It's scheduled but not sure if its what I want... Long post.

MsHeather1106

So we went for our final growth scan yesterday. Feeling really discouraged and defeated. I am currently 37 weeks 4 days. My dd is September 23rd. The doctors are pushing me to have a scheduled c-section, even though at first they were supportive of trying for a VBAC. My husband is supportive but doesn't see the VBAC happening and is pushing me towards the scheduled c-section. We went ahead and scheduled it even though I am really having second thoughts on it (I don't know if I scheduled it because I am ready for him to make his appearance because of being in so much pain and uncomfortable). Baby is currently weighing it at about 8lbs and his head is measuring 32cm. With my first which was 8 years ago, he was 9lb 4 oz, 22.5 and his head measured 35.5 cm. I went into labor on my own and was progressing pretty well only to have a c-section because the doctors said his head was not coming through. When he was born there were red marks on his forehead from trying to come through. Sorry for the long post but after my appointment yesterday I am just feeling very overwhelmed. I am at the point in my pregnancy where I am totally uncomfortable, a lot of pressure and pain. I have begun to have real contractions but they are totally sporadic. I am kind of hoping I go into labor on my own before the 20th because then I can see if I can do this vaginally which I really want to do. I guess I am posting in here for support. I am over emotional as it is, and you mama's understand how it feels when you are almost at the end. Baby is head down but on his side, and he seems to like his side because he has been there for about a month and half. I am just afraid if I go into this thinking I am going to have a vaginal to only be disappointed in myself. I think that is my biggest problem. I know its okay to have a c-section if you need to but I feel like I am missing something ya know. I am a woman I should be able to do this.

Kim22

Just because your on a schedule doesn't mean you can't be taken off.

Tallulahsmom

If you want to have a vbac then you tell your doctor you are going to have a vbac. If your doctor refuses to attend it then you find a vbac friendly doc to attend. You can contact a local midwife to ask about a natural birth friendly ob in your area. Your doctor does not own you! Sorry, I just get so frustrated with hospitals and ob's acting like they own your body once you get pregnant. If you attempt a vbac and end up with a csection then atleast you will have no regrets later. Advocate for yourself. GL! 

nosoup4u

Can you find a new provider? I had a VBAC with a 10.5 lb baby (didn't know he was going to be that big!). When's your CS scheduled for? Call and request a later date, or just cancel it. I would have regretted not trying for a VBAC, even if it had turned into a RCS. Tell your DH you need his support for VBAC right now! And hang in there, you have a good chance of having a VBAC, but make sure you're giving your body as much time as possible to go into labor. Will your current OBs induce at all?

steenbean18

I'm in a very similar situation.  Mine is probably even more risky because I'll only have 12 months between births.  My doctor didn't seem concerned about the size of the baby with regard to VBAC, but the ACOG studies do show a more likely success rate if the second baby is on the smaller side.  Don't get discouraged!  But...don't feel bad if a RCS is what you have to do to get your baby here safely either.  I'm having the same feelings as you because my RCS is scheduled for weds and still no sign of baby.  Disappointment, discouragement, a feeling that I am "missing" something, and even jealousy when I hear about other mamas' birth stories. Hang in there!

steenbean18

Just saw that this is an old thread.  Hope everything went well for you @MsHeather1106