TTC After a Loss

Saying hello. (Contains baby siggy)

It looks like I am ready to join you ladies. I had a mmc 4 weeks ago, and FINALLY "passed" the pregnancy this past Monday narrowly avoiding a complicated d&c. I was diagnosed with a severe bicornuate uterus. The drs still can't believe I was lucky enough to have one baby. I am really hoping and praying for a sweet rainbow baby soon. It's just very hard to ignore drs and their statistics. :( they want me to wait a cycle for ttc, but other than timing it we aren't doing anything to avoid this month. Just wanted to say hello and wish everyone good luck and baby dust!
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Re: Saying hello. (Contains baby siggy)

  • I'm so sorry for your loss ((HUGS))


  • I'm sorry for your loss.



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    Started TTC Feb 2013, BFP #1 3/4/13 EDD 11/10/13. MMC 4/9/13 D&C 4/22/13.
    BFP #2 7/17/13, EDD 3/29/14 ended in a CP on 7/22/13.
    BFP#3 8/19/13 EDD 5/3/14 Nerdling was born 4/29/14, welcome little one!
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  • Sorry for your loss. Also, I agree with PP about changing your avatar. It can be hurtful to women. And, FWIW, I think it is really silly if you aren't doing anything to avoid this month after your Dr. told you to wait. In the sentence right before that you said it's hard to ignore Drs, but that is what you are doing. What if you O early or late and don't know it, so your timing strategy doesn't work? Drs give orders for a reason, and you should probably heed their advice.
    Welcome to the board.

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    Started dating in 5/9/05, Married 6/25/11
    Started TTC Feb 2013, BFP #1 3/4/13 EDD 11/10/13. MMC 4/9/13 D&C 4/22/13.
    BFP #2 7/17/13, EDD 3/29/14 ended in a CP on 7/22/13.
    BFP#3 8/19/13 EDD 5/3/14 Nerdling was born 4/29/14, welcome little one!
     All AL welcome.


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  • Welcome to the board.  I am so sorry for your loss.  Please follow your doctors recommendations!
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  • LesliWLesliW member
    So sorry for your loss... Welcome to the board.

    Me (40) DH (45); Started dating 2-24-12, Married 5-13-13

    BFP 3-16-13..EDD 11-17-13.. MMC 4-16-13 Confirmed/D&C 4-23-13...
    BFP #4 6-22-14 EDD 3-6-15 FX for our LO

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  • I'm sorry for your loss and that you find yourself here. This is a wonderful place filled with some really amazing women. Please, don't be offended or get defensive if we suggest things like, reading the blog, lurking, changing avatar, warning about tickers, etc... You'll hopefully discover what a safe haven this can be. FX your stay is short!

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    DX: Hypothyroid, DOR, Right Tube Blocked, Uterine Fibroid (awaiting hysteroscopy) | DH: Beta Thal Minor, ED (Cialis)

    OCT - DEC 2012 | TI | BFN

    JAN 2013 | BFP ~ EDD 9/23/13

    MAR 2013 | MMC due to Trisomy 10 ~ D&E MAR. 8

    APR - JUN 2013 | TTA

    JUL - NOV 2013 | TI |  BFN

    NOV 2013 | HSG & SHG ~ Right Tube Blocked & "Thickening" of Uterus

    DEC 2013 - JAN 2014 | NTNP |  BFN ~ Switched to new practice

    JAN - FEB 2014 | 3-D u/s & SHG ~ Uterine Fibroid ~ Awaiting Hysteroscopy

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  • I apologize if anyone was bothered by my avatar. I will change it when I can get to a desktop. I figure I did put in my title the warning of the baby siggy, so perhaps those who are sensitive wouldn't open my discussion. As for ignoring drs. I don't think not waiting, or rather only using timing as a method of avoidance because its harder to date the pregnancy (which can be easier remedied with an ultrasound) is not the same as ignoring the drs saying you may never have another full term child.
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    So sorry for your loss.  Hopefully you can find the support here you need.  As far as the other ladies recommending listening to your doctor.. I would also agree.  It may not be just for dating purposes, or did your doctor specifically say that?  It may be because your body may not be ready to hold a pregnancy again, which would result in another loss.  They are just trying to help out you and your body.  Good luck!

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  • chapstix7 said:
    I apologize if anyone was bothered by my avatar. I will change it when I can get to a desktop. I figure I did put in my title the warning of the baby siggy, so perhaps those who are sensitive wouldn't open my discussion. As for ignoring drs. I don't think not waiting, or rather only using timing as a method of avoidance because its harder to date the pregnancy (which can be easier remedied with an ultrasound) is not the same as ignoring the drs saying you may never have another full term child.
    You said in your original post your Dr wants you to wait a cycle before TTC. You followed that by saying you aren't avoiding getting pg except timing. If you aren't charting, temping, etc. then your timing means nothing. There must have been a reason for your Dr. to say wait a cycle. You're a big girl and can do what you want. I was simply suggesting listening to the person that you sought out and pay for medical advice.
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    BFP #2 9/17/13 -- EDD 5/25/14-- CP confirmed 9/21/13
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    2/1/14 -- EDD 10/5/14 -- NMC 2/10/14

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  • Let me clarify. I am temping, charting, watching cervical mucus etc... I just meant we are not using birth control pills, condoms etc.
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  • chapstix7 said:
    Let me clarify. I am temping, charting, watching cervical mucus etc... I just meant we are not using birth control pills, condoms etc.

    I think we're all just trying to caution you toe be careful, extra careful after a loss specifically. Your body will be wonky afterwards, CM and CP out of whack, as well as temps. And ultimately, temps can only tell you you've O'd after it happens. What if you don't get EWCM like normal and still ovulate, have sex thinking you're ok, and then see your temp spike signalling O? A scenario like this is always possible. 'Timing' after a loss when your body is likely to be all sorts of wonky can be a disastrously unreliable way to go about things. We'd all just hate to see someone go through another painful loss because they got KU before they should.


         

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  • gscoville said:
    chapstix7 said:
    Let me clarify. I am temping, charting, watching cervical mucus etc... I just meant we are not using birth control pills, condoms etc.

    I think we're all just trying to caution you toe be careful, extra careful after a loss specifically. Your body will be wonky afterwards, CM and CP out of whack, as well as temps. And ultimately, temps can only tell you you've O'd after it happens. What if you don't get EWCM like normal and still ovulate, have sex thinking you're ok, and then see your temp spike signalling O? A scenario like this is always possible. 'Timing' after a loss when your body is likely to be all sorts of wonky can be a disastrously unreliable way to go about things. We'd all just hate to see someone go through another painful loss because they got KU before they should.
    Get out of my head! ;)
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    BFP#1 9/9/12 -- EDD 5/14/13 -- MMC 10/10/12 Miso 10/19/12

    BFP #2 9/17/13 -- EDD 5/25/14-- CP confirmed 9/21/13
     BFP #3
    2/1/14 -- EDD 10/5/14 -- NMC 2/10/14

    Dx: low progesterone & mild hypothyroidism

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  • jap618jap618 member
    I'm sorry for your loss & welcome to the board.
    Married the love of my life June 18, 2011 -- Me (28) DH (29)
    TTC #1 since June 2012
    BFP #1 6.29.12 EDD 3.12.13 MMC discovered 8.11.12 9w5d D&C 8.15.12
    BFP #2 11.2.12 EDD 7.14.13 MMC 6w5d discovered 8w6d 2 failed rounds miso D&C 12.27.12
    BFP #3 8.5.13 EDD 4.18.14 MMC 7w4d discovered 9.25.13 at 10w6d -Trisomy 13- 1 round miso & emergency D&C 10.2.13
    RPL Testing. DX Asherman's November 2013. Low AMH (0.44) January 2014. 
    Operative Hysteroscopy January 2014 to remove scar tissue.
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  • gscoville said:
    chapstix7 said:
    Let me clarify. I am temping, charting, watching cervical mucus etc... I just meant we are not using birth control pills, condoms etc.

    I think we're all just trying to caution you toe be careful, extra careful after a loss specifically. Your body will be wonky afterwards, CM and CP out of whack, as well as temps. And ultimately, temps can only tell you you've O'd after it happens. What if you don't get EWCM like normal and still ovulate, have sex thinking you're ok, and then see your temp spike signalling O? A scenario like this is always possible. 'Timing' after a loss when your body is likely to be all sorts of wonky can be a disastrously unreliable way to go about things. We'd all just hate to see someone go through another painful loss because they got KU before they should.
    Get out of my head! ;)
    This exactly!  OP, my cycles run long... usually 40-50 days.  My first cycle after my mc I ovulated on CD22, which is much earlier than usual.  I think you should really consider using condoms or abstaining to make sure an "oops" doesn't happen.  It would feel terrible to risk another loss because you didn't follow doctor's orders.  

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    BFP #2  "Quinn" EDD 06/21/13- MMC @ 8 weeks - Disc. 12/12/12 @ 13w0d 
    BFP #3  "Luna" EDD 03/31/14- MC 07/29/13 @ 5 w0d 
    BFP #4  "Star" EDD 07/06/14- MC 11/28/13 @ 8 weeks
    BFP #5 "Baby J"- 02/07/14. DS born 10/29/2014 My Rainbow!
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss and all that you've been through. But please, use protection or abstain. I know you're charting, temping, and checking cp and cm, but none of that is fool-proof (yes, I know condoms aren't either)- particularly since cp and cm can change multiple times daily and your temp only confirms O after the fact.

    Welcome, and best of luck to you. Hoping your stay is short and sweet.

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    Beta #2 @ 20-22 dpo = 8,782!
    Beta #3 @ 27-29dpo = 44,230, dx subchorionic hemorrhage/ threatened mc
    Beta #4 @ 29-31dpo = 72, 080 :)
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  • So sorry for your loss. Welcome

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