How do you guys feel about family who gift and spend like crazy on you/baby?
I've never dealt with this before, yes I've had family that helped with small items but with both of my boys the bulk of everything was purchased by my ex and myself and that was fine by us. The largest thing we ever received was a $200 check for help towards a crib with DS2 and we were very thankful and grateful for it. I have always been the type to budget, save and bargain shop to get the things I want or need and have always done things mostly on my own without help because I didn't have one of those families that insisted on helping (that started when I was 16 and wanted a car and has never changed since).
Now... this is the very first grandbaby for SO's family, a very long awaited grandbaby for his mother. She was absolutely convinced at the rate things were going she would never be a grandmother (even had this conversation with her sister the day we broke the news at 11 weeks, apparently lol). She had accepted that she would basically be getting an instant family in a box (my kids) she was going to have to share with their real grandparents and never have any of her own, which she was mostly OK with. Well, here we are and she's getting her grandbaby and man oh man is this woman over the frikkin moon. So over the moon she. just. can't. stop. shopping. Part of me feels really awkward about the amount of things she has bought and how much money she has spent. SO just says to let her be because this is how she shares her love. By buying me lots of maternity clothes to make sure I always have something to wear and making sure that the baby has two of everything. I watched her drop over $300 on baby clothes one day. That's just ONE day! I am not at ALL trying to sound ungrateful. AT ALL. I am so beyond appreciative that she is showering her grandbaby in items and making my life that much less stressful. She bought our crib yesterday and I fully expected to buy the crib mattress, well she called today asking my opinion on which one to get. I've never been given so much and accepting gifts has always been difficult for me because I don't want anyone to ever think I take advantage of their generosity. Giving gifts just wasn't how my family showed they loved me.
What is everyones opinion? We know some people around here just love have 100 person baby showers and accepting insane amounts of gifts, but are there those that feel slightly uncomfortable with it? I do. I am trying so hard to just smile and say thank you a million times over, because I am so extremely thankful for all the help because it has been a tremendous amount of help and I know she is loving every minute of it. Any advice on how to feel better about receiving the gifts or to broach the topic to her that we still love her even without all the extras?