Husband.

DreamDisney

I'm sure there's plenty of this & I'm trying to figure out how to overcome it. So anything you ladies can suggest I'd appreciate it. Husband hates all my names. Then the one name he doesn't throw out- he said well what about a middle name. I said I didn't get that far. I can't get past you hating all the first names lol... So I suggested middle names and he hates all them. Then tells me to pick a middle name & go from there. I feel like beating my head against a desk. So I ask him for ideas and he has none. Not a single one. Just hates all mine for her.
Help lol... A different approach? Anything? Lol

Skylight21

Asking a man on the spot for names could be like a deer in headlights. Give him time to think get him to write them down then look at his list with him. Don't bring any of your names to the table and just look at his names. Who knows he might come up with a name that you love, then go for a middle name from there

strawberrytree

1. Make a list of your top ten names and tell him if he vetoes one of your names, he needs to replace it with one of his own choices. 

2. Hand him a list of the top 100 names and give him a highlighter- tell him to highlight all the names he doesn't hate. If he says he hates them all, give him a list of #101-200, repeat through the top 1000 until he comes across a name he doesn't hate.

3. Kind of passive aggressive, but start throwing out the worst names you can possibly think of (good ideas here...https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12031025/worst-name-i-ve-ever-heard-and-i-m-a-teacher#latest...Booksie, Kuntasia). Soon your normal names he hated before will start looking pretty good. 

shannm

Get him a baby name book and a red pen. Let him page through it and star what catches his eye. Can't tell how far along you are but if you are early, don't worry, many guys take a while to get revved up about baby stuff.

NerdyLucy

Tell him that if he wants vetoing rights, he is required to add to the list as well.

dreemkin84

I say each do a list of 10 boys, 10 girls on your own and compare. Go from there.

michrocc

I have read that it can take men several times to hear a name before they'll actually consider it without dismissing it out of hand. So definitely give him space and be willing to revisit your favorites a few times with him before you toss them. 

And do the above list ideas. 

DreamDisney

Just started third trimester... With a girl. In the beginning we didn't agree on anything and I said we don't need to even worry about it. When we find out what were having it'll be easier to only have to come up with one gender. Hah. I'm going to have to try all these until something works. If I get frustrated enough he's going to kinda lose out on an opinion. I ask him to think or just give me an idea and his response "I don't know" awesome. That's what we'll name her. /:) im sure I'd like anything he suggested at this point just because its a suggestion.

GibsonGirl620

I like a lot of pp's suggestions. My DH was similar at first, except he kept suggesting crazy names and I couldn't tell if he was serious or not. Anyway, I asked him kindly, but firmly, to make a list of 5-10 names that he liked by the end of the week. I left out my baby name books for him to use if he wanted to. I checked in once during the week to remind him, but otherwise let him be. He followed through and we actually had a very productive conversation (I also made a list to share). We're still undecided, but we've since made a short list and had some good talks about it. I try not to push him and he tries to be serious and productive when we do discuss it.

Another tip- At this point we're wittling down our short list so I made a card stock sheet with sticky notes of all our name choices. Once in a while we'll throw the names on in order of preference and check in with how the other is feeling about them. We've gone from 8 names to 3 in a couple weeks. It's quick, simple and man-friendly. GL!

kristinc01

If you're a ways away from your due date I wouldn't worry about it.  Just keep compiling a list that you like.  When it gets within a couple of months he will feel the need to choose a name.  I really wasn't ever able to get my husband to contribute names but towards the end he would use more "maybe" to my suggestions than "no".  I pretty much narrowed my own list down and he choose from there but it took days for him to choose.  So give him the list and let him mull over it.  And like others said if he nixes a name try to get him to add his own suggestion.

SIR12

NerdyLucy said:

Tell him that if he wants vetoing rights, he is required to add to the list as well.

this.

TikiTurtle

OP, my DH is the exact same way. He dislikes everything I throw out and yet can't give me a single suggestion of his own. Luckily, I'm not pregnant yet, so I have hope that things will change for me when the time comes. Just wanted to say good luck, and no, you aren't the only one with a ridiculously stubborn spouse.

DreamDisney

KristinBrichacek said:

If you're a ways away from your due date I wouldn't worry about it.  Just keep compiling a list that you like.  When it gets within a couple of months he will feel the need to choose a name.  I really wasn't ever able to get my husband to contribute names but towards the end he would use more "maybe" to my suggestions than "no".  I pretty much narrowed my own list down and he choose from there but it took days for him to choose.  So give him the list and let him mull over it.  And like others said if he nixes a name try to get him to add his own suggestion.

I have 2 1/2 months left

DreamDisney

TikiTurtle said:

OP, my DH is the exact same way. He dislikes everything I throw out and yet can't give me a single suggestion of his own. Luckily, I'm not pregnant yet, so I have hope that things will change for me when the time comes. Just wanted to say good luck, and no, you aren't the only one with a ridiculously stubborn spouse.

Haha thank you!

CarolynTheRed

No suggestions, but sympathy. I ended up just telling my husband to name the kid hmself. Fortunately he picked a name I didn't hate.

DreamDisney

I told him tonight- for each name you veto... You have to come up with a suggestion. Lets just say this is going to be a long process lol.
I did however get one suggestion. Wooooohoooo progress ladies!