Would you? (Gender related)

Maebb

Would you take a picture of your DS wearing "girl" clothes and share it on a family photo stream with only 10 close family members? DS pooped on his clothes at daycare and had to borrow clothes from a girl. I thought it was funny and cute, but DH got mad when I took a picture, and he wouldn't let me share it.

Maebb

Keep in mind...I only wanted to share it with close family. Not Facebook or something "public" like that. And here is the photo, but I'll delete it later.

I think it's not a big deal, but DH thinks that it might embarrass him when he's older, so it's an insult to his dignity or something like that.

s0ulchicken

Sure! I have pics of DS wearing a Tinkerbell costume as a little guy, and they're in my family fb album!

bancbev

I'm pretty sure my DH would post it on his Facebook for the world to see.

Maebb

@spooko, DH is a bit overly anxious / nervous / controlling about all things related to DS, and he was also raised in a family with very specific gender roles. One time we were watching "Project Runway" at his house, and his dad said, "Son, what are you doing watching this gay show?" DH is much better about it than his family, and he is 100% loving and not judgmental about LBGT, but he just thinks that we should let DS decide later what clothes he wants to wear and what pictures he wants to share.

Maebb

Ok, @GhostMonkey, that's maybe a little strong, but I get your point. I had an argument with FIL that night because he won't even watch Modern Family because it is "inappropriate," but he'll watch a rated R movie with lots of gore and violence. Let me be clear - DH does not agree with his parents, but he comes from that kind of family.

Maebb

Spooko said:

Thanks @ghostmonkey. I was having trouble forming an adequate response.

@maebb, those things are contradictory so I'm calling BS.

@Spooko, BS on what part of it?

missyishere

What exactly is he afraid for his future son to be ashamed of?  Because I'm fairly positive every single straight man I know who had sisters was dressed in girl clothing, make up applied, and fingernails painted.  They are just clothes, and your son is cute.  Tell DH not to perpetuate the bigotry of his family. 

Pearls+Oysters

I may or may not have put my niece's old tutu style bathing suit on Monkey and taken a picture. With his full head of hair people kept assuming he was a girl and I was curious...

Would I have sent it to close friends/family? Probably. But not everyone shares my sense of humour. It's a shame though cause he was really pretty!

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RondackHiker

missyishere said:

What exactly is he afraid for his future son to be ashamed of?  Because I'm fairly positive every single straight man I know who had sisters was dressed in girl clothing, make up applied, and fingernails painted.  They are just clothes, and your son is cute.  Tell DH not to perpetuate the bigotry of his family. 

This.

The idea that his son could be ashamed of clothes he wore as a baby is ridiculous.

theimpossibleastronaut

I bought boy onsies the other day for my DD. I have two older brothers and a twin brother. I sure as heck wore "boys'" clothes as a kid. So no I wouldn't have a problem with this.

If we ever have a boy, I'm sure he will wear some of DD's old clothes at some point.

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Your H is being ridiculous.

tarebear9891

Yeah, I agree that your DH is being rather ridiculous. He can't really blame his upbringing anymore for his viewpoints. My DH was raised in a strict Baptist household and he took pictures of my oldest's feet after I painted his toenails and would not bat an eye to them wearing "girl" clothing.

monkeybutt61612

I take every opportunity to take pictures of my child doing things that may possibly embarrass him later in life.  Can't take those things too seriously. 

MrsT0514

Meh. I don't see the big deal here. If anything its cute/funny or maybe its something your DS will look back on later in life and laugh. My mom has pics of my brother dressed up in my dance recital costumes as a kid. Its hilarious and now that my brother and I are older, we look back and laugh!

theimpossibleastronaut

mbenit4 said:

I wouldn't more so for the story behind the pic and not the clothes. I wouldn't have taken the pic at all. I try not to do pics that would embarrass the kids.

I guess I don't see how this is embarrassing.

theimpossibleastronaut

mbenit4 said:

RiverSong82 said:

mbenit4 said:

I wouldn't more so for the story behind the pic and not the clothes. I wouldn't have taken the pic at all. I try not to do pics that would embarrass the kids.

I guess I don't see how this is embarrassing.

Remember the time you crapped your clothes.... might just be me.

Well, every baby/little kid does this. So maybe that's just me thinking its not that big of a deal.

Maebb

mbenit4 said:

RiverSong82 said:

mbenit4 said:

I wouldn't more so for the story behind the pic and not the clothes. I wouldn't have taken the pic at all. I try not to do pics that would embarrass the kids.

I guess I don't see how this is embarrassing.

Remember the time you crapped your clothes.... might just be me.

@mbenit4, DS is nine months old, so pooping on his clothes is not really anything to be embarrassed about at this age. At least I wouldn't think so.

missyishere

Everyone must train their bowels. You make sure you get an early start at that, and no taking pics, goddammit!

NativeFloridian

I routinely share my kids' cross-dressing moments.  Mostly because I buy boy clothes for DD2 all the time (clothes are clothes, yo, and if they're on sale...)

But also because DS has had to wear some of his sister's old cloth diapers.  He rocked the Luxe print Lil Joey, yo, and I shared it with the world.

NotSharknado

You can't even tell its girl clothing at first glance. Team no big deal.

NotSharknado

I used to put pig tails in Ds's hair. He was so pretty.

meaglamillion

I take pictures of Charlie with girls hats on, my sisters or Emma's, and gasp sometimes post it to fb. I just see it as other people's insecurities if they have a problem.

LaurelBee

I take pics of Ds's monster poops and I text them to Dh.

RondackHiker

mbenit4 said:

RiverSong82 said:

mbenit4 said:

RiverSong82 said:

mbenit4 said:

I wouldn't more so for the story behind the pic and not the clothes. I wouldn't have taken the pic at all. I try not to do pics that would embarrass the kids.

I guess I don't see how this is embarrassing.

Remember the time you crapped your clothes.... might just be me.

Well, every baby/little kid does this. So maybe that's just me thinking its not that big of a deal.

Not a big deal but not a Kodak moment in my book. JMO

I would see a photo of them covered in poop as embarrassing.

Post cleanup, wearing a funny outfit? Whatever. You may not even remember the full story by the time you show the kid, and just say "oh, you messed up your clothes and came home from daycare in this". No big deal.

Nechie122

Cate1234 said:

I wouldn't have taken a picture because I don't see why a 9mo old in girl clothes is funny. IMO, it's nbd. Since my oldest is a girl, DS has occassional woren her hand me downs.

Yeah, this is why I don't think the OP is as open-minded as she thinks she is. It's one thing to post a photo because you think your kid looks cute, and oh, hey, he just happens to be wearing pink-ish shorts.

It's another thing to be like, "Hey, check out DS in these girls clothes!"

DD sometimes wears "boys" clothes because she tends to like "boy" things like cars and robots and trains. But I have a feeling that sort of thing wouldn't even register as "strange." Only boys who might like butterflies or dolls would get a reaction.

CindyRelluh

missyishere said:

What exactly is he afraid for his future son to be ashamed of?  Because I'm fairly positive every single straight man I know who had sisters was dressed in girl clothing, make up applied, and fingernails painted.  They are just clothes, and your son is cute.  Tell DH not to perpetuate the bigotry of his family. 

I most definitely dressed my little brother up, AND did his makeup. It was glorious.

Also, my h would laugh if our dd did this to ds.

kimmy42

mbenit4 said:

I wouldn't more so for the story behind the pic and not the clothes. I wouldn't have taken the pic at all. I try not to do pics that would embarrass the kids.

I have a daughter who is much older, many of the goofy "embarrassing" she put on her fb and the wall of her college dorm room. Kids go through many stages and at some point everything connected with their younger childhood is embarrassing, including you and dad. It passes. The pictures and stories become badge of how fun you are as a mom.

cbidt*sgirl

I wouldn't hesitate to share a picture of my child with family in almost any circumstance.  My boy has definitely worn "girl clothes" when we were at a friend's house and his clothes got wet or dirty while playing.  I wouldn't think to take a picture just because he was in girls' clothing though, it isn't picture worthy.  If he was doing something special and happened to be in girls' clothing so be it.  and, btw...dressing in opposite sex clothing doesn't actually change one's gender.

Kitiara5512

H is not insecure in his or our kid's manhood.

As a teen, if C chose to cross dress, we would probably be okay with that too.

Kitiara5512

mbenit4 said:

I wouldn't more so for the story behind the pic and not the clothes. I wouldn't have taken the pic at all. I try not to do pics that would embarrass the kids.

I guess I don't see how this is embarrassing.

Remember the time you crapped your clothes.... might just be me.

@mbenit4, DS is nine months old, so pooping on his clothes is not really anything to be embarrassed about at this age. At least I wouldn't think so.

JFC I didn't say the child should be ashamed. I said I wouldn't even have taken the pic. Not like a pic moment in my opinion is all.

Meh, I can understand that. I would avoid the pic of the poop. I would also request that next time, they select something with more frills and lace. Cause I am evil like that.

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RayRay007

I don't think I'd take a picture, but not because it's embarrassing or whatever but because I wouldn't think anything of it.