No nicknames please

Laura_Elaine

So, I'm only 6 weeks along, but its never too early, right?

If we have a boy, DH wants to name him Daniel Matthew... Daniel after his dad, Matthew after mine. I have always loved the name Daniel... but I've never really cared for Danny or Dan. Does anyone have tips on how to correct people who will try to nickname him? Like, if they say "hello cute little Danny boy" or something, do I just say "we're calling him Daniel"...?

Also, my poor dad... I have 2 cousins with the middle name Matthew, after my dad, and my 2nd cousins' son (my 3rd cousin?) is named Matthew, after my dad. I guess there is one first name in there, but still... I just feel he's being pushed aside to the middle name spot again. Will he feel less honored, do you think?

And I'm not sure I like the flow of Daniel Matthew... two syllable last name. Matthew Daniel is not an option, though I definitely don't like that flow, so I don't mind. But DH is unwilling to budge at this point with Daniel in the MN spot because, according to him, people hardly use the MN so its not a good way to honor someone. So what does that say about using my dad's name as a MN!? I like Elijah Daniel or Boaz Daniel. (Boaz was our #1 name for DS, but we didn't like the flow with Paul, which is a traditional mn for first boys in DH's family... he is Timothy Paul, his dad is Daniel Paul.)

So... What do you all think of Daniel Matthew?

thatoneredhead

Boaz is way too biblical for me. I really love Daniel, but I wouldnt name him that if it will annoy you when people call him a nick name. You can correct them of course, but if it bugs you, I'd move on.

Even though I go by my full name, almost everyone calls me a shortened version of it when they are talking to me. It will happen.  

stahlop

You call him what you want and correct people when they try to give h a nn. When he's old enough he'll correct them himself. Trust me, as a junior high teacher I have plenty of Michael's, Elizabeth's and Rebecca's that don't go by nicknames.

ArmyWife114

I never went by a nn until I was 15 or 16, my parents always called me by my first name and just corrected people when I was younger, and eventually I started correcting people.  I go by a nn now because I'm tired of being "Jessica Last Initial."

FWIW, I think all three boy names you listed are solid choices.  I really like Elijah, Daniel and Boaz.  I'd have to say Elijah or Boaz is my favorite  (Elijah Matthew flows, so does Elijah Daniel, Boaz Matthew - not a fan but the sentiment would outrank flow IMHO).

magsugar13

I have a danilo (Daniel in Italian) and he has never been called by dan or danny...I corrected people and as he got a little older he did the same. he is grown now and still a danilo. it will take a little consistency on your part but it can be done.

 

I love Daniel matthew

I do not like boaz at all

annabelle.27

I don't think that boys' names have to "flow" as much as girls' names are expected to. Neither of my boys have full names that flow and I haven't thought too much of it. In any event, I think honouring someone with the middle name slot is way more important than worrying about name "flow" when people are only going to hear your kid's middle name when they are filling out paperwork someday.

I think both Daniel Matthew and Matthew Daniel are fine (and I agree your husband is being a little insulting with the "middle name slot isn't good enough for my dad but it is good enough for yours" attitude. I am assuming your kid will already have his paternal grandfather's last name). I don't think Daniel is a name that will automaticaaly be shortened in the same way some longer names might (ie: Christopher). I do not like Boaz at all.

Kmommy91

Just correct people for now. I adore Boaz. That's one of the top contenders if we have another son.