Stepping up on soap box.......
I want to say RIGHT now that the argument that a vaginal delivery is more of an accomplishment than is C-section is SUCH crap. I have had both and let me tell you---a C-section is waaaay harder to recover from. If someone wants to schedule a major surgery for whatever reason, that does not mean they are taking the "easy" way out. I am begging my OB to let me try to VBAC because I am terrified to go through that again. So let us stop that argument before it happens! PROPS TO ANYONE THAT GROWS A CHILD FOR NINE MONTHS AND POPS THEM OUT IN WHATEVER FASHION.
Also, a natural delivery is a non-medicated delivery---NOT a vaginal delivery. IMO.
Stepping down....
ETA: I should not have said it was way worse in every scenario, just from my personal experience. I am sure there are some gnarly tears out there and I know someone that ripped front to back and was told to have no more children. You are correct, that was unfair. I just feel at the end of our pregnancies C-section women are almost put below women that gave birth vaginally. I have been told, you are so lucky you had a C-section and I got very uneasy with that. Sorry ladies!
Re: Can of worms discussion sparked another pet peeve of mine....
Also, have you heard how bad some women tear down there after a vag delivery? You think that shit is a walk in the park? You're high.
BFP #1 5.26.08 DD born 1.4.09
BFP #2 3.11.12 m/c 3.26.12
BFP #3 10.7.12 m/c 10.27.12
BFP #4 2.24.13 ectopic MTX 3.13.13 Right tube removed 3.29.13
BFP #5 5.27.13 DS born 1.22.14
BFP #6 4.14.16
Also, the "natural birth" thing. There's a baby coming out of you. It's natural for you and your needs so who on the hell cares how it gets here.
BFP #1 5.26.08 DD born 1.4.09
BFP #2 3.11.12 m/c 3.26.12
BFP #3 10.7.12 m/c 10.27.12
BFP #4 2.24.13 ectopic MTX 3.13.13 Right tube removed 3.29.13
BFP #5 5.27.13 DS born 1.22.14
BFP #6 4.14.16
I did tear, not 3rd degree but I definitely think have several layers and an organ cut open is MUCH worse. No, that sucks and is certainly not a walk in the park!
BFP 2/25/09
HCG 3/6=518 3/8=1230
1st Ultrasound 3/18 FHR=103
2nd U/S 3/20 FHR=118!!
3rd U/S 4/1 FHR=169
BIG U/S 5/22=IT'S A BOY! FHR-148
DS Born October 30, 2009
BFP 5/27/11 Stick baby, stick!
HCG 5/31=140 P=9 HCG 6/2=292 P=11
1ST Ultrasound 6/15 FHR=109!!
U/S 8/18=IT'S A BOY! FHR-141
First off - this only relates to one friend of mine. She is childless, and can't even hold down a relationship because she still acts like she's in highschool.
She lectures me every time I'm pregnant because I go vaginal. Her opinion "That's disgusting. When I get pregnant I'm having a C-Section because I want to be able to come home from the hospital and have sex right away".
That's seriously her argument. I realize she has no clue, and I don't get into it with her because I don't have the energy. I just want to slap her some times though.
Everyone else, C-section, vaginal, who cares. Do what you want, it's not my body. All I want is not to be induced. Both previous pregnancies I had to be, and I tried to tough it out, but those contractions sucked and I'm no hero (hello epi).
She thought her c-section was amazing and felt sorry for me.
It all boils down to the individual experience. No two deliveries (even if they are both c-sections or both vaginal) are going to be exactly the same.
There's no point in even starting an "argument" like this...it's pointless.
MAY '15 DEC. SIGGY CHALLENGE- FAV. CHRISTMAS MOVIE
Dating- 3/1/1999 ~ Married- 10/10/2004
DD#1- Sweet Pea ~ Born on her Due Date 3/1/2007
DD#2- Pumpkin ~ Due 9/29/2010 Arrived 10/1/2010
~ BFP: 6/12/2013 EDD: 2/21/2014 NT Scan: 8/5/2013 (11w3d) MMC D&C: 8/8/2013 ~
~BFP: 3/15/2014 EDD: 11/24/2014 CP 4 weeks 4 days ~
~BFP: 7/2/2014 EDD: 3/15/2015 CP 4 weeks ~
~BFP: 8/31/2014 EDD: 5/10/2015
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BFP 2/25/09
HCG 3/6=518 3/8=1230
1st Ultrasound 3/18 FHR=103
2nd U/S 3/20 FHR=118!!
3rd U/S 4/1 FHR=169
BIG U/S 5/22=IT'S A BOY! FHR-148
DS Born October 30, 2009
BFP 5/27/11 Stick baby, stick!
HCG 5/31=140 P=9 HCG 6/2=292 P=11
1ST Ultrasound 6/15 FHR=109!!
U/S 8/18=IT'S A BOY! FHR-141
MAY '15 DEC. SIGGY CHALLENGE- FAV. CHRISTMAS MOVIE
Dating- 3/1/1999 ~ Married- 10/10/2004
DD#1- Sweet Pea ~ Born on her Due Date 3/1/2007
DD#2- Pumpkin ~ Due 9/29/2010 Arrived 10/1/2010
~ BFP: 6/12/2013 EDD: 2/21/2014 NT Scan: 8/5/2013 (11w3d) MMC D&C: 8/8/2013 ~
~BFP: 3/15/2014 EDD: 11/24/2014 CP 4 weeks 4 days ~
~BFP: 7/2/2014 EDD: 3/15/2015 CP 4 weeks ~
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I went in & was induced b/c of issues, but after hours of labor, baby had issues, so I had an emergency C-section. My 2nd was an planned C-section (& I was already in labor that time), and now, 3rd time around, there's really not much choice, plus, it's twins, so...yeah. Slice & dice, doc.
2nd C-section, the nurse He-Manned my stomach muscles, & over-pulled. OMG, did that hurt. I knew right away something was wrong when I got back to the room, even before all the meds wore off. After I complained & told them something was off, & it wasn't going away, they told me what had happened during delivery. I'd heard the doctor warn her, but I thought he was just getting her attention on another bleed, since I WAS in labor & they were having some issues. THAT C-section took a lot more time to recover from, & was a lot more painful.
This time around...I just have fingers crossed.
What peeves me? When they don't really explain what all Pitocin can do to you, &, when the damn meds fail...REPEATEDLY...Those are MY peeves. Oh, & those shows about pregnant women where they REFUSE & throw a fit about having a C-section when the doctor has told them it's absolutely vital for saving the baby/saving the mom's life. They absolutely refuse until it becomes a legal issue. Really, so, your pre-set plans (for whatever reason, a belief that natural is better, or they wanted non-medicated, or they're just afraid for themselves), that idea is more important than delivering your struggling, failing baby immediately in the safest way possible? I need to stop watching those shows on TLC, b/c that drives me nuts. I don't understand mom's that put their ideas/wants above their baby's safety & life when they've been shown & told that their baby is in danger.
As for everybody else who isn't in an emergency situation, again, it's a personal choice, and sometimes, it's NO choice at all, it's a medical necessity, so judging over what someone does with their privates, (or doesn't do) doesn't impact me, so, I don't care. In the end, a healthy baby is all that matters.
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You will be ready though...in the moment...you just are.
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Dating- 3/1/1999 ~ Married- 10/10/2004
DD#1- Sweet Pea ~ Born on her Due Date 3/1/2007
DD#2- Pumpkin ~ Due 9/29/2010 Arrived 10/1/2010
~ BFP: 6/12/2013 EDD: 2/21/2014 NT Scan: 8/5/2013 (11w3d) MMC D&C: 8/8/2013 ~
~BFP: 3/15/2014 EDD: 11/24/2014 CP 4 weeks 4 days ~
~BFP: 7/2/2014 EDD: 3/15/2015 CP 4 weeks ~
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Vaginal or C/S- we all deserve a frickin medal. If you push the baby out through your nose, then ok... you win. There is no "easy" way out. For the record I have never labored. My first was a c/s b/c DS had reduced fetal movement and heart rate. I was given the option to induce or go straight for c/s. I asked if she thought I'd end up with a c/s anyway and she said yes so I said skip the induction- get him out. Thank God I did... he had swallowed meconium and had a collapsed lung. So if you think I took the easy way out... fine. My son is alive and healthy and that's all that matters to me. To be honest, I thought that first c/s was a breeze. Maybe I was so focused on him being in the NICU and getting better that I didn't notice my own pain? Or maybe I healed better b/c he was in the NICU and I had no choice but to rest? My second one was a scheduled c/s. I had a much harder recovery that time b/c I kept overdoing it. Having a toddler at home- I felt rushed to get back. I won't do that this time. I will stay in the hospital as long as they allow and both of my older kids will stay with relatives for the entire first week I'm at home. I plan to sit on my ass and nurse and that's it. Sure, in a lot of ways, scheduled c/s are easier. At least up front. But you definitely pay for it on the back end.
haha, I agree! Thanks everyone!
There is no 'easy way' ladies. I don't like the whole c-section is harder than vag delivery and vice versa arguments. They make my lady parts hurt.
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23 perfect embryos. All 23 made it to freezing!
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October 20th - BFP??! EDD - July 1, 2012
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I'm glad you are all here.. it means the lady parts were in good enough shape for another round.
Giving birth is tough business no matter which route you go.. but I do have to say.. it annoys me to see ftm who are all prissy and think that a cs is optional rather than necessary. . Not that I've ever seen that HERE .. but I have seen it asked else where.