Why are you all wound so tight today?

Poppy715

Legit question here. @pregke, if the blog is too long to read how are you going to keep up with daily posts and threads like this one. I guarantee they get longer than the blog. You also could have read the sticky at the very beginning of the page but chose not to. No one attacked you. I'm also turned off by your statement that "ours probably did too". Why yes, delivering my daughter still at 26 weeks did suck. Thank you for getting to know anything about me and providing support. This is a hell of a way to join a group of ladies you don't know. 

pregke said:

Ya know, I came here to be excited and revved up to get the baby dancing on, hence the "let's do this".  I had an honest mistake while trying to fix my avatar and signature.  You women attacked me.

I am going to go forward in my life and not look back on the past.  My miscarriage sucked, as yours probably did too.

Despite this, I wish you all the best.  I hope you can get pregnant and have happy, healthy children in the future.

taberbtb

lindsebert

lindsayhilleary said:

uneek1323 said:

Everyone needs to take one of these.

Why are you all wound so tight today?

Who are you referring to besides Ms.Pregke?

Wondering this as well

jap618

Pink Camino said:

pregke said:

So, I can't post my partial name as my name on here?  I had a miscarriage.  Wow, maybe I don't need to be on this page at all.  You people are mean.  I guess I'll just go try and conceive post miscarriage elsewhere until my avatar and signature catch up to my post.  Sorry for trying to get excited about ovulation.  Geez.

Okay, please relax.

Keep in mind that this board is full of women who are in different stages of their losses. Some are actively miscarrying, others are recovering from D&Cs and some are months or even years out from their latest loss. As a result, clearly we're very protective of the board and prefer not to see positive pee sticks, hugely pregnant bumps and baby pictures. I'm sure you understand.

Having said that, this truly is a wonderful place full of super caring and protective women. Please feel free to stick around and get to know us better. Giving support around here goes a heck of a long way. Also, not getting all hot and bothered when someone disagrees with your or point out that something you said/did is hurtful is really no big issue. Apologize and move on okay?

I'm so sorry for your loss and that you find yourself here. Feel free to read the blog which is linked at the top of the board or in my siggy. There is a ton of super useful information in there.

All of this.  I'm sorry for your loss & Welcome to the board.  I hope your stay is short!

lindsebert

MissMheMhe said:

lindsebert said:

lindsayhilleary said:

uneek1323 said:

Everyone needs to take one of these.

Why are you all wound so tight today?

Who are you referring to besides Ms.Pregke?

Wondering this as well

So does this gif mean I'm the one that needs the xanax? I'm not sure since it's just a gif with no explanation. I'm not wound up at all today, though

DadToBe2013

Hmm so this specific board is "TTC After a loss"..trying to conceive..you all jumped on her for getting excited and talking about trying to conceive? Waa she has an avi of something pregnancy related? OMG on a pregnancy board?! What in the actual hell, burn her at the stake! /Sarcasm

I understand you are all at different stages of grief/hurting but really, try understand it from HER point of view from just your own (like you've all so nicely told her to). We all deal with grief differently, she was able to move on and try again and you made her feel awful about it. Shame on most of you *waiving finger furiously*

Signed, another new (about to be non) member.

HeyMrsPotter

DadToBe2013 said:

Hmm so this specific board is "TTC After a loss"..trying to conceive..you all jumped on her for getting excited and talking about trying to conceive? Waa she has an avi of something pregnancy related? OMG on a pregnancy board?! What in the actual hell, burn her at the stake! /Sarcasm

I understand you are all at different stages of grief/hurting but really, try understand it from HER point of view from just your own (like you've all so nicely told her to). We all deal with grief differently, she was able to move on and try again and you made her feel awful about it. Shame on most of you *waiving finger furiously*

Signed, another new (about to be non) member.

Got my white night square covered!

lindsebert

DadToBe2013 said:

Hmm so this specific board is "TTC After a loss"..trying to conceive..you all jumped on her for getting excited and talking about trying to conceive? Waa she has an avi of something pregnancy related? OMG on a pregnancy board?! What in the actual hell, burn her at the stake! /Sarcasm

I understand you are all at different stages of grief/hurting but really, try understand it from HER point of view from just your own (like you've all so nicely told her to). We all deal with grief differently, she was able to move on and try again and you made her feel awful about it. Shame on most of you *waiving finger furiously*

Signed, another new (about to be non) member.

Yeah, you're right, we shamed her for wanting to TTC again...

HeyMrsPotter

MissMheMhe said:

I heart you, @MissMheMhe.

carlsonbaby2014

DadToBe2013 said: Hmm so this specific board is "TTC After a loss"..trying to conceive..you all jumped on her for getting excited and talking about trying to conceive? Waa she has an avi of something pregnancy related? OMG on a pregnancy board?! What in the actual hell, burn her at the stake! /Sarcasm

I understand you are all at different stages of grief/hurting but really, try understand it from HER point of view from just your own (like you've all so nicely told her to). We all deal with grief differently, she was able to move on and try again and you made her feel awful about it. Shame on most of you *waiving finger furiously*

Signed, another new (about to be non) member.
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Looks like someone didn't read the whole thread and the many times she was politely directed to update the avatar, put a warning in her title, read the blog, and apologize.  Oops.  

Since you don't know how to read things from start to finish, it's probably best you be on your way. 

carlsonbaby2014

@lindsayhilleary - I know right?  Pardon me while I ....:-&

gscoville

DadToBe2013 said:

Hmm so this specific board is "TTC After a loss"..trying to conceive..you all jumped on her for getting excited and talking about trying to conceive? Waa she has an avi of something pregnancy related? OMG on a pregnancy board?! What in the actual hell, burn her at the stake! /Sarcasm

I understand you are all at different stages of grief/hurting but really, try understand it from HER point of view from just your own (like you've all so nicely told her to). We all deal with grief differently, she was able to move on and try again and you made her feel awful about it. Shame on most of you *waiving finger furiously*

Signed, another new (about to be non) member.

And who are you now?

I just love when someone no one knows tries to school a well-functioning and established board on their own rules. Like an acountant walking into a hospital and telling a surgeon how to perform a heart transplant.

So Dadtobe, where on earth is it ok to walk into an established group and not try to learn the rules beforehand? In real life, would you walk into a loss group waving a positive peestick in front of you while exclaiming "let's do this"? Because that is what OP did with her peestick pic. She was told what the rules are here and where to find them (i.e. change your avatar, read our blog for board etiquette), just as would happen anywhere you go if rules are broken or ignored, but then chose to dismiss those established and published resources with a flippant "too long, didn't read". Would that defence work with a cop who stopped me for speeding? Ignorance of the rules or being too damn lazy to read them means I don't get a speeding ticket, right??

Poppy715

snegde said:

@Dadtobe2013 do you have a penis.

Also since I clearly missed a few things did OP change her original post? Or was it always the intro I see now.

I quoted her original. It was basically let's do this. Also with a + pee stick avatar.

alilbear

snegde said:

@Dadtobe2013 do you have a penis. Also since I clearly missed a few things did OP change her original post? Or was it always the intro I see now.

Oh @snegde, you make me laugh.

Poppy715

snegde said:

Poppy715 said:

snegde said:

@Dadtobe2013 do you have a penis.

Also since I clearly missed a few things did OP change her original post? Or was it always the intro I see now.

I quoted her original. It was basically let's do this. Also with a + pee stick avatar.

A pee stick avatar? Was the picture of poop or the seman sample cup photo already taken? That's just gross!?

I wasn't able to see if there were any droplets so I'll just give her the benefit of the doubt.

PinkCamino

woah @DadToBe2013 you used your very first post to scold us.....

Poppy715

Pink Camino said:

woah @DadToBe2013 you used your very first post to scold us.....

What a waste. I wonder what I wasted my first post on.

uneek1323

Yes, the OP obviously needs to chill. But now we're upset over "let's do this" and her sn? I don't know. I just seems like we're finding any reason to get upset these days. And then it escalated. Like it always does. 

lindsebert

uneek1323 said:

Yes, the OP obviously needs to chill. But now we're upset over "let's do this" and her sn? I don't know. I just seems like we're finding any reason to get upset these days. And then it escalated. Like it always does. 

Personally, I didn't mention her sn. I was asking her to put warnings about her siggy and avatar. None of this upset me today, but I knew there would be posters that it did bother.

ashellypnut

Yes, the OP obviously needs to chill. But now we're upset over "let's do this" and her sn? I don't know. I just seems like we're finding any reason to get upset these days. And then it escalated. Like it always does. 

@uneek1323 You know I love you right? Ok, good. I have to tell you that I seriously side-eyed your post. Have you read this whole thread? It's not just her odd "Lets do this" and her SN it was also her avatar & ticker.

Several people tried to steer her in the right direction by asking her to change her avatar & her ticker and to put a warning in the title, also to read the blog & sticky posts and to post a proper intro. However she was rude when she said that the blog was too long to read, called us mean for suggesting these things, said she felt like crap and threatened to 'take her ball and play elsewhere'. Then she claimed that we attacked her after which she said that our miscarriages *probably* sucked as much as hers did. Um, insensitive much?! Then to have the thread white knighted just wraps up that whole train wreck.

By suggesting that WE take a Xanax was uncalled for IMO. We have the right to defend this community against lazy, insensitive, uninformed people who refuse to put forth a little effort in order to understand this community. Every single one of us took the time to read that blog, even helped by contributing to it, why can't the OP? The rules aren't different for her so why should our responses be?