Shower date dilemma - just venting

megngregk

Agh. This is just a vent, feel free to ignore. It's not even really a big deal, but it's stressing me out.

My aunt, SIL (brother's wife) and my sister are throwing my shower. There's a lot going on the end of Oct/all of November, so picking a date was tricky. We settled on the 27th of October to best accommodate everybody's schedules (including guests). Then yesterday I realized that's my bff's niece's 2nd birthday (bff's mom and sister are also invited to my shower as we are very close - they're like family). I have a very small guest list, and having them there is very important to me. Bff has been in CO for the last few years, and we're both moving home this month. I've missed her like crazy. Naturally, I know she'd have to go to niece's bday party, and they'd all miss the shower. 

The following Saturday is my own niece's 2nd bday party, and we don't want to have two events the same weekend if my shower was to be that Sunday. The following two weekends don't work at all. So, we figured we would shoot for the weekend before (Oct 20th), but my sister's other daughter has her sweet 16 bday party that Saturday (how's that for an age gap?!), and it's just going to be too much for my sister to do her party and then my shower the next day.

I feel like the shower is just going to serious inconvenience somebody, and people are going to be running raged trying to attend all these parties. We almost never have anything going on in my family. Of course it would all come up at the same time!

Jmattis

Ugh that does seen stressful! Could yor sister have her daughters 2nd Birthday the same day as your friend's nieces Birthday? Usually a Birthday doesn't have as much planning involved and can be easily moved. Then that way that whole weekend will be free and you can have your shower then. I hope it works out for you. Worse comes to worse, early December maybe?

ach298

I would just have 2 events that weekend (aka the same weekend as your niece's birthday). A birthday party on Saturday and a baby shower on Sunday doesn't seem like a crazy weekend to me.

COgirl29

That sounds stressful to me! It's hard to coordinate everyone's schedules!! I hope you figure something out:)

megngregk

Ahh see, you ladies make me feel better already. I just feel like I'm inconveniencing the hosts, even though I know they are throwing the shower because they want to.

Sam&Dan05

we decided to do dec 8th, for much of the same reasons my dad bday 15 nov, nephew oct 30, dh nov 24 bro nov 26 sil nov 29.... it just goes on and on! dont forget the holidays that get thrown in there to. dec 8th was after thanksgiving and yet still far away from xmas. and i wont have to mess around w work sch either  

it all works out just keep head up and low stress.... a solution will follow

HappyDoc

I think 2 events in one weekend is fine, maybe you can have your shower on October 26? You only get one baby shower (in most cases) so hopefully people will do whatever they can to make sure they can celebrate with you!

Shannahbee

HappyDoc said:

I think 2 events in one weekend is fine, maybe you can have your shower on October 26? You only get one baby shower (in most cases) so hopefully people will do whatever they can to make sure they can celebrate with you!

I was going to suggest this too... Have your shower on Saturday the 26th instead, that way your BFF and her fam could attend... They would be guests at both your shower and your BFF's niece's birthday the next day, which is less stressful than hosting two events in one weekend (like your own sister would be doing if it was the weekend of your niece's birthday).