So... push presents?

MsCat19

Who's getting a push present?  Who isn't?  Who doesn't know WTF I'm talking about?

Lyzza350

Idk. I feel like if I want something I'm just gonna buy it. If hubby wants to celebrate by getting me a present ill appreciate it but I'm not asking or expecting anything.

Islandgirl1129

I won't ask but wouldn't turn it down it means more to me if he decides to do it in his own

cammyisagirlsname

I asked this once before here & it didn't go over well...

edenkeever

I got push presents with both DS and DD...and will be getting the same with this DS. It was actually my husband's idea. For each baby he bought me an eternity band. We have had each one engraved on the inside so I can tell whose is whose. The idea being that one day when they are old enough (and they can pry them off my cold dead fingers ) they can each have the rings their daddy gave me the day they were born.

I wear them all together, stacked up.

lilypienmessimy

I have no clue if I'm getting one. I'm not going to talk about it with my DH unless he asks. I don't think I need anything, this baby is a blessing and I'm just happy it's healthy and hope it stays that way. If he does get me something, that would be fabulous, but I wouldn't ask him to specifically get me a push present. 

MsCat19

I got tacos last time.  I think that's what I want again.

grannyweatherwax

Well, since I'm due 2 days after Christmas I'm guessing no. And my birthday is in January. I want my present to be DH keeping MIL away from me for a few days after I deliver. That would be cool.

zonastar23

Honestly, it seems kind of tacky to me, and DH agrees. We wouldn't do it, but to each their own. Either way, I'm not actually pushing... though if DH gets me a present for getting up and walking after the surgery, I won't complain. LOL

jy725

DH and I talked about getting a gift for me. I want a new pair of running shoes. He will prob pick something out for himself too. It'll be nice to get each other something to celebrate.

Mrbatesisinnocent

Nope and I think the idea is a bit silly. I will get a birthday gift as my birthday is four days after my due date.

insertclevername

I don't like to call it a push present but my H got me a three stone diamond necklace to represent us becoming a family of three when DS was born.  I asked DH not to get me something this time around because I would much prefer we save the money for a vacation or something for all of us.

AGriffin620

I had never heard of them until a friend had her baby, and DH has no clue. I don't really expect a gift for pushing our child out. He created it just as much as I did and is putting up with my crazy pregnant ass for months and months. I think the baby is a gift in itself.

macadamia03

I want Sushi as my push present. I'm one of those paranoid ladies who has avoided sushi and I am dying! I need a Philly roll like yesterday. The hospital I'm delivering is across the street from my favorite sushi place. As soon as this nugget pops I'm going for it. I'm sure the risk of mercury and food poisoning through breast milk is far less than while the baby is inside of you right?

GeauxM&V

I have never heard of this either, except for when I saw it discussed on the board. I do not think a push present is at all necessary. While some of the meanings behind it are very sweet, I don't think anything could possibly top holding my baby in my arms. My H wouldn't have a clue as to what this is, and would probably think it was silly as well.

edenkeever

HopeIn2013 said:

I'm getting one...it's called our baby. I never understood the idea of push presents...just because you give birth doesn't mean you deserve a present. Feeds into the entitlement attitude that many have.

I should say I didn't ask for one, it was his idea and each time I have given birth I have also surprised him with a gift for putting up with my hormonal behind for 9 months. He got a GPS watch the first time and a nice dress watch the second time(the man loves a good watch)...and this reminds me I had better start shopping for him again!

mightymousy

I don't think Mr.MM has ever even heard of this concept so I highly doubt it, especially so close to Christmas. I wouldn't mind a good bottle of red wine though

Anonymom9

M&H2011 said:

HopeIn2013 said:

I'm getting one...it's called our baby. I never understood the idea of push presents...just because you give birth doesn't mean you deserve a present. Feeds into the entitlement attitude that many have.

That's a bit of stretch for me.  For many "push presents" are a way to commemorate a very meaningful milestone in life.  So do you think sending flowers to a new mother and father to be entitlement building as well?  To me, flowers are also a gift in celebration of the new birth. Your perspective seems odd to me but each to his own. 

I agree with HopeIn2013- the baby is the present. But M&H, I see your point too. It is certainly a very special milestone that absolutely has the right to be celebrated.  My question is, do they have to be called "push presents"?  That name is just disgusting.  Like the person feels like they DESERVE some sort of awesome gift because they had a baby.  If your DH or family member wants to do something special to commemorate that is totally understandable and awesome, but "push present"?? Gross. 

AGriffin620

mightymousy said:

I don't think Mr.MM has ever even heard of this concept so I highly doubt it, especially so close to Christmas. I wouldn't mind a good bottle of red wine though

Mmm....wine...

swirl25

Nope...didn't get one last time, and won't this time either. DD was born 5 days before my birthday, and this baby will (hopefully) make her appearance a week before Christmas so anything I got/get will be for those occasions. But, to each their own!

MissJenna2011

Not my style, but I don't have a huge opinion on the subject either way...

 I DID however ask for a Nikon camera for Christmas... but hinted that if it came earlier (i'm due 12.19.13) that it could be used at the hospital and would take lovely pictures of our precious newborn... lol we shall see!

But I did buy our son a present when baby #2 arrived (the game Elefun, he was 3) we brought it to the hospital with us and gave it to him from his new baby sister when my inlaws brought him to meet her! It was sweet how excited he was and even more sweet that he was more interested in his baby sister than the Elefun game...

itsaleedanielle

If I don't have anything nice to say, I won't say anything at all. :x

frankierokx

A Push Present is very much an American idea, over here after the birth of your first child you get an eternity band, usually with the child gem stone in. 

notkateanymore

Yes I'm getting one, no it's not called a push present, but I'm getting something I've been waiting for awhile as a combo baby, end of deal {DH has a big work deal going on and it should close right after the baby comes if all goes to plan} and Christmas gift. 

notkateanymore

frankierokx said:

A Push Present is very much an American idea, over here after the birth of your first child you get an eternity band, usually with the child gem stone in. 

How is that not a "push present?"

frankierokx

KateMW said:

frankierokx said:

A Push Present is very much an American idea, over here after the birth of your first child you get an eternity band, usually with the child gem stone in. 

How is that not a "push present?"

I guess it is a  'push present' but we don't call it that.

Mrsfernandez625

Not really asking for anything but if DH does it on his own I'll gratefully accept ;;)

MamaGrillo

My Dr and I had a good laugh about this. I said that I'd never heard of this (baby #4) and she apologised for failing me as an OB. Lol!

I asked my husband if I get a slice present with back pay x3 for this c/s. i got a bit of a side-eye.

Personally, champagne and chocolate covered strawberries sounds like an awesome slice present. Combined with the percosset (sp?) I should be one happy mama!

amberpro

With DS, DH had never heard if a push present and I didn't feel the need to tell him. Friends have asked, so he knows now, but I doubt it will even cross his mind.

I have, however, been asking for mother's jewelry the last couple holidays. Maybe he's holding out. :P

Rachel5782

My push present last time was LASIK. Actually it wasn't really a push present because I got it 7 months after Jacob was born. And I only got it because we had money if our HSA we had to use by the end of the year. I also got a baby shoe necklace I wanted but that was a Christmas gift. I certainly don't feel like I need a push present, especially when the only thing I really wanted last time was someone to watch Ds for an hour or two so I could nap. Lol

teacupkat

If my DH gets me anything, I hope it is a box of wine with a straw.

northport6

@teacupkat  NOW we're talkin'.

Londonsmybabyboy

I want my baby boy to be healthy. That's the best gift I could get. He was due on DHs birthday. Maybe I will get him a push present. He is also getting me something but I don't care if he does or not.

aessary03

I want a present. I love presents.  I told my hubby about this phenomenon and he looked at me like I was fucking nuts! haha.    I'd just take a simple strand of pearls ... nothing too extravagant!  But I like to dress up .... so that would be fun! 

KelseyKetchum

I have heard of this but honestly I know I'm going to be somewhere between glad that's over, I need sleep, and someone feed the not-so-pregasauras. So maybe my push present should be in n out or chocolate covered gummy bears!!!!

Yogakitten

I really don't understand the talk about this being tackiness or entitlement. You're not expecting something from some acquaintance, it's your husband and your cash going towards the present. Ask him for a present, don't ask him, who the heck cares?! How is this any different from dropping hints about the type of engagement ring you wanted or expecting a birthday gift? By the way, this is coming from someone who never wore an engagement ring and only wants a piece of cake for her birthday.

Yogakitten

ColeRose said:

These posts always make me laugh. I just find it HIGHlarious when others get riled up if some people want/would like/demand a push present. IDGAF how other people spend their money.

AFM I have no idea if DH is getting me anything, I don't care either way.

This x100.

roxannebellistri

I don't ask or expect but I always get a present. It's just the way he is. He spoils me rotten and heck, who am I to say no ;-)

doublefiesta

Loolaide said:

These posts are always funny.  The name push present is disgusting to me.

Me neither, I cannot get over the term "push present". But whatever it's called, the commercialization of a child's birth makes me uncomfortable. I grew up not celebrating Christmas and celebrating birthdays with family dinners, so push presents are not really in line with our family's values. But no judgment on people who do them...it's just not our thing.

lrobb004

I think the idea of push presents are funny. I want an iPad for Christmas, but call it a push present as a joke with my DH. I'm due 12/21, so whatever gifts I get will be Christmas presents. But hey, if you can find a reason to get something you've been wanting, go for it!

shoeflypie

I just want some chocolate covered fruit, Pinot noir, Bloody Mary, and some beef carpaccio.

The more I think about it, the more I would like something small with my baby's name, birthdate, etc. I know DH is getting a tattoo of the baby's footprint.