Secret April 2014 - Bumps Facebook Group Created

NicoleAnne416

LOL! This cracks me up. I personally don't feel ready to join but who cares if others do? Jeesh. Maybe should have waited until this crazy hormonal first trimester was over? =P

Tjhbp

I'm thrilled that you did this Victoria. I love my other bmb fb group. It's much easier to navigate, I got to know people as individuals so much more than on the bump, and there is much less rudeness. Thank you. Also, the first response on this thread is so rude... Who made her queen of the bump???

DemoDoll

I don't think anyone is judging anyone for joining the FB group. But from past experience, most of us who have been around the block aren't ready/see the point for the FB group.

I have a Jane Doe-y name so I'm not worried about privacy. For me, I don't have much free time so with what little time I have, I spend it on my A12 FB group and this forum. The ladies I have grown fond of over the past 3.5 weeks are not planning on joining FB yet. There isn't a desire there for me As of now. I probably won't have a desire until our squishies come and we want to AW the shizz out of them. Then a FB group is all kinds of fun.

Also, don't be surprised when the established "regs" make a new FB group rather than just joining the existing one.

katiedidthat

My BMB for DS created a FB. That group had loads of drama, tons of fake profiles, and tons of spin off boards even after the babies were born. This time I'm definitely waiting to join a FB since any crazy can create a profile, join the group and access everything. The point of a FB group is that you can be more open than the bump because its secret, but if its a "free-for-all, anyone join who wants, don't even have to have a decent post count" group- private or not- how is it any different than the bump is now?

Tjhbp

Because my boss can't look at stuff I post about my vag

denneyvictoria

DemoDoll said:

I don't think anyone is judging anyone for joining the FB group. But from past experience, most of us who have been around the block aren't ready/see the point for the FB group. I have a Jane Doe-y name so I'm not worried about privacy. For me, I don't have much free time so with what little time I have, I spend it on my A12 FB group and this forum. The ladies I have grown fond of over the past 3.5 weeks are not planning on joining FB yet. There isn't a desire there for me As of now. I probably won't have a desire until our squishies come and we want to AW the shizz out of them. Then a FB group is all kinds of fun. Also, don't be surprised when the established "regs" make a new FB group rather than just joining the existing one.

Seriously?  What would the point be in creating a separate FB group if one is already started?  Just to prove a point that I wasn't "allowed" to make a group? 

thomas930

Tjhbp said:

Because my boss can't look at stuff I post about my vag

Then common sense would tell you not to post while you are at work.
Your job is for working, not bumping or facebooking.

misskristina21

denneyvictoria said:

DemoDoll said:

I don't think anyone is judging anyone for joining the FB group. But from past experience, most of us who have been around the block aren't ready/see the point for the FB group.

I have a Jane Doe-y name so I'm not worried about privacy. For me, I don't have much free time so with what little time I have, I spend it on my A12 FB group and this forum. The ladies I have grown fond of over the past 3.5 weeks are not planning on joining FB yet. There isn't a desire there for me As of now. I probably won't have a desire until our squishies come and we want to AW the shizz out of them. Then a FB group is all kinds of fun.

Also, don't be surprised when the established "regs" make a new FB group rather than just joining the existing one.

Seriously?  What would the point be in creating a separate FB group if one is already started?  Just to prove a point that I wasn't "allowed" to make a group? 

By the time that most of us want to create a FB group, this one you created will either be forgotten (especially if you aren't an active member on TB) or it will be full of crazies. Nobody can control you. Calm down and don't let pregnancy hormones get to you.

denneyvictoria

It's not pregnancy hormones. Geesh. I'm being bullied by a bunch of grown women who are seriously making way too big a deal out this. I don't like posting a lot of stuff on TB because anyone and everyone can read it (even without an account). Clearly, I'm not wanted on this board. I was excited to be a part of the group, but since the majority of you seems to be bullies I don't think I need the extra stress in an already stressful pregnancy. You can try and say your not being mean all you want, but the truth is you are. No one needed to even reply to this post if you didn't want to be a part of the Facebook group. But you all just had to state your objections. The first reply was rude as were several others. You are so worried about the "crazies" that you are alienating those of us who genuinely were just looking for some support and kindness. So thanks for that.

MyNameWasTaken

Oh FFS, stop it. You're not being bullied. People not agreeing with you =/= you being bullied. If you want a FB page, you have one; those that want to join will. You're getting pissy because the regs are telling you why they will not join. I mean, you're in for a rough ride as a mother if stating objections to what you think is a great idea gets you this spun up.

FWIW, I got to watch my other bmb suffer from the bullshit that can shake down from starting a FB page that anyone who wants to can join. That bit of nonsense nearly killed the board.

MNeforos

I won't be leaving the board because of FB. In fact, on my phone I use this app more than FB! Love my fellow mamas on here!

Mandyw75

I like it here because I find more than one board applies to me. I could be a March baby, I'm over 35 and I'm PGAL. I guess I would be sad if everyone left to go to a Facebook group.

Tjhbp

I wasn't implying that I'm bumping at work, but thanks for the great workplace advice. I actually don't bump or Facebook at work. I was implying that anything I post on the bump is visible to anyone. I know that random people can't look up what I write in my secret Facebook group.

Rrrrrachel

The first response was really rude and I think that's why people are seeing the subsequent responses as rude, even if those women are just stating their opinion.

thomas930

Tjhbp said:

I wasn't implying that I'm bumping at work, but thanks for the great workplace advice. I actually don't bump or Facebook at work. I was implying that anything I post on the bump is visible to anyone. I know that random people can't look up what I write in my secret Facebook group.

The quote function is a wonderful tool

You really think your boss is going to seek you out on the bump and know your screen name...???

figgs0831

I think I'm going to hold off until more of the trolls are weeded out...

Enami

Make your FB page, but don't get pissy because people don't want to join your club. Jeez, it's a freakin FB page, a freakin Bump bmb, and none of it has to do with you as an individual.

Marusika

 

Teresa1896 said:

You ladies have fun. I won't be joining. I've seen some crazy shit go down on these boards and no part of me wants to invite it into my Facebook. I mean, people make up pregnancies, have pretend babies, and one girl even pretended her baby died of SIDS. That was all on the totally anonymous Bump!

people make up pregnancies? WHY? Just for fun?

Marusika

denneyvictoria said:

Forget it. This is a super scary pregnancy for me (we lost our first baby in February 36 hours after his birth at 29 weeks) and I was just looking for some extra support, but you all are being mean.

I understand you so much, I`m scared too I had a stillbirth at 31 weeks.

Sorry for your loss.

katiedidthat

Marusika said:

 

Teresa1896 said:

You ladies have fun. I won't be joining. I've seen some crazy shit go down on these boards and no part of me wants to invite it into my Facebook.
I mean, people make up pregnancies, have pretend babies, and one girl even pretended her baby died of SIDS. That was all on the totally anonymous Bump!

people make up pregnancies? WHY? Just for fun?

Usually because they are desperate for attention. Some 21 year old who thinks she'll make lots of friends if she pretends to be a poor abused teenage mom or someone looking to gain access to the photos and ultrasounds we post so they can fake a pregnancy in real life. In the past year there were 3 babies stolen (or attempted to be) from maternity wards here in Pennsylvania because women actively pretended to be pregnant to keep a boyfriend around, and when they didn't have a baby after a certain time, they panicked and stole one. People are nutso, IRL and online.

DemoDoll

denneyvictoria said:

DemoDoll said:

I don't think anyone is judging anyone for joining the FB group. But from past experience, most of us who have been around the block aren't ready/see the point for the FB group.

I have a Jane Doe-y name so I'm not worried about privacy. For me, I don't have much free time so with what little time I have, I spend it on my A12 FB group and this forum. The ladies I have grown fond of over the past 3.5 weeks are not planning on joining FB yet. There isn't a desire there for me As of now. I probably won't have a desire until our squishies come and we want to AW the shizz out of them. Then a FB group is all kinds of fun.

Also, don't be surprised when the established "regs" make a new FB group rather than just joining the existing one.

Seriously?  What would the point be in creating a separate FB group if one is already started?  Just to prove a point that I wasn't "allowed" to make a group? 


I wasn't trying to bully you or be snarky at all, I was just stating a fact that there will be another FB group made. The women that aren't comfortable to join FB groups now won't be comfortable joining a FB group with all those people in it down the road. Trust me, a large amount of people on this current BMB will disappear into thin air, it happens on every BMB. After time, this BMB will shrink and become a very tight knit group of awesome with a few lurkers. If you are an active member when that time comes, you will be added to the FB group and it will be all puppies and rainbows.

Marusika

katiedidthat said:

 

Teresa1896 said:

You ladies have fun. I won't be joining. I've seen some crazy shit go down on these boards and no part of me wants to invite it into my Facebook. I mean, people make up pregnancies, have pretend babies, and one girl even pretended her baby died of SIDS. That was all on the totally anonymous Bump!

people make up pregnancies? WHY? Just for fun?

Usually because they are desperate for attention. Some 21 year old who thinks she'll make lots of friends if she pretends to be a poor abused teenage mom or someone looking to gain access to the photos and ultrasounds we post so they can fake a pregnancy in real life. In the past year there were 3 babies stolen (or attempted to be) from maternity wards here in Pennsylvania because women actively pretended to be pregnant to keep a boyfriend around, and when they didn't have a baby after a certain time, they panicked and stole one. People are nutso, IRL and online.

shocking

Kristy774

DemoDoll said:

denneyvictoria said:

DemoDoll said:

I don't think anyone is judging anyone for joining the FB group. But from past experience, most of us who have been around the block aren't ready/see the point for the FB group.

I have a Jane Doe-y name so I'm not worried about privacy. For me, I don't have much free time so with what little time I have, I spend it on my A12 FB group and this forum. The ladies I have grown fond of over the past 3.5 weeks are not planning on joining FB yet. There isn't a desire there for me As of now. I probably won't have a desire until our squishies come and we want to AW the shizz out of them. Then a FB group is all kinds of fun.

Also, don't be surprised when the established "regs" make a new FB group rather than just joining the existing one.

Seriously?  What would the point be in creating a separate FB group if one is already started?  Just to prove a point that I wasn't "allowed" to make a group? 

I wasn't trying to bully you or be snarky at all, I was just stating a fact that there will be another FB group made. The women that aren't comfortable to join FB groups now won't be comfortable joining a FB group with all those people in it down the road. Trust me, a large amount of people on this current BMB will disappear into thin air, it happens on every BMB. After time, this BMB will shrink and become a very tight knit group of awesome with a few lurkers. If you are an active member when that time comes, you will be added to the FB group and it will be all puppies and rainbows.



This just made the most sense to me, and honestly I thought you were being mean by saying another FB group would be created but how you just explained it now makes perfect sense. I totally understand now.

Andrewsgal

After reading through this post it should be perfectly obvious why people want to weed out the crazies.

Rrrrrachel

@lalamama81 it was rude. I don't care how many people agreed with it.

Andrewsgal

Rrrrrachel said:

@lalamama81 it was rude. I don't care how many people agreed with it.

It wasn't rude it was the truth.

nikki912

OMG this is so freaking annoying. If I told a fat woman she was fat- it'd be okay because its the truth?

Eta:typos

amhah09

Rrrrrachel said:

@lalamama81 it was rude. I don't care how many people agreed with it.

It wasn't rude. The vast majority of the board said it was too early for a FB group the multiple times that it was brought up before because of the crazies. I think she was extremely justified in her comment for that reason.

amhah09

nikki912 said:

OMG this is so freaking annoying. If I told a fat woman she was fat- it'd be okay because its the truth?

Eta:typos

That's a little different. Blatantly telling someone they're fat for no reason = rude. Asking someone what they didn't understand about the vast majority of opinions on a previously mentioned subject, justified.

nikki912

It's isnt that she asked or anyone else's comments. I think the OP was too sensitive about the thread. I dont care anymore if people want to be straight up b!tches- but dont try to say your behavior is okay because you're telling the truth. Just own it.

amhah09

nikki912 said:

It's isnt that she asked or anyone else's comments. I think the OP was too sensitive about the thread. I dont care anymore if people want to be straight up b!tches- but dont try to say your behavior is okay because you're telling the truth. Just own it.

I definitely agree that the OP was too sensitive, but I don't think that first comment was rude. I really don't. I think it was fully justified.

Andrewsgal

I think a lot of you are in the wrong place. Honestly the BS in every freaking post about people being mean is ridiculous. If you have spent any time at all on the bump you know this is not a place for puppies and rainbows, perhaps baby gaga would be a better fit. I mean if the ladies here are too "mean" for you because I can guarantee it is going to get a whole lot worse.

J&NL

I am also going to wait on joining any kind of FB group for now. OP, no one is being rude or bullying you. Maybe you should stick around, get the feel of TB and the users before you decide to make a FB group where you can see everyone's personal FBs. I've been on several groups that stemmed off the bump and even then they created separate groups because there are still crazies, fights, arguments and a lot more drama. It's not always puppies and rainbows (I hate that saying but it fits).

J&NL

I for one would much rather be in a FB group with just the users that I have somewhat gotten to know on TB rather than just move the entire board onto a FB group. It's a much more close knit community that way and you are way more likely to have a better support system that way rather than having a bunch of randoms. 

DemoDoll

nikki912 said:

It's isnt that she asked or anyone else's comments. I think the OP was too sensitive about the thread. I dont care anymore if people want to be straight up b!tches- but dont try to say your behavior is okay because you're telling the truth. Just own it.

But she did ask....like two days prior she said "should we do a FB group?" ALMOST everyone said no, it's too early. Maybe two people said yes let's make one stat! Then a day later she posts "hey y'all here is the FB group." What did she expect the response would be???

Rrrrrachel

Isn't want to fight about it. I think it was rude and kind of got the thread off on the wrong foot. I think, in general, implying someone doesn't understand rather than just disagrees with you is rude. I think the poster who made it is, in general, pretty aok though, so imma gonna let it drop.

nikki912

I don't care about the content of the message. It was the tone. Honestly I don't care about that either. People saying it isn't rude just because she deserved it annoyed me the most. It's rude if its rude. If you want to be rude that's fine- just admit it.

EtA: clarification

Andrewsgal

I am laughing at Lala being mean.i have been on a board with her for many years and if you consider her rude you are going to have a huge problem with about 90% of the posters on the bump. It is going to be a long nine months for all the rude police out there.

nikki912

Ok we get it, it's your bump world and the rest of us just live in it. Get over yourself.

bsinno

I love lamp.