Hubby vent.

lolob45

Why do men take the fun out of everything? I have been on bed rest since week 24 and my mom has been an incredible help - she has helped with 90% of the nursery and all of the little odds and ends. My hubby has been helpful with putting the big items together but it's been weeks since i've asked him to do anything else. My baby shower was 2 wks ago and my mom has helped me put most everything away.... now all we need to do is hang things on the walls and put the bedding in the crib and he is making the biggest stink about it, so sarcastic and literally moaning and groaning about each thing. He is complaining about how it sucks doing things alone but reality is whether I was on bed rest or not I wouldn't be able to get on a ladder to hang things and I can't carry boxes to/from our condo's storage unit. To me, this is the fun part - it's really the last step in getting ready for our daughter's arrival and I feel like we should be enjoying doing this together but he is seriously ruining every moment. It makes me bitter and slightly resentful. Why should my mom be doing all this work when he is fully capable? Plus, he has it really easy... my mom has been paying for a house cleaner so he doesn't have to worry about doing that when he gets home from work. We are so blessed and there is really so little he needs to do.... Note: He went to the Dodgers game Friday night, was golfing yesterday from 8am - 3pm and all i've asked him is to help me today. It shouldn't be so difficult...

Anyone else's hubby been making this process difficult and not fun?

scarver

Omg my DH has frustrated me soooo much today! It's a long story but to sum it up- he wanted to visit with his grandma so instead of calling her we just stop by(I'm not a fan of drop ins without a call but it is his family so I was trying to stay out of it) so we get there-surprise!- she isn't there so we "drive around" wasting time (that I DO NOT have) then go back- she still not there. I said for the love of god just pick up your phone and call her! He finally does. Nope she won't be home for a couple more hours at least! Gezzzz all could have been avoided with one simple phone call!!! So 3 hours later we are home and I'm now to tired (car rides really make me sleepy) so I will take a nap and then try to get something done for baby!

So not at all along the same lines but he has made crazy today! If that makes you feel better your DH isn't the only one!

amber0529

Oh my bf has been driving me crazy for months! Every little thing I ask him to do he has to be like 'why', ummm because I want it that way. It took me like 2 months to get him to change out an old shelf that had water damage and when he finally did it literally took him 10 minutes, now was that so much to ask.

Mae208

I'm sorry! I have done everything myself pretty much so I don't run into this problem. But since you're on bedrest that's obv not an option for you. But I will say its normal for him to do that, sometimes husbands have odd reactions to major life changes.

lolob45

I've tried talking to him but he just makes stupid comments about how he has to do everything himself. It really hurts my feelings... Especially today because I'm having really intense lower back pain and he told me I'm just overreacting. I nearly kicked him out of the house but I quite honestly can't deal with the emotional side effects. When I get upset I get bad Contractions so I feel like I'm numbing myself to everything just to get through the day. At this point I'm not even grateful for his help.

PongoLePond

@quartermisses I would have lost it if I came home to that. 

My BF has been getting better about helping me with things but he still drags his feet to the point I'd rather just do it myself. I started to put the crib together last night by myself and he acted like I kicked his puppy or something. 

Staceylynn602

Men just don't get it! My FI has been ok, but not great. I think they are just clueless.

Izzies

My DH had also been driving me crazy! I know part of it is that I can't just do it myself, which is SO much easier than trying to get him to do it. I always spray the house for bugs which he has obviously had to take over so every month I spend at least two weeks nagging him to spray detailing EXACTLY how to do it. To make a long story short we have had a crazy amount of spiders in the house and I finally found out he hasn't sprayed ONE time! He tried to claim that he thought I didn't want the chemicals in the house. I had to do some serious deep breathing to even be able to speak to him. Ugh

germanpickle

lolob45 said:

 

my mom has been paying for a house cleaner

Is there any chance your mom is adopting currently? Seriously. She is a keeper!