I am from Europe where we don't have baby showers (or any showers) so the concept is new to me. What's the purpose of a baby shower? I have been to one and didn't care for it - it was really boring in my opinion and I was embarrassed by having to guess the size of the expectant mother's belly. It was a woman-only event and those who had no children (including me) were not really thrilled by the events. Are there are other ways to accomplish the same thing? I would really like something with both men and women, more of a party/ celebration...TIA!
Re: Purpose of a shower
It sounds like the type of shower you went to in the past is a fairly traditional baby shower. More recently, I think people are opting for a "couple's shower" that includes the father and male guests as well. It just seems to be up to the preference of the mom and the person planning the shower.
We are having a couple's shower and I prefer that we don't play many of the games that I feel are ridiculous. However, I've been to a few showers with some of those games and the guest of honor loves the games. It just all seems to be so personal. But my husband is an equal partner in this whole baby escapade and I think he deserves to be "showered" too!
In my opinion the purpose of the shower is to gather friends/family together in advance to celebrate the soon-to-be mom/parents and support them with baby-related gifts.
If that is something you don't feel comfortable with, a lot of people skip the baby shower, and host a Meet the Baby party after the baby is born. I think this is a great idea, but my guess is that you wouldn't get the same type of "necessity" gifts ahead of time (like car seat, stroller, bottles, diapers, etc.)
The purpose of a shower is to celebrate a woman becoming a new mother, and celebrate the baby's life.
You can do a non-traditional shower that is co-ed, or opt for a "meet the baby" party after the baby is born.
the #1 rule when it comes to baby showers:
you don't give one for yourself. ?showers are a gift, usually given by a family member (etiquette frowns upon this, though) or a close friend. ?the purpose is to "shower" the new mother with gifts for the baby.
you can throw a "meet the baby" party, which most attendees will bring gifts for, but it's not a requirement - and that's why it's okay for parents to plan those.?
We will also be having a couples shower. Many of our closest friends are male and I also never really got into the whole traditional baby shower thing. We're due in June so my mom will be hosting a luau shower for us in early May with normal party games and food, very co-ed friendly...
Personally I am of the "old school" and don't appreciate going to co-ed baby showers. Most of the ones I've been too women talk about their own child birth experiences and the expectant mother asks questions, etc. I have been to co-ed "meet the baby" parties. They are almost the same as showers since most people bring the baby a gift. At regular showers some people (women) bring things for the new mother herself (book, bubble bath, new nightie, etc). They are a little different than bridal showers (which are probably close to 40% being co-ed) because of the nature of the discussions that go on.
We (my DD and I) just went to a baby shower for her friend. The women stayed at the house and the men went to the bar. lol