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babycakes

If the older kid hits the younger kid and you don't see it, do you still discipline the older kid?

This has happened a few times and I usually just give G a warning.  Because I didn't actually see it, I'm not 100% certain thats what happened.  When I ask G, obviously he'll say he didn't do anything.  Now, I'm starting to think that G understands if he can hit B on the sly, he won't get in trouble.

What do you guys do?

jnicolen1

if i dont see it, but im sure he did it, he gets a "break". aka time out.  but he always admits it

EMOmamma

jnicolen1 said:

if i dont see it, but im sure he did it, he gets a "break". aka time out.  but he always admits it

Same. I usually say something like "things are getting too crazy, guess we're done with [insert activity or toy here]". If I know he did something mean on purpose he gets a break too.

bosha711

jnicolen1 said:

if i dont see it, but im sure he did it, he gets a "break". aka time out.  but he always admits it

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Serendipity117

bosha711 said:

jnicolen1 said:

if i dont see it, but im sure he did it, he gets a "break". aka time out.  but he always admits it

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enjoylife

Serendipity117 said:

bosha711 said:

jnicolen1 said:

if i dont see it, but im sure he did it, he gets a "break". aka time out.  but he always admits it

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Ditto.
Also it takes a lot to get J really upset sooooo if he's crying then A almost always has done "something" whether its hitting/pushing or taking a toy away. Only warnings A gets is if I see him about to push or hit etc otherwise he does time out, even if it doesn't make the baby cry.

babycakes

So your big kiddos actually admit to hurting the lil kiddos??  Maybe G is evil lol.

jnicolen1

babycakes said:

So your big kiddos actually admit to hurting the lil kiddos??  Maybe G is evil lol.

or you could look at it as ours are.  oliver is more like "ya, i hit him, he mad me mad", in a "of course i did it, he deserved it" kind of way.

babycakes

jnicolen1 said:

babycakes said:

So your big kiddos actually admit to hurting the lil kiddos??  Maybe G is evil lol.

or you could look at it as ours are.  oliver is more like "ya, i hit him, he mad me mad", in a "of course i did it, he deserved it" kind of way.

LOL thats kinda funny