POSITIVITY for us suffering moms to be

missjean81302

I have vented on here, I have complained about all the not so fun things that come with pregnancy. I have even felt like I am NOT going to make it through this one. But I realized that the more I focus on the problems, the more energy I waste, and I am only making it worse. Dont get me wrong, it is in NO way easy to just slap a smile on your face and pretend like everything is great and wonderful, especially when you feel like you have broken ribs, have Lightning crotch, hemorrhoids, constantly peeing, back pain, RL pain, and many other ailments.....

But let's try something new.....

Every day, tell yourself that just for today, you will focus on the positive. When baby moves and kicks, think of the wonder of it all- that YOU are creating a new life! Without you, this tiny person would not even exist! 9 months seems like a long time to suffer, but once baby is here, you probably wont even remember most of the problems! 

tell yourself that just for today, you will get through the pain. Try not to think about it so much. When it does start to consume your thoughts, take charge. Ask for healing from a higher power, wether its praying to God, Buddha, aligning your chakras, whatever you need to do. You'd be surpsied at how much this can help. Go to youtube and listen to meditative music, and focus on your breathing. Inhale light and positivitiy, and healing energies. Exhale the pain, worry, doubt and darkness. You will feel so much better doing this simple breathing technique, and you dont even need to listen to anything to do it. 

Just think positive. 

Be in control of your mind and spirit. 

Your body is working VERY hard creating this life inside you. 

Know your limits. Dont over-work yourself because you feel you "have to". Time to suck it up and ask for help when you need it. People will be happy to help you out! 

Take time every morning and every evening to just focus on your breathing and meditate. 

I will be doing this every day, and i hope some of you will too! Let me know how it goes and if it has helped at all! 

calibr8te

I didn't realize that there were mama's out there that felt this way about pregnancy. I have had  a fairly great pregnancy and am still my happy go lucky self that is always amazed at what my body has managed to create.

When feeling down about aches and pains, just remember that there are worse things that could be happening. Don't sweat the small stuff, and remember that your baby is aware of your emotional well being. You share the same body, try and be a ray of sunshine for the human being that you are hosting within.

llybeck

OP, do you have an additional medical concern like GD, Pre-E, etc? Not trying to be snarky, I'm just curious if there is a reason you feel that way. It sounds like you are just going through normal pregnancy symptoms and I think it's sad that you call it "suffering" and that you've felt like you couldn't make it through this. I honestly can barely walk by the end of the day most of the time and I have heartburn almost every minute, I also have asthma so just breathing is a challenge all the time. But I've never for a second thought of any of it as suffering, I'm making something inside me that will become the most important part of my life.

I'm glad you have found a way to feel better about your symptoms but I would try to think about all the women who have to be on bed rest or have serious life-threatening issues or issues with their LOs. There are also a lot of women who can't get pregnant that would love to feel what you are feeling right now. Again, I'm not trying to be snarky but in the grand scheme of things, you are going through some minor discomfort for a short period of time. For me, that's more than enough to stay positive.

Shmidtzy

I'm not going to get stuck on the semantics of "suffering", think it was meant to be a generalization of what our bodies are capable of withstanding.

We are each experiencing a unique pregnancy with common symptoms in a circumstancial life. The mind is a powerful, influential tool for managing pain and emotion. It's okay to express how miserable you feel, it doesn't make you ungrateful or weak.

Some women don't have compassionate outlets in their lives and can only do what they "have to" to get through each day. Sometimes all it takes is a little kindness to pull a person out of their head so they can better focus on the big picture. OP is offering supportive empathy.

little_bren

I'm not someone who LOVES pregnancy. It's been okay, but I'm not like the moms  that just rave about how much they adore being pregnant or has the desire to have one baby right after the next (ie: women who are pregnant for many years straight). I haven't had any complications, and have been very blessed in that way. It also didn't take me that long to get pregnant either. When I'm feeling huge/ unattractive/ uncomfortable/ tired of being kicked, I try to keep in mind that these are super, super minor things; that tons of women struggle with fertility and can't get pregnant; and how much we want a baby. I try not to sweat the small stuff although they can be annoying (ie: peeing 89 times in an hour), but they are so insignificant when it comes down to it. Try to be grateful that you are lucky enough to have a baby, bc not everyone is. OP, you're taking the right step in attempting to change your attitude. GL.

MissLauraPants

I'm going to go ahead and say yes I am in agreeance that pregnancy sucks. I have not bad a hard pregnancy by any means but yes it's the worst I've ever felt in my life. I have had a miscarriage in the past but think I can still vent that I do not feel the overly joyous feelings most do. I'm excited to have the baby and parent....not in the least this part. I will say that I read 10% of pregnant women go through prenatal depression and I believe I do have those symptoms...hoping they will pass after. Don't let anyone tell you how to feel and go ahead and vent and keep trying to be positive, it won't last forever.

Ahtnamas6789

Shmidtzy said:

I'm not going to get stuck on the semantics of "suffering", think it was meant to be a generalization of what our bodies are capable of withstanding.

We are each experiencing a unique pregnancy with common symptoms in a circumstancial life. The mind is a powerful, influential tool for managing pain and emotion. It's okay to express how miserable you feel, it doesn't make you ungrateful or weak.

Some women don't have compassionate outlets in their lives and can only do what they "have to" to get through each day. Sometimes all it takes is a little kindness to pull a person out of their head so they can better focus on the big picture. OP is offering supportive empathy.

Well said..
=D>

I sort of feel like the PP took the OPs message the wrong way.

llybeck

Ahtnamas6789 said:

I'm not going to get stuck on the semantics of "suffering", think it was meant to be a generalization of what our bodies are capable of withstanding. We are each experiencing a unique pregnancy with common symptoms in a circumstancial life. The mind is a powerful, influential tool for managing pain and emotion. It's okay to express how miserable you feel, it doesn't make you ungrateful or weak. Some women don't have compassionate outlets in their lives and can only do what they "have to" to get through each day. Sometimes all it takes is a little kindness to pull a person out of their head so they can better focus on the big picture. OP is offering supportive empathy.

Well said.. =D> I sort of feel like the PP took the OPs message the wrong way.

Nope, I understand what the OP was saying and didn't take it the wrong way. I was just offering another perspective on staying positive. I know several people IRL that have struggled for years to and/or can't get pregnant. They tend to get kind of offended/depressed when people say things like they are "NOT going to make it through this" or they are "suffering" through their pregnancy or they "can only do what they have to" to get through it when they have no actual complications or issues.

I never said that expressing pain/discomfort makes anyone weak, we all do it, but at some point a person has to realize that their body is made to do this and millions of women have done it and gone through it with much less than we do. Many people still do in less developed parts of the world. I see what OP is saying and I think it's great that she's found a way to improve her attitude. My opinion differs, however, because there are so many things to be thankful for in pregnancy that I don't think it's difficult to take a moment to think about how easy we have it in commparison to someone who actually has a difficult pregnancy or can't get pregnant.  

To each their own, again, I was just offernig another perspective on staying positive because it honestly does make me sad that so many women could even say the things I quoted above without having any actual complications. I haven't had an easy pregnancy and I am pretty much always in pain so I was stating what keeps me positive about it.