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Nevito

Hi ladies. I am 21w 2d and 4 cm dilated. We refused a cerclage and now we are just waiting. It is so scary. Did any of you been through this situations? Thank you ladies.

backoffunicorn

Sorry you have to go through this.  Out of curiosity, did you doctor recommend the cerclarge? Best of luck and rest up.

KFED103

Cashingn2 said:

I don't understand why you refused the cerclage

I don't either

mightymousy

KFED103 said:

I don't understand why you refused the cerclage

I don't either

This.

frankierokx

mightymousy said:

KFED103 said:

I don't understand why you refused the cerclage

I don't either

This.

Ditto  :-/

shortms6

mightymousy said:

KFED103 said:

I don't understand why you refused the cerclage

I don't either

This.

I agree.  If your doc suggested it, why not?  

KFiori1

frankierokx said:

mightymousy said:

KFED103 said:

I don't understand why you refused the cerclage

I don't either

This.

Ditto  :-/

I am curious as well.

BootsOrHearts

KFiori1 said:

frankierokx said:

mightymousy said:

KFED103 said:

I don't understand why you refused the cerclage

I don't either

This.

Ditto  :-/

I am curious as well.

Religious reasons maybe? I'm just guessing.

nofcksgiven

So sorry you're going through this.
I wish you the best.

I'm also curious why you declined the cerclage.

BootsOrHearts

Cashingn2 said:

KFiori1 said:

frankierokx said:

mightymousy said:

KFED103 said:

I don't understand why you refused the cerclage

I don't either

This.

Ditto  :-/

I am curious as well.

Religious reasons maybe? I'm just guessing.

I thought that too but that's one religious "rule" I'd break no matter how devout I was. Im not judging though, just curious

Yeah that's a flameable decision in my opinion, if that's the case. It's one thing to reject medical care for a minor illness or injury but when the life of your baby hangs in the balance, that's different.

nofcksgiven

I'm genuinely curious about why it was refused.

When we had that conversation with our doctors we understood that a cerclage was really our only hope of continuing this pregnancy.

Maybe our circumstances are different.

Absolutely no judgement here, just curiosity.

KFED103

BootsOrHearts said:

Cashingn2 said:

BootsOrHearts said:

KFiori1 said:

frankierokx said:

mightymousy said:

KFED103 said:

Cashingn2 said:

I don't understand why you refused the cerclage

I don't either

This.

Ditto  :-/

I am curious as well.

Religious reasons maybe? I'm just guessing.


I thought that too but that's one religious "rule" I'd break no matter how devout I was. Im not judging though, just curious


Yeah that's a flameable decision in my opinion, if that's the case. It's one thing to reject medical care for a minor illness or injury but when the life of your baby hangs in the balance, that's different.


It will be a shitstorm up in here if OP comes back and says that.

Tigger & pooh

Maybe there are other issues with the baby too so they are letting nature take its course?? Other than that I don't get it.

MEP923

Yea it'd be nice to come back and explain this. Why refuse something that could save your baby?

shortms6

MEP923 said:

Yea it'd be nice to come back and explain this. Why refuse something that could save your baby?

Doubting we'll get a response back...

playball13

We all need to know, why?

nofcksgiven

Cashingn2 said:

Meggie0421 said:

I'm genuinely curious about why it was refused.

When we had that conversation with our doctors we understood that a cerclage was really our only hope of continuing this pregnancy.

Maybe our circumstances are different.

Absolutely no judgement here, just curiosity.

And how are you and LO?

I'm going BSC on bed rest. LO is doing wonderfully! He's growing and healthy and kicking my (insides) ass everyday.
I've gained some cervical length since the cerclage. I've gone from about 3mm (day of procedure) up to 1.7cm.
So far, things are as good as we could hope for.

teresa8678

I work on the high risk maternity flood and I see this often. If a person is 4 cm dilated usually its too far gone to perform a cerclagw so I'm. A bit confused. Well see what she says, hopefully she stays on strict beerfest and in trendelenburg position if she wants to keep the membranes from infection

margaerytyrell

Nevito said:

Hi ladies. I am 21w 2d and 4 cm dilated. We refused a cerclage and now we are just waiting. It is so scary. Did any of you been through this situations? Thank you ladies.

I went through the situation but I had a cerclage. At 21 weeks and 2 days I was 1 cm dilated. I was hospitalized and then everything happened so fast. By 22 weeks 3 days, my girls were born. They survived about 2 hours. I'm sorry you and your husband are going through this.

KFED103

Heaven802002 said:

teresa8678 said:

I work on the high risk maternity flood and I see this often. If a person is 4 cm dilated usually its too far gone to perform a cerclagw so I'm. A bit confused. Well see what she says, hopefully she stays on strict beerfest and in trendelenburg position if she wants to keep the membranes from infection

Strict beerfest is something i'dlike to be on during my pregnancy!

Best typo ever!

ETA: more like best autocorrect ever...but you all know what I mean

lzponce

Heaven802002 said:

I work on the high risk maternity flood and I see this often. If a person is 4 cm dilated usually its too far gone to perform a cerclagw so I'm. A bit confused. Well see what she says, hopefully she stays on strict beerfest and in trendelenburg position if she wants to keep the membranes from infection

Strict beerfest is something i'dlike to be on during my pregnancy!

  Me too!  Where can I get me some strict beerfest

nofcksgiven

teresa8678 said:

I work on the high risk maternity flood and I see this often. If a person is 4 cm dilated usually its too far gone to perform a cerclagw so I'm. A bit confused. Well see what she says, hopefully she stays on strict beerfest and in trendelenburg position if she wants to keep the membranes from infection

I was actually thinking this. Maybe a cerclage wasn't offered because of how risky it would be at this point. Like you said, it's not very successful at 4cm. Maybe her wording is off? Maybe it wasn't so much "refused" as not reccomended?

Nevito

It's not religion thing. I was admitted right after my routin baby appointment. I was 4 cm dilated with bulging water sack. The doc said that if I do the cerclage I could get an infection, they can damage my cervix for future pregnancy or they can break my water. Even one nurse told my husband that I can bleed out on the table. I wasn't thinking about myself just the health of my baby. And other two options were to terminate the pregnancy right away or just wait. We have been waiting for a week and everything is fine so far. But we are hoping to hold on at least until 27 weeks and then wish for more.

Nevito

I am really sorry for your loss:(

MissyC979

That sounds like a really scary situation. Best of luck to you.

Are you on home or hospital bed rest? Are there different positions they can put you in to try to get the water sack to go back inside (sorry if that's a stupid question).

Nevito

We didn't know what to do at that moment and couple days later when we wanted to discuss the cerclage again( I've been reading a lot about it) the doc refused because I was stable for week.

nofcksgiven

Nevito said:

It's not religion thing. I was admitted right after my routin baby appointment. I was 4 cm dilated with bulging water sack. The doc said that if I do the cerclage I could get an infection, they can damage my cervix for future pregnancy or they can break my water. Even one nurse told my husband that I can bleed out on the table. I wasn't thinking about myself just the health of my baby. And other two options were to terminate the pregnancy right away or just wait. We have been waiting for a week and everything is fine so far. But we are hoping to hold on at least until 27 weeks and then wish for more.

You're right. All these things *could* happen. However, the likelihood of them happening is very low.
Unless you have something else going on, such a placenta previa, the chances of you bleeding out on the table is practically nonexistent. I think it's beyond irresponsible for a nurse to have told you or your husband that.
I have partial placenta previa and had a large bleed during the procedure, but they were ready for it and fixed it ASAP.
A cerclage isn't always the best (or the wisest) choice, but the success rate is very high if it's placed properly. Is your doctor a MFM or an OB? If you're not working with a MFM already, I would seek guidance from one.
Also, do you know your cervical length? Are you short, dialated, or both? Hospital bed rest or at home?
I'm sorry you're going through this and I know how scary it is. I really think you need to arm yourself with all the knowledge you can and speak to your dr again.
I'll be sending T&P your way.

Nevito

Hospital bed rest and my doc is MFM. And one last question. Is trendelenburg position more effective than just laying normal position? Even though my doc said that it doesn't matter what position I lay down. Thank you ladies.

MrsC731

I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this.  That has got to be so scary.

notkateanymore

Nevito said:

Hospital bed rest and my doc is MFM. And one last question. Is trendelenburg position more effective than just laying normal position? Even though my doc said that it doesn't matter what position I lay down. Thank you ladies.

I would trust your doctor. MFMs are way more knowledgable about this than any of us are, even those with prior experience. So sorry you're going through this.

Tigger & pooh

That makes sense! Best of luck to you!

KFED103

T & P's to you that LO stays put! Keep us updated

katieh704

Thoughts and prayers for you

backoffunicorn

Meggie0421 said:

It's not religion thing. I was admitted right after my routin baby appointment. I was 4 cm dilated with bulging water sack. The doc said that if I do the cerclage I could get an infection, they can damage my cervix for future pregnancy or they can break my water. Even one nurse told my husband that I can bleed out on the table. I wasn't thinking about myself just the health of my baby. And other two options were to terminate the pregnancy right away or just wait. We have been waiting for a week and everything is fine so far. But we are hoping to hold on at least until 27 weeks and then wish for more.

You're right. All these things *could* happen. However, the likelihood of them happening is very low. Unless you have something else going on, such a placenta previa, the chances of you bleeding out on the table is practically nonexistent. I think it's beyond irresponsible for a nurse to have told you or your husband that. I have partial placenta previa and had a large bleed during the procedure, but they were ready for it and fixed it ASAP. A cerclage isn't always the best (or the wisest) choice, but the success rate is very high if it's placed properly. Is your doctor a MFM or an OB? If you're not working with a MFM already, I would seek guidance from one. Also, do you know your cervical length? Are you short, dialated, or both? Hospital bed rest or at home? I'm sorry you're going through this and I know how scary it is. I really think you need to arm yourself with all the knowledge you can and speak to your dr again. I'll be sending T&P your way.

No offense, but at this point I think she should be listening to her MFM. She originally just wanted to know if anyone else had gone through this but a bunch of us were just confused as to why she didn't have the cerclage. Now that she's explained it, she wasn't asking the health risks of it. OP, good luck and listen to your doctors.

readyornot12345

Prayers all is okay, thinking of you

KELLILOVESJOSH

I've never gone through this but I'm sending thoughts and prayers your way.

MEP923

That makes more sense. Hope the baby keeps staying in there for you! Best of luck to you.

Nevito

Thank you girls. It means a lot to me.

Ktrue85

I hope everything turns out okay and you LO cooks for much, much longer.  Keep us posted.

nofcksgiven

lorlor681 said:

Meggie0421 said:

Nevito said:

It's not religion thing. I was admitted right after my routin baby appointment. I was 4 cm dilated with bulging water sack. The doc said that if I do the cerclage I could get an infection, they can damage my cervix for future pregnancy or they can break my water. Even one nurse told my husband that I can bleed out on the table. I wasn't thinking about myself just the health of my baby. And other two options were to terminate the pregnancy right away or just wait. We have been waiting for a week and everything is fine so far. But we are hoping to hold on at least until 27 weeks and then wish for more.

You're right. All these things *could* happen. However, the likelihood of them happening is very low.
Unless you have something else going on, such a placenta previa, the chances of you bleeding out on the table is practically nonexistent. I think it's beyond irresponsible for a nurse to have told you or your husband that.
I have partial placenta previa and had a large bleed during the procedure, but they were ready for it and fixed it ASAP.
A cerclage isn't always the best (or the wisest) choice, but the success rate is very high if it's placed properly. Is your doctor a MFM or an OB? If you're not working with a MFM already, I would seek guidance from one.
Also, do you know your cervical length? Are you short, dialated, or both? Hospital bed rest or at home?
I'm sorry you're going through this and I know how scary it is. I really think you need to arm yourself with all the knowledge you can and speak to your dr again.
I'll be sending T&P your way.

No offense, but at this point I think she should be listening to her MFM. She originally just wanted to know if anyone else had gone through this but a bunch of us were just confused as to why she didn't have the cerclage. Now that she's explained it, she wasn't asking the health risks of it.

OP, good luck and listen to your doctors.

I wholeheartedly agree with you. Please don't think for a second that I'm suggesting she listen to me over her medical professionals.

But, I never think it hurts to get a second opinion; especially when it comes to something so serious. She also said that she did end up asking for a cerclage and her dr refused. Which is one of the reasons I brought up a seeing someone else as well.

However, I do think it's a little ridiculous that a nurse would, barring other complications, tell her husband how she could "bleed out on the table." That seems way too dramatic for me.

Mills0309

Thinking about you and your LO! You are in my prayers.