BFP #1 11/07/2012 EDD 07/09/2013 M/C 11/22/2012
BFP #2 02/05/2013 EDD 09/19/2013
Arrived via c-section 09/27/2013
MarlyAnderson said:Well, I guess I'm just asking about how I will be treated. I've heard a few different things. I've heard that pregnant women in the military are treated very poorly and called lots of names whether they are married or not, which I am. And I've also heard that some people get lots of support. I've also heard the maternity ABUs are hideous. Lol I've never seen them though.
Well, I guess I'm just asking about how I will be treated. I've heard a few different things. I've heard that pregnant women in the military are treated very poorly and called lots of names whether they are married or not, which I am. And I've also heard that some people get lots of support. I've also heard the maternity ABUs are hideous. Lol I've never seen them though.
The people I work with are excited for me, and are nervous alongside me (I had a miscarriage in December that most of them know about, so we are all keeping fingers crossed this time). My boss is also really excited and very willing to accommodate me with a flexible schedule, new duties, etc. I completely agree that if anyone at work treats you poorly because of pregnancy, you have a valid EO complaint.As for maternity ABUs? Yeah, absolutely hideous, as are all the maternity uniforms. The ABUs look like a giant grey tiger-striped camping tent. Seriously. Blues aren't any better. My plan is to stay in flight suits as long as I can, then normal ABUs a size up, then normal ABUs with bella band or maybe maternity pants with a regular ABU top, then full-on maternity ABUs, if I can hold out that long.
*HiS ChAmAoLe GiRL* said:
What do the regs say about mixing and matching normal uniforms and maternity uniforms? I am not being snarky, I am genuinely curious.
I've been Active Duty for 8 years and will continue until at least 20. I love my career and wouldn't want to do anything else. DH is also Active Duty.
We have a 2 year old and it's been great. She goes to the CDC on base, my command is super family friendly, and I got right back into shape within months of having her. It hasn't always been easy.
DH is currently deployed for 8+ months, but I also have friends and sitters who help out and my parents come down if I ever need to go TAD. I've been treated just fine. Lots of AD females get pregnant and have total support of their commands. Happens every day.
I checked into the mixing and matching...no specific reg, but our first shirt said not a good idea. It really is quite obvious, the difference between the regular pants and the prego ones. I am 15 weeks and have had no issues with anyone on the pregnancy. I actually just had my deployment tasking cancelled when I got pregnant, but at 34 and this is my first, after I have deployed 3 times and done a Korea tour, no one has made a comment about me not pulling my weight. We can't put our lives on hold completely. If u want kids, u should try, but also keep in mind the timing. Good luck everyone!
I'm with @k8augs and *His....I'm 32, and have been putting this off for too long because it wasnt a "good time." Screw that,it's time to do what's right for MY family and the AF can just deal with it.