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Having some anxiety over my age lately...

So, as glad as I am to see 2008 come to a close, something lurks in 09 that scares the crap out of me: Age 35. ?

I know it is just a number. ?I know it is irrational. ?I know it is not old. ? ? ?Yet, I feel anxious.?

I guess I am having a hard time wrapping my mind around the fact that I will turn 35 with no children and potentially not even be pregnant. ??

I know everyone has things that bother them; this is one of mine.

Thanks for indulging me!?

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Re: Having some anxiety over my age lately...

  • I hope you get your BFP this year and then it will make 35 be wonderful.

  • It's ok. I thought I was going to make it, too.... I'd have been due right after my 35th birthday if I hadn't miscarried. So here I am, looking down the barrel at 36.

     FWIW, I've never once had a doctor mention my age. But it bugs me a lot, too. I wanted to be pregnant before I was 35.

     

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  • I can understand but I am certain that 2009 will be your year. You are so positive and helpful to everyone else- it will be your turn next
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    So, as glad as I am to see 2008 come to a close, something lurks in 09 that scares the crap out of me: Age 35.  

    I know it is just a number.  I know it is irrational.  I know it is not old.      Yet, I feel anxious. 

    I guess I am having a hard time wrapping my mind around the fact that I will turn 35 with no children and potentially not even be pregnant.   

    I know everyone has things that bother them; this is one of mine.

    Thanks for indulging me! 

    Me too.  I'll be 35 in October. Though I love the fact that on some of the donor egg boards I'm a "baby."  I guess it's all relative!

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  • I dreaded 35, because I was still single. I knew as soon as I mentioned the number, people would think 3 things of me (due to a variety of stupid articles about 35yo women at the time):

    I hated men

    I was desperate to have a baby

    I was a miserable person

    Instead I ended up meeting DH and getting married at 36. So 35 wasn't so bad after all :)

  • I turn 35 in January and I have the exact same thoughts.  It's crazy how a silly, old number can carry so much meaning if you let it.
  • Thanks, Ladies.?

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  • You didn't say when your birthday is, but I turned 35 on Sept 29th and got my BFP on Oct 2nd.  That was the best belated birthday present a girl could have asked for. 

    And a bonus, I'll still only be 35 when I deliver!   Smile

    35 has proven to be a lucky age for me.  Best of luck to you!

    Melissa

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  • 35 in April! :)
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  • I just turned 35 in Nov and I felt the same way. I really wanted to be pg by now. We have been trying for basically 3 years. Only one year with fertility treatments. While it was hard the first 2 years trying Natural it's even harder now getting help w/no success. And now I am 35 yrs old....I really think i'll get pg soon so I hope I'm not dreading 36!!! GL!!
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  • i could have written this post. i'll be turning 35 in 2009 also, and i always figured that by this time, i'd have 1-2 kids and probably working on a third...and here i am with no kids : (  i hope 2009 is very kind to all of us!
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  • me too. 35 in Sept. When I got pg and had a due date in July, I thought "yay, I'll have a baby before I'm 35!". Now I'll be happy if I can just be pregnant by 35.
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  • 35 in March and feel the exact same way:)
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    35 in April! :)

    Depending on your IVF timing in March, you could end up in the same boat as me!  Good luck!

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  • I'll be 35 in March. ?With NYE approaching, this has been on my mind a lot. ?I, too, know that it's just a number and millions of women have healthy, successful pgs well after 35. ?I think it bothers me b/c all of the SART stats are broken up at 35. ?I'm almost 100% sure that this FET didn't work so I know we're close to considering IVF#4. ?(OMG, how did *that* happen?!?) ?We we started this journey almost 3 yrs ago, I was sooo sure that we'd at least have 1 by the time I was 35. ?:P

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  • I'll be 35 in March. ?With NYE approaching, this has been on my mind a lot. ?I, too, know that it's just a number and millions of women have healthy, successful pgs well after 35. ?But... ?I think it bothers me b/c all of the SART stats are broken at 35. ?I'm almost 100% sure that this FET didn't work so I know we're close to considering IVF#4. ?(OMG, how did *that* happen?!?) ?We we started this journey almost 3 yrs ago, I was sooo sure that we'd at least have 1 by the time I was 35. ?:P

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  • Oh Smilee....I totally understand. I don't even know that it matters your age. I am going to be 29 this year, and I am terrified I will make it there and not be pg. I thought I would be having baby #2 by now. Ugh.

    We'll be pg though - we HAVE to be! :)

     

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  • I will be 35 in October.  It worries me too - but my doctor says it is not a problem.

    My sister-in-law got pregnant for the first time at 37.

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