Struggling would love advice! and we found out genders!!

TheDairyQueenx3

Well we found out that we are having two boys so that means a total of 3 boys for us! Colton Jay and Cayden William are the names we have chosen . Any how I havent been on much due to complications and bed rest. Baby B seems to be doing ok now we will find out about his kidneys on the 5th at our 20 week U/S his fluid levels are doing well so hopefully all is ok. Baby A now has a cyst on his brain and an abnormality in his heart so they are keeping a close eye on him. Needless to say it has been somewhat of an emotional roller coster for my husband and I. But the question I have is about delivery. We have doctors who will attempt a vaginal delivery and that is what I was really hoping for however, I don't want to end up pushing one out and being sliced open for the other ( which is how the OB seems to predict it will go because he refuses to deliver breech twin even if its second out). For those of you who have birthed your twins which would you recommend. Had this of been a single baby it would have been a water birth at our midwife center as vaginal delivery is all to easy for me but now throw that second baby in the mix ......well the hospital sounds like the better choice even though she has delivered many twins and breech babies. A C-Section is absolutely terrifying for me though.. i don't heal well or respond to spinals well at all and have major blood presser issues dropping too low.... not being the first one  to hold my babies, and basically losing total control ( not to mention the pain after) just freaks me right out. How did you guys decide what was best. I have a feeling deep down they will be here via C-Section as much as i don't want but I know its best. sorry for rambling or if this is all over the place I just am on a hormonal roller coster of surprises with this pregnancy and feel like I don't get a say about a single thing. Thanks for listening everyone it was just nice to vent a little on my keyboard instead of the same thoughts constantly rolling through out my head. 

kiwi443

One of my girls was breech and I had a C-section, vaginal delivery was never even presented as an option. My situation was a bit different because my girls were mo/di (most likely, that's a long story) and I had terrible complications with my first vaginal delivery. Given my history, I was glad to have a C-section and I found the recovery far easier. It was hard not to be able to hold them right away, but I was just happy they were okay.

I'm sorry you feel like you don't have a voice in this decision. Best wishes as you process.

 

24karat

Totally understand how you feel! I had a vaginal birth with DD, 36+hrs of labor, no complications, but a super easy recovery so I REALLY wanted to have a natural birth for the twins. My midwives would do vaginal so long as Baby A was head down, regardless of B's position since B can be pulled out or turned. I wanted to avoid the whole vag then c/s too (who doesn't?) but ended up with a c/s for the whole deal before I could go into labor. My mo-di twins were both transverse and if that's not complicated enough, Baby B had his cord around his neck 4x. It was done at our chosen hospital (which is midwifery based) by an OB and one of my midwives. I wasn't able to hold the babies right away due to how I reacted to the spinal, but they did unstrap an arm and have DH hold them skin to skin with me immediately. I held them on my own less than an hour later in the recovery room. I'll admit I was expecting recovery to be worse than it's been (I'm 2wks postpartum) but it hasn't been too bad. While I initially would've said I preferred the vaginal birth, my c/s experience was positive enough for me to be glad it happened. It's kind of a trade off IMO. On one hand you do the work up front and have (most times) an easy recovery, on the other you have the easy delivery and harder recovery. I still lean toward the former just because I'd rather have the hard stuff up front when I don't have a newborn needing my attention.

Best advice I can give is to plan to have the birth you want and believe is best for you and your babies, but be ready to be flexible in case it isn't possible.

TheDairyQueenx3

Thank you so much everyone. Kj you have helped me so much! I'm just in a waiting game to see how they want to position themselves. My midwife is 2 hours away and being due I n December 26 that also makes this complex and my OB is stubborn in his well I refuse to deliver the second twin if breech. It's like being stuck between a rock and a hard place especially because they are not our last and I want my water birth so so bad! Sounds selfish I know but the whole c section thing just goes against everything I wanted. But this pregnancy has forced me into giving up all control since they said congrats it's twins haha!

kgs0505

Maybe look for an OB who would be willing to atttempt a breech birth if A is head down.  There are a lot of OBs who will.  I wouldn't deliver with the midwife however, I would definitley want to be in the hospital just in case.  What due date is 12/26?  Your 40 wk due date or 38 week due date?  If it's your 40 week due date, you likely won't make it that far.  You may, but most ladies on here deliver earlier.  So, I wouldn't worry about the holidays being an issue.

As for a c-section, I had one.  These were my first bio kids, and my last.  Both were head down, so I suppose I could have pushed them out, but when I made my descison they were still flipping all over the place.  Anywho, the spinal was not bad, except for the itching until it wore off.  No, I did not get to hold my babies for almost 20 hours.  They went to NICU right away because they were having a little trouble breathing.  They were off the oxygen in about 12 hours though and stayed in NICU for a week as feeders and growers.  They did bring them to me to see and kiss before they whisked them off to NICU, so at least I got to see them.  But because I was on magnesium, I wasn't allowed out of bed for 24 hours.  When my doctor stopped by next morning and heard I hadn't seen them yet, she told the nurses to get me in a wheelchair and take me to see them.  I love my doctor   Yes, getting out of bed the first few times royally sucked and was painful.  But the more I did it, the better I felt.  By the time I was discharged I was moving much more normally.  A litttle slow, but better.  If you do have a c-section, the best pieces of advice I have is keep up on the pain meds, even if you don't think you need them, take them.  The pain only gets worse if you don't take them and then by the time you do, it takes several doses for it to work properly.  And ask for an abdominal binder.  It'll help with the walking and getting out of bed a lot.

Good luck with the boys  

TheDairyQueenx3

Thank you so much! KGS. I live in about the worst area possible to be pregnant with twins there is only one OB office here the next closest would be about 2 hours away and there is no NICU at all that too is about 2 hours away so but weather is my concern not so much holidays. thats why a planned c-section may be best at another hospital but because we live where winters are brutal getting back home to our 3 year old for the holidays has crossed my mind. Its all a lot of uneasiness. But I will be talking about a belly binder at my next appointment to see if they will give me one or if I should order my own that is great advice! My first baby was so easy to push out in a big city right down from the road where we lived now with these its just a lot of complications as much as i would love a bag delivery I'm just not seeing it happen but as long as they are here healthy and safe i suppose my pain wont matter in the slightest 

ks3pink

I had a RCS and while it was worse than my first if I hadn't had that comparison I probably wouldn't have thought twice about it.