Rude People - vent!

tlf830

Hi everyone, I am expecting twins in the spring, we used IVF. Every time I tell someone that we're having twins, they ask "Fertility or Natural?" They have some nerve!!!! Do you ever get this - if so, what do you say?

KatieGummow

So rude!  (I'm not showing yet so can't be of help)  You should just say "we'll never know" and walk away, people will be dumbfounded.

Scorpgirl444

Just wait.   The comments get way worse than that!

Mthurm17

I sometimes get that comment. Mostly people ask if twins run in our family. When I say no, they stare at me awkwardly and wait for me To divulge more info. I typically add "we were really surprised and feel so blessed!" Kill 'em with kindness, sister! I'm sure we'll get that question forever!

YouMe&Bax

I agree with @Scorpgirl444 - the comments will just get worse!  

Try and find a response that makes you feel comfortable - and slightly snarky.  I hate that question b/c it makes babies conceived with infertility med/support sound like they are made of plastic, like barbie dolls.  Ugh!! 

LittleLady77

I say "why do you ask?" It usually shuts people up. If I get the "do twins run in your family?" I say, they do now. It bugs the crap out of me.

macchiatto

Yeah, I know some MoMs do mind, but it's pretty intrusive. I wish people had better filters. I agree; why does it matter. Like a pp, I'll often ask "Why do you ask?"

Toni828

This is just the beginning! It doesn't end after they are born. Most people these days don't know how to give others their privacy, nor to they have filters on their mouths and just say what they think.  It's unfortunate.

JTA2426

I've gotten both of those questions and while mine were spontaneous and do not run in our families, it still makes me mad! People act like they don't believe me.

Rynleigh

Tell'em you used a pack of sea monkeys! 

BoeingBabies

They are right, it only gets worse.  I have one brunette who looks like me physically but has very curly girlish hair, and one red head who looks like her dad(except the hair, neither of us has red).  The comments range from:
1.  "Oh, two boys!! "(love this comment when I have them in head to toe pink with bows, and a pink blanket)
2.  "So who's older?"  me: I point to the red head.  "Wow, so do you think the other will have red hair when she's her sisters age?"  me: "In 20 minutes?  Probably not" them: Well, it's not like their twins!  me: "Yes, they are"  them: "No they are not."  me: 'uhm, they were in utero together, born same day, same mom, same dad, what ELSE do you call it"....
3.  "Well, you have your hands full, not going to have any more... ARE YOU???"  Because the federal limit is now 2 children per couple when you have been married for 5 years, and have careers to afford more.  Please folks, lets all stop at 2 to same the poor old granny from a heart attack.
4.  "So you adopted!  Congratulations! She will always thank you for saving her".....me:"What are you talking about"  them: "Your kiddo, you adopted!"  me: "I'm their biological mother, yes, both of them. them: "oh, two dads?" me: "Same mom, me, same dad, he's in the car, would you like to do a paternity test?" them: "but they look nothing alike!"  me: "Didn't know that was a requirement, let me give her back to the hospital and ask for a different one!"

So brace yourselves, it gets worse.  I've had arguments with people because genetically a red head couldn't possible be mine.  Yes, I've thought of dying my hair to ease her issue, but then the other will be the "adopted" one.  It just never ends.

sunkiss674

I'm a nurse in a busy ER and constantly get asked if twins run in my family and I just tell them yes. (we did IVF) Usually they start off by asking when I'm due and when I tell them they respond with well you either have twins or just gained a lot of weight. I'm always left thinking what if I was only pregnant with one and thanks for reminding me of my expanding pregnant belly. People are just rude but I like to think they are just jealous

ashleighlt

I would respond "yes natural, they were not conceived or carried in a test tube and they are not made if synthetic material."