Adoption

I am a birthmother

I have posted before, but not much but I saw the post about titles. I actually have no problem with the title Birthmother. I am the one who gave birth to her. I do not see it as that was my only purpose though. I gave her life for someone else to raise because I was unable to at the time she was born. I do not like the term first mom personally, just because that implies to me that I won a race and should get a prize. I completed an adoption plan, and while I did surrender my rights to raise her and be called her legal parent...I am ALWAYS her mother. My daughter is almost 7 1/2 and is lucky enough to have 2 mothers in this world...and both love her very much. She is always in my thoughts and prayers. My husband and I are expecting our first child together, and while I will love our daughter, that does not mean I will love either one of them less. I am just at a time in my life when I can take care of a child and myself.

I do not mean this to flame or offend anyone, I just thought you might like to see someone else's perspective on the topic.

Re: I am a birthmother

  • Thanks for sharing, you made me all weepy, in a good way. :)
  • Thank you for sharing your heart.  I so appreciated reading your perspective and experience.  I with you all the best in your pregnancy and delivery and I agree, your eldest daughter is incredibly blessed to have 2 loving mothers!!!
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  • Thanks for your perspective.
  • Thank you for posting. I agree with this, as I am a "birthmother" also. I actually started to cry (happy tears) when my daughter called me her birthmom the first time. It is a good feeling to know that I am special in her life, as she is in mine.
    Pg #1: 4/02/02- 40w5d - Healthy baby girl adopted out

    Pg #2: Missed m/c ~11w - d&c 10/27/08

    Pg #3: Missed m/c ~7w - d&c 6/29/09

    Pg #4: 12/03/10- 41w - Healthy babe boy

    Pg #5: EDD 8/03/13

    Buddies: Cowgirl and kelinandkevin

    Again?

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  • Hugs all around! The birthmother to my DD and niece will ALWAYS be a part of our lives. I even staged a photo shoot for all three of her children together for Christmas and had it framed.

    Peace to you!

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  • Thanks for sharing!  Your willingness to be open is appreciated.
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  • Thank you for sharing! Congrats and best wishes.
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  • I could have written this post, except K is a bit younger. :)

    Congrats on your pregnancy and thanks for chiming in.?

  • I agree completely.  I am my daughter's birthmother.  Perhaps if I'd parented past delivery, First Mom would be more appropriate.
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