First off, I want to thank you all again for the outpouring of love and support. I didn't realize how badly I've needed that or how alone I've felt. You all gave me such great advice that relieved me to know I had options. I decided to go through with the meeting with the agency's director since I had already scheduled it and was feeling a bit overwhelmed, and I'm glad I did! She was much nicer in person (she's just not the warm and fuzzy type and comes across harshly over the phone I think) and had taken all of my concerns into consideration in preparing for the meeting. I feel confident in going forward with this agency because I looked at probably 100 parent profiles across the state and one couple at this particular agency truly spoke to me. I fell in love with them and knew I wanted them to be the couple to adopt my baby. Turns out they are a good potential match, so I'm waiting back to hear if the husband is OK with my situation and wants to adopt my baby. I hope he does! No other families popped out to me like they did and I think I'll feel very rejected if it doesn't work out. I also hope I can get in contact with them soon because I find out the gender Thurs. and would love for them to be the first I tell (I know everything wouldn't be finalized at this point but there's no way I'd back out ever). I hate the waiting! But I'm glad the meeting went well.
Birthmom to A, 1/8- the most beautiful thing I've ever seen.
A Journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. -Lao-Tzu
Dr. Loretta is completely 100% right in saying that the adoptive family will be scared. There is a lot of fear that comes with adoption and in the end it is faith that pulls you through it all!
I'm glad you had a good meeting. I hope you have a great experience moving forward.
Started
TTC July 2012. Missed m/c & d&c 9/12 11w. Natural m/c 1/13 6w. Chemical pgs 3/13 & 8/13 around 4w. Currently TTA while saving
for adoption.
“When one door of happiness closes, another opens;
but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one
which has been opened for us.” -Helen Keller
So glad things went so wonderfully! I hope it continues on just as fabulously for you! Keep us all updated!
TTC since June 2009 01/10- Femara 03/10- Femara 07/2010- Clomid with injectables and IUI #1 08/2010- IUI #2 06/2011- IVF #1 BFP! 09/2011- Miscarriage at 10 1/2 weeks 11/2011- FET 01/2012- Start Home Study process 03/2012- Home Study approved and now waiting on our child to find us! 07/2012- matched with a BM who is due in October! 11/10/12- our son is born! 11/13/12- court grants us custody! 12/28/12- finalization! Always ours in our hearts, but.now also ours forever
So glad to hear the meeting went well, and that you've found a couple who seem like a good match so far. Best of luck in the next steps. Also, I wanted to offer a belated "welcome!" to you... I haven't been very active on the board for the past few weeks because we had our placement earlier this month and have been adjusting to life with a newborn. (yay!!). I'm so glad to see that you have had a wonderfully warm welcome here... I am not surprised at all, this is a great group of folks who are incredibly supportive. I wish you all the best in your journey, and I hope you keep posting. Your perspective adds a lot to the conversation.
Re: Birth Mom's Update- I met with the Adoption Agency!
That is fantastic. I'm glad things seem to be falling into place for you.
Just remember, they're going to be nervous and fear rejection too. it goes both ways in adoption.
GL and keep us posted.
Started TTC July 2012. Missed m/c & d&c 9/12 11w. Natural m/c 1/13 6w. Chemical pgs 3/13 & 8/13 around 4w. Currently TTA while saving for adoption.
“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.” -Helen Keller
TTC since June 2009
01/10- Femara
03/10- Femara
07/2010- Clomid with injectables and IUI #1
08/2010- IUI #2
06/2011- IVF #1 BFP!
09/2011- Miscarriage at 10 1/2 weeks
11/2011- FET
01/2012- Start Home Study process
03/2012- Home Study approved and now waiting on our child to find us!
07/2012- matched with a BM who is due in October!
11/10/12- our son is born!
11/13/12- court grants us custody!
12/28/12- finalization! Always ours in our hearts, but.now also ours forever
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