Married... I want to go back to your comment about my agency, I think I need to start a post because I have been struggling with many things regarding the agency we chose.
Yes, they would not allow me to use "dear expectant parent" because in their words it put too much focus on the baby. This should have been a huge red flag for me, but I assumed as a touted, national agency that they knew way more than I did.
We chose this agency because we thought they were focused on helping pregnant women facing the decision of placement versus parenting, and that they followed through with counseling and support.
I wish that I would have know a year ago what I know now, and I NEVER would have signed with this agency. But, a year into our contract, with so much emotion and money we have invested, it just isn't feasible to chose another agency.
Several things have occurred that make me so upset we are stuck with this organization. I thought they were ethical and focused on pregnancy support, not manipulation. I realize now that may not be the case. We are not like their average waiting family...I will not do "anything" to convince an expecting parent to choose us. I will not stage photographs and use buzz words in our profile. On a daily basis I question whether we are doing the right thing in sticking it out with this agency. Honestly, the only reason we do is because we know we are committed to an ethical and open adoption and will do everything we can to ensure the woman that chooses us is properly supported.
Anyway, since the post below was getting so heated, I thought my dilemna deserved another post, your thoughts are welcome.