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  • amberproamberpro
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    Received my list of expectations for my teacher evaluation this year. Among my regular duties she is expecting me to:

    1. Do the yearbook
    2. Coach an OM team
    3. Head up our school's part in the district philanthropy
    4. Tutor a testing grade (after school)... With both general ed and bilingual students (mind you I do not speak fluent or even conversational Spanish)
    5. Chair the new teacher support team
    6. I have 3 mentees

    Has she forgotten I'm having a BABY this year? And will be out for a fair amount of time after Christmas??

    I love my students. But I love my own family more. I'm not willing to sacrifice my family life for all this extra. I will be pumping on my breaks and not staying at school for all hours while leaving a newborn and 2 year old at home. Not to mention sleep deprivation until DS2 STTN.

    Question is, how do I tell a tough as balls principal with something to prove that she has unrealistic expectations of me without pissing her off?

    I've been way too stressed this school year, and I'm only in week 6.

    ETA: I forgot to add Benefits Coordinator. My head hurts.
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  • That sounds like a lot. Do other teacher's duties look similar? If not, then I would let her know that while you appreciate her faith in your abilities you feel that you would be unable to give 100% which would not be fair to anyone involved. I would probably pick the duty that you would least like to do and ask that it be reassigned if possible.

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  • I am sitting here for my 1 hour test. They sent the only lab tech to another lab even though the second lab tech has not arrived. There had better be a lab tech here when it is time for my draw.

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  • Oh man! It's too early for this already! But here I go.... DH told me Friday that work has asked him a third time to go to Germany again for two weeks in December. He keeps telling them no. I don't get it?! We both work for the same company and I waddle past the guy who keeps asking office everyday to use the bathroom and leave the building. Am I clearly not pregnant?! He has conversations with me at least once a week.
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  • Eggerkr said:
    Oh man! It's too early for this already! But here I go.... DH told me Friday that work has asked him a third time to go to Germany again for two weeks in December. He keeps telling them no. I don't get it?! We both work for the same company and I waddle past the guy who keeps asking office everyday to use the bathroom and leave the building. Am I clearly not pregnant?! He has conversations with me at least once a week.
    What do they need him to go for? It obviously sounds important!
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  • @amberpro That list looks exhausting. Is that her wish list or does she really expect you to take on these responsibilities with a new baby? I'd tell her you need to pick the one or two she'd most like you to do, and find someone else for the rest.
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  • Had a hard time sleeping last night cuz my upper back was aching no matter how I positioned myself, and this morning when I woke up- a lovely sinus headache was there to greet me. I can barely keep my eyes open.

    Screw Mondays!

    (Not as serious as pp's problems .. But I felt like complaining and the opportunity presented itself!)

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  • I have so much vag pressure that it hurts to walk. It's going to be a long 3 months.
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  • KateMW said:

    This is going to make me sound like a crazy person, but I'm OK with. 


    I play Temple Run every night to go to bed. I played and did the daily challenge 172 days in a row and was planning on keeping my streak alive until the day I delivered. Yesterday the game had a hiccup and froze for the whole day. Now my streak is gone, even though I did the daily challenge before it froze. I HATE TEMPLE RUN for messing me up.
    This happened to me last winter when I was obsessed with Hay Day. I feel your pain.
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  • Traffic...need I say more, I have to pee and you're going at least 10 under the speed limit GET OUT OF MY WAY! Also car insurance company that I switched from over six months ago where is my refund check?????
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  • I probably got about 3 hours of sleep last night. Between LO having a party and an awful stomachache, I definitely saw every hour or every half hour...idk how I'll survive today.

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  • Stressing out about the looming government shutdown, and how I will get to come into work for free next week if it's not resolved by then.

    Also, fell down some stairs at my house this weekend, as my balance apparently totally off with the belly.  Looks like my husband will be carrying the laundry up the stairs from now on!  Was able to turn my body to not hit the belly, but now my leg is hurting. 

     

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  • I'm going to see a counselor  this afternoon as my OB thinks I'm showing signs of depression....

    I've never seen a counselor before and to be honest I don't even want to get out of my pj's 
  • n8swife said:

    I have so much vag pressure that it hurts to walk. It's going to be a long 3 months.

    Sorry!! Glad I'm not the only one though. I am going through this too. Is this only likely to get worse? I thought it was a phase. Damn.
  • I have really been hating DH lately! He had a stupid car project for a client that he made no money on and that took all of his time up over the summer ( we fought about it all summer). That car is now gone and things were getting back to normal and he starts another fucking car project for himself! Then he has nerve to complain to me that he needs to spend a few hours on the weekend for himself working on cars. WTF! Do I do ANYTHING for myself? No! 

    So after 4 hours on Saturday and another four hours yesterday working on cars he didn't do any of the yard work that had to be done not did we do anything fun with DS. The Sprinkle is at our house (long dramatic story with MiL) in two weeks and we have his whole family staying with us from out of town. The weeds and bushes in the back of the house are so over grown and he hasn't let me hire anyone to do it. We got into a big fight about it because he said no one is going to see it. We have a walk out finished basement that literally walks out to the weeds and we're planning on setting up tables/chairs on the back deck that over looks the weeds. So I'm calling someone today to come take care of it and he could get the fuck over it. It's ridiculous that he will spend countless hours on cars but can't manage to handle some simple yard work. Ugh!!!!
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  • I'm going to see a counselor  this afternoon as my OB thinks I'm showing signs of depression....


    I've never seen a counselor before and to be honest I don't even want to get out of my pj's 
    Ah Frankie, I'm sorry to hear this but you know what, it's prob a really good thing. You've been on bed rest and had lots going on so at least you can unload some thoughts etc which will only do you good.

    As nortport said, go in your pj's! No judgement here!! x
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  • @northport6 ;


    Apart from worrying about LO I really have nothing to vent about. I'm more worried about what DH has to say. We have told each other, that whatever we say to each other stays in that room, but we will act upon what we have said at home without any judgement or resentment and to honour each other's opinions. 

    Not too sure if that is the best way to start, but it is a start I guess :-/
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  • @northport6 ;



    Apart from worrying about LO I really have nothing to vent about. I'm more worried about what DH has to say. We have told each other, that whatever we say to each other stays in that room, but we will act upon what we have said at home without any judgement or resentment and to honour each other's opinions. 

    Not too sure if that is the best way to start, but it is a start I guess :-/
    That's a very strong place to start! Even if all you have to discuss is the anxiety your medical issues have caused, it's always good to have that outlet open to you as you move further in the process. ::hugs::

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  • NYMama1 said:

    That sounds like a lot. Do other teacher's duties look similar? If not, then I would let her know that while you appreciate her faith in your abilities you feel that you would be unable to give 100% which would not be fair to anyone involved. I would probably pick the duty that you would least like to do and ask that it be reassigned if possible.


    That's good advice. Thank you. I think the problem is I'm the G/T teacher and she's unaware of all my job entails ( I have a district supervisor that oversees all teachers in the gifted department as well). She's a first year principal.

    I need to talk with her and at least ask to be relieved of OM. TBH, though, she's a little scary. Which is why I'm going to suck up the rest for now, I guess :(.

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  • Oh I hope the day gets better for everyone.

    Baby and I had a talk... Well, I lectured. I have lower back pain and stomach stuff that if memory serves (and it WAS almost 11 yrs ago), was how I started the only labour I've ever experienced.
    9 weeks from today is B-Day. Not before, Baby!!

    I know I haven't had as much to drink this weekend, so I'm taking it easy and hydrating unless things escalate.

    So not ready- she's teeny and needs to stay right where she is!!
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    @frankierokx big hugs.
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    So I don't think there are enough snickers in the world to help this mood. My coworkers have been warned! I think i'm running on 10 hours of sleep for the past 3 days.
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  • @northport6 ;



    Apart from worrying about LO I really have nothing to vent about. I'm more worried about what DH has to say. We have told each other, that whatever we say to each other stays in that room, but we will act upon what we have said at home without any judgement or resentment and to honour each other's opinions. 

    Not too sure if that is the best way to start, but it is a start I guess :-/
    That's a very strong place to start! Even if all you have to discuss is the anxiety your medical issues have caused, it's always good to have that outlet open to you as you move further in the process. ::hugs::


    And it could very well help you and your DH in ways you might not be aware of right now.

    Anything to help is good and to be offered that kind of support in the NHS is pretty great. My sister was on a wait list for CBT counselling for over a year!!

    If it helps, great, if not, no harm done. At least it gets you out of the house ;) xx
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  • amberpro said:

    Received my list of expectations for my teacher evaluation this year. Among my regular duties she is expecting me to:

    1. Do the yearbook
    2. Coach an OM team
    3. Head up our school's part in the district philanthropy
    4. Tutor a testing grade (after school)... With both general ed and bilingual students (mind you I do not speak fluent or even conversational Spanish)
    5. Chair the new teacher support team
    6. I have 3 mentees

    Has she forgotten I'm having a BABY this year? And will be out for a fair amount of time after Christmas??

    I love my students. But I love my own family more. I'm not willing to sacrifice my family life for all this extra. I will be pumping on my breaks and not staying at school for all hours while leaving a newborn and 2 year old at home. Not to mention sleep deprivation until DS2 STTN.

    Question is, how do I tell a tough as balls principal with something to prove that she has unrealistic expectations of me without pissing her off?

    I've been way too stressed this school year, and I'm only in week 6.

    ETA: I forgot to add Benefits Coordinator. My head hurts.


    That's insane! Talk about unrealistic expectations...:(
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  • n8swife said:

    I have so much vag pressure that it hurts to walk. It's going to be a long 3 months.

    Sorry!! Glad I'm not the only one though. I am going through this too. Is this only likely to get worse? I thought it was a phase. Damn.
    I honestly have no idea if it lasts or if it's a phase. I didn't have this with my last pregnancy. I hope it doesn't last but I'm guessing it will only get worse as he gets bigger!

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  • so tired of being tired. seriously. and getting up to pee so so often in the night. these are minor problems, i know.

     

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  • Went to dinner last night with DH, FIL, FIL's long time girlfriend, and DH's Grandparents. My FIL likes to joke with me about riding home our newborn on a motorcycle since motorcycles are a big deal in our family. He obviously is only saying it to get under my skin so I usually just laugh it off rather than engage. Last night, no joke, his GIRLFRIEND who has a habit of being obnoxious about giving advice, argued with me for about 10 minutes about how it isn't illegal to ride an infant on a motorycle! She grabbed my leg and told me to read the motorcycle handbook that the DMV has because it says nothing in there about allowing an INFANT TO RIDE A MOTORCYCLE. Is she nuts or what???
     
     
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  • My body does not know wither it wants to be sick or not, I have the sore thorat and slight congestion but it goes away. I seriously rather be sick all this week then be sick on Saturday :( I'm super going to try and drink as much oj as possible and rest. To everyone else having a crappy Monday here you go:

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  • The friggin government better get it together today. I would just adore it if my husband gets paid later this month...
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  • @SweetSouthernMomma08 @tarashea721 I have talked to him, and it isn't normally this bad, but I think he's been a bit frustrated because his team hasn't been doing that great so far. The truth is, we just applied for a loan, we paid off our mortgage on our current house, we're spending major money right now on this house stuff, and on top of it, work is crazy for him right now. He's incredibly stressed out. I take that into consideration, and he pretty much gets a free pass to dive head-first into fantasy football, because it's his escape from the insane amount of pressure on him. I'm seriously annoyed by it, but I guess I feel like he deserves a break, so I'm bitching about it here instead of to him :)
     
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  • I went to visit my sick mother this weekend. It was nice and relaxing until my dad came. I posted a long time ago about my sister's planning an AC trip for his birthday on top of an expensive photo shoot (plus buying a canvas for the photo etc). I thought the whole thing was so absurd. I haven't received presents from my parents in years. I told them hell no. We have a baby on the way and a house under renovation and I can't afford to even get DH a birthday, xmas or anniversary gift this year. Somehow I gave in and agreed to the photo shoot but that was it. I told them if they wanted the canvas they could get and sign their names to it and the AC trip was out. Now they told me they want to do a photobook online instead of the canvas and want to split the cost 3 ways. Then on top of it my dad is saying to me at dinner that he expects me at the AC trip. It is my anniversary weekend and DH's birthday!! My son's biological father will actually have a visitation with my son that Sat night so it's a rare night for me and DH to celebrate our anniversary. I told my dad that and he says, "I only turn 60 once". yea and I only have a second wedding anniversary once. If he wanted us to all be there so bad I don't know why they didn't book it until the next weekend. And I'm pregnant. What am I going to do in AC? Plus all the money I spent already for his birthday. He literally said to me that "he does so much for us and this is all he is asking of us and it's not a lot" YES IT IS! It's asking us to give up our anniversary and spend even more money we don't have. And I think he's confused. He does SO much for my older sister while I struggle day in and day out. He did a lot for us growing up but he doesn't help me now.  It felt good to vent that out.

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