Compared to everyone else's wife/sister/relative

amyrose542

Anyone else tired of being compared someones female wife/sister/relative? My boss does it my co-workers do it everyone I know does it and it always seems to be in a negative, towards what you do, way....Its so weird. Is it because most men are awkward about talking to pregnant women or is it because they think your pregnancy is supposed to be the same as the one they know of? I dont get it and sometimes it makes me feel crappy, especially when its the "well my wife did this, this, this AND climbed mount Everest" kind of story. 

I usually end up thinking about what they would look like pregnant and thinking if they could tolerate it well like most women can. 

YouMe&Bax

I think it's because they are trying to relate to you - and the only way they can relate to a pregnant woman is through somebody close in their life who has been pregnant.  

amyrose542

Probably. Its just frustrating and just because I'm pregnant doesn't mean that's all i want to talk about. It would be nice if people looked past the belly and talked to me like I'm just me lol

AlwaysForgetful

I am tired of SIL comparing her to me. Congrats! You had a Csection too and had a great pain free recovery. I know you were all drugged up and your mom was there the whole time and it was your first and only Csection and never had to chase little people around. Yep, I have had several (first was easiest), MIL sadly passed away and my mother is no help, and I have little people to chase about and refused to be drugged out of my mind.

Albertsgirl1982

Another time I wish I could throat punch and not risk getting arrested.

Pearls+Oysters

SO compared me with his sisters the whole pregnancy... And now 5 months pp.

As PP pointed out, it was his only point of reference.

Men will be men... I think the nice way to say it is clueless. Hang in there, and kinda get used to it. It's only the beginning...

jnsmith85

What bothers me is women who think that bc THEY delivered early or THEY had pre-e or bc THEY swelled up like a balloon, that YOU shouldn't have a positive attitude that those things won't happen in your pregnancy. They are all "I didn't think it would happen to me either blahblah".... ugh just shut up!!!

God damn debbie downers is what they are!!!

TLRachelle

My husband's secretary keeps comparing me to her daughter in law who was due a few days ago but is "hanging in there" (I'm due in 16 days and I will not be "hanging in there" I will be getting induced with a few days of my due date). She gets all defensive like the way her family deals with everything is the only way...pisses me off. She informed me that my infant car seat is not acceptable (it's fine); she has on more than one occasion said I'm fat or eat too much or that I'm having a gargantuan baby  like the one we've been hearing about in the news (he's not 6lbs but he's not over 9lbs either), she tries to tell me she knows more about child development but her knowledge is dated, and pretty much every time I see her she says something about me being fatter than her daughter in law. I try to avoid her. But I am going in to sub-teach for my hubby on Friday for a few hours so he can go to his doctor appointment and I do not look forward to working with her. If she starts to talk about my pregnancy again, I'm just going to pretend like I'm getting a phone call and walk away...lol! It's the best I can do. Some people are just stupid and rude. 

leahaustin

I am getting sick of hearing how my other female co-worker's labor started. Everyday... "Oh, you definitely are not going into labor today...your sitting too still.."

MoofyKitten

YES! This happened to me with my boss. He always talked about how his wife got through to the 9th month working as a masseuse and I'd come home every day with really bad back pain after grooming dogs even in the 5th month of my pregnancy. I always felt like total poop, like I was being told I was lazy or somethin.

CKBlondie

Oh I have a female boss who is like this. She had 4 kids. I had to get a NST done because I had low amniotic fluid and the doctor told me it could be the result of dehydration and to drink lots of water and they would check again this week. 

My boss must have said, at least 4 times, "I have never heard of dehydration causing low amniotic fluid before!" I don't know if she didn't believe me or what. I almost gave her my doctor's phone number. 

KaylaC0514

"Oh what do you mean you can't lift this 50 lb dresser?  My wife drove across the country while she was pregnant and then drove herself to the hospital while in labor."

Yes this was a real comment that I received during my 1st pregnancy. Guess I'm just a whimp.