DH spoiled the fun!

dltate29

We found out yesterday that we are having a boy... very exciting.  Then came trying to coordinate how to tell all of our immediate family who ALL happen to have been traveling yesterday.  My family was headed to Nantucket and his to Hawaii.   Since my family had already arrived in Nantucket I suggested to skype them, get them all somewhat together and then send the text.   Since it doesn't make sense to send texts from both of our phones I let my husband send it out.  We went through the entire list prior to calling so he was prepared on who to send the text to.  When he sent the text to both sides of the family, he left me out.  Luckily I got to see my dad's reaction and I got to hear my other family react to the news (it was chaotic while they were getting settled into their house, I don't blame them for that).   However, what killed it for me was the fact that my DH left me out of the text so I didn't get to see any responses and I felt very left out.  We had sent a picture of me in front of blue balloons.   Anyway, he didn't want to post it on FB until he spoke with his family in Hawaii that evening.  So I stayed up an hour and a half past my bed time to help celebrate with his family.  When they called I had to yell at him to put the phone on speaker, then he hung up about a minute later saying he would call tomorrow which really meant he'll call when I am not around (that is just how it usually works, I don't think he does that intentionally).   then we got a flood of text messages as we were falling alseep and he didn't even bother to tell me what any of them said.  Typically I don't ask but knowing what this was about and how he knew he hurt me by forgetting to include me, I would have thought he would have at least forward them or told me what they said.  ouch...

It really put a damper on a very exciting moment in my life.  Thanks DH, thanks a lot. 

My only saving grace here is that at least I was able to skype with my family.

twobluelines

Congrats ona healthy baby boy. In your case I would just grab DH phone and read them for myself!

dltate29

I am hoping baby is healthy... the tech said she wasn't allowed to comment and we go in next week for another appointment. 

I typically am not the type of person who feels comfortable snooping but for this case I might just have to do that!  

csandroo

I feel like a lot of big baby moments don't end up turning out as we'de hoped, or imagined, or as pinterest lead us to dream about LOL ... I know my gender reveal news wasn't what I hoped either. However, I do hope (for both of us!) that there are other moments that we didn't expect to come that surprise us with how full of love and celebration and how perfectly they go

jmjj1310

Congrats!

dltate29

carisue143 said:

I feel like a lot of big baby moments don't end up turning out as we'de hoped, or imagined, or as pinterest lead us to dream about LOL ... I know my gender reveal news wasn't what I hoped either. However, I do hope (for both of us!) that there are other moments that we didn't expect to come that surprise us with how full of love and celebration and how perfectly they go

I love the way you stated this.  What a way to bring me back to earth and I completely agree!  We've already had some very special moments and I am sure there are more to come! 

alinafed

carisue143 said:

I feel like a lot of big baby moments don't end up turning out as we'de hoped, or imagined, or as pinterest lead us to dream about LOL ... I know my gender reveal news wasn't what I hoped either. However, I do hope (for both of us!) that there are other moments that we didn't expect to come that surprise us with how full of love and celebration and how perfectly they go

I agree completely. I've been so anxious for DH to feel kicking. Finally when we were drifting off to sleep I was able to position his hand and he felt multiple kicks. I got SO excited and thought he would have some sort of reaction, but a minute later he was falling asleep! It kind of hurt my feelings a little because I hope this isn't how he is in the delivery room, but I didn't bring it up with him.

ashybear

I kind of did this to DH after our A/S. We were on our way to meet a bunch of our co-workers (who we're very close with because we all live on-site together), and I had wanted to stop and get balloons or something, but traffic was terrible and we were late. So we get to the bar, my husband goes to order drinks, and as soon as I get to the table of our friends, they launched into "Sooo...!!?!" and "Tell us!" I knew I should wait until DH was there too, but the direct questions just got me so excited that I told them. DH heard the screams from across the bar and definitely sent me a look, but he was over it by the time he got to the table. I just couldn't help it!

dltate29

I think it is definitely unintentional and I know he didn't mean to hurt my feelings for not including me.  But the fact that we had pre discussed the texting list of names and he didn't keep that up just really hurt much more than I expected it.  He also did this when we were sending out our FB posts on getting pregnant, he definitely jumped the gun on me before both confirming we were ready to post.  It's not a big deal but it certaing hurt more than I thought it would.  I am also assuming my hormones are getting in the way!

Cara1024

I'm sorry you got left out. that is no fun! Congrats on the boy!! Hope you here a great report on the health also.